Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?

[Anonymous]

The woman with the non jealous husband thread devolved into a lot of name calling, but I’m curious. Is the idea that Alphas do get jealous and are territorial? I’m trying to think of the people I’ve dated. One Alpha guy was definitely jealous and did not like to discuss former relationships of mine.

As a woman do you prefer this?

[Anonymous]

Male drama queens

[Anonymous]

No, jealousy is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Jealous men may as well be women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The woman with the non jealous husband thread devolved into a lot of name calling, but I’m curious. Is the idea that Alphas do get jealous and are territorial? I’m trying to think of the people I’ve dated. One Alpha guy was definitely jealous and did not like to discuss former relationships of mine.

As a woman do you prefer this?

I've never discussed former relationships with my husband though he is aware of a couple of them. He knows I wasn't a virgin when we met and he's never probed about my sexual experience pre him. Truth be told it wasn't very good!

[Anonymous]

Oh god. I was married to an "alpha" - tall, athletic/muscular, wealthy, fantastic/prestigious career, women flocked to him. Most insecure person I've ever met and being married was a nightmare.

Know what's not fun? A spouse who demands to go through your work emails and throws a fit over emails with male co-workers that are too "friendly", as in they say "Hey Larlo" rather than "Dear Mr. Smith". Or who puff up and start figuratively pissing around the room to mark their territory. I remember once we took DS to the doctor and the doctor was a fairly attractive and personable male. xH started trying to boss him around, demand he do things, questioned everything he said, took an overall threatening and aggressive tone.

I find any sort of alpha or jealous behavior extremely off-putting and unattractive. After my divorce I refused to date anyone that exhibited those traits. Married a man who has never shown any jealousy and who most would consider "feminine" (artistic, sensitive, in touch with his emotions). Very, very happy now, and yes, we have tons of awesome sex.

[Anonymous]

Jealousy just shows a lack of confidence and the fear that someone better than you is bound to come along. That is not my husband!

[Anonymous]

I’m married to a pretty alpha man. He gets jealous, and I like it.

He doesn’t tell me not to talk to other men or get angry if someone is flirting with me, but he will walk up and put his arm around me if he sees me talking to another man. I think in the OP of the other thread, her husband asked the old boyfriend to get a beer. I could see my husband doing that, but his arm would be around me the whole time, and if we all went out together, he would sit right next to me and make it obvious that we are a couple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a pretty alpha man. He gets jealous, and I like it.

He doesn’t tell me not to talk to other men or get angry if someone is flirting with me, but he will walk up and put his arm around me if he sees me talking to another man. I think in the OP of the other thread, her husband asked the old boyfriend to get a beer. I could see my husband doing that, but his arm would be around me the whole time, and if we all went out together, he would sit right next to me and make it obvious that we are a couple.

Barf. He probably touches your butt in public too just to make sure everyone knows you guys have sex. Gross.

[Anonymous]

The only men who use the term “alpha” male are not one.

[Anonymous]

No. Jealousy leads to drama and fights. That’s the last thing you want after marriage and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh god. I was married to an "alpha" - tall, athletic/muscular, wealthy, fantastic/prestigious career, women flocked to him. Most insecure person I've ever met and being married was a nightmare.

Know what's not fun? A spouse who demands to go through your work emails and throws a fit over emails with male co-workers that are too "friendly", as in they say "Hey Larlo" rather than "Dear Mr. Smith". Or who puff up and start figuratively pissing around the room to mark their territory. I remember once we took DS to the doctor and the doctor was a fairly attractive and personable male. xH started trying to boss him around, demand he do things, questioned everything he said, took an overall threatening and aggressive tone.

I find any sort of alpha or jealous behavior extremely off-putting and unattractive. After my divorce I refused to date anyone that exhibited those traits. Married a man who has never shown any jealousy and who most would consider "feminine" (artistic, sensitive, in touch with his emotions). Very, very happy now, and yes, we have tons of awesome sex.

I had a male colleague who was married to a woman who did this. Lots of drama abs snooping. He was charming which probably caused some tension automatically and made things hard for both of them. In hindsight, I think they both got off on it

[Anonymous]

No way! An extremely high probability of ending up with an abuser. All the women I know who dated the "jealous" type eventually had to answer for any time they as much as look at another man. Some had to quit their jobs or ditch all their friends because their partner did not like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a pretty alpha man. He gets jealous, and I like it.

He doesn’t tell me not to talk to other men or get angry if someone is flirting with me, but he will walk up and put his arm around me if he sees me talking to another man. I think in the OP of the other thread, her husband asked the old boyfriend to get a beer. I could see my husband doing that, but his arm would be around me the whole time, and if we all went out together, he would sit right next to me and make it obvious that we are a couple.

Barf. He probably touches your butt in public too just to make sure everyone knows you guys have sex. Gross.

Barf x2. How insecure the two of you must be. And undereducated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh god. I was married to an "alpha" - tall, athletic/muscular, wealthy, fantastic/prestigious career, women flocked to him. Most insecure person I've ever met and being married was a nightmare.

Know what's not fun? A spouse who demands to go through your work emails and throws a fit over emails with male co-workers that are too "friendly", as in they say "Hey Larlo" rather than "Dear Mr. Smith". Or who puff up and start figuratively pissing around the room to mark their territory. I remember once we took DS to the doctor and the doctor was a fairly attractive and personable male. xH started trying to boss him around, demand he do things, questioned everything he said, took an overall threatening and aggressive tone.

I find any sort of alpha or jealous behavior extremely off-putting and unattractive. After my divorce I refused to date anyone that exhibited those traits. Married a man who has never shown any jealousy and who most would consider "feminine" (artistic, sensitive, in touch with his emotions). Very, very happy now, and yes, we have tons of awesome sex.

Hate to break it to you PP, but whatever you were married to, it was not an alpha male.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only men who use the term “alpha” male are not one.

Exactly. And women who use it are women who can't get one.