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That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship  skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult. [/quote]

It ends up being a bullshit concept, but in fairness, it worked as a marketing tool because there was a grain of truth to it. Assholes in high school were legitimately more likely to have girlfriends than legitimately kind, funny, intelligent guys who were shy. For reasons having to do with socialization, women were less forthright about saying they wanted a guy who was strong, athletic, and good looking. So when asked about what they wanted in a guy, they'd say things like "kind" and "good sense of humor" -- when the hottest girls with the most options were obviously making looks and athletic ability a way higher priority. Also the jerks were more likely to be aggressive in asking girls out. Easier to go out with the jerk who makes the first move than for the girl to make the first move herself on a boy who was likely to treat her better but was shy.

As women mature, their tastes in men tend to mature as well. But those first impressions last -- so it looks like their preference is for aggressive athletic guys. Giving rise to the myth of Chad Thundercock the Alpha. [/quote]

Real talk, as a woman I don't know many women who truly only dated jerks or were into jerks as teens and young women, in my experience that's something of a myth. The few who did go through a jerk phase  had mental health or daddy issues.[/quote]

Maybe but plenty of those jerks identify as sweet liberal men who will gaslight the hell out of the women theyre with as well as use weaponized incompetence.  I'd much rather go with an alpha man who is supportive to his partner, defends her, and creates boundaries around her towards other men.  That's so much healthier and actgually not toxic at all 💜[/quote]

There's a lot wrong with your post, but Ill just pick this one , it's not your boyfriend or your husband's job to determine your boundaries.   [/quote]

And I never said it was. But they can create THEIR boundaries with other men.  And if I'm on the same page, they can enforce them.  It's awesome when your man actually does stuff for you, you should try it sometime  :P [/quote]

They don't have a right to create boundaries with other men when it comes to you, The woman/ wife./gf determines her own boundaries they can take it or leave it.

You'll enjoy being a woman and experiencing an adult relationship of mutual trust and respect when you get there.[/quote]

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