Wait do most alpha men get jealous and women like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, jealousy is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Jealous men may as well be women.

This

[Anonymous]

I dated an “alpha” man. He was incredibly insecure and as a result, jealous and didn’t trust me enough to navigate situations with men. My husband is neither alpha or beta, he’s just a secure, emotionally intelligent man that trusts me. Both BTW are tall, athletic, well endowed men so fit the traditional masculine man. Secure is sexy, jealousy is not. But I think women that may feel insecure or have misogynist views may like to have a partner that gets jealous.

[Anonymous]

Why does being tall come up so often with being alpha?
And what is considered tall? Dh is 6ft 1 in and I dont consider that tall. It's average in my family

[Anonymous]

You can be a confident guy and not be a d!ck. You can be short, middle-aged, slightly overweight and losing your hair like me and still be confident. You can be a introvert like me and still be confident. I wouldn't say I'm an alpha or a beta. To me those labels imply an extreme in behavior. Lots of guys are better looking than me and it doesn't bother me when my wife talks to a good looking guy because at the end of the day she still goes home with me. Sure I have insecurities about some things, but my wife talking to other guys is not one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a pretty alpha man. He gets jealous, and I like it.

He doesn’t tell me not to talk to other men or get angry if someone is flirting with me, but he will walk up and put his arm around me if he sees me talking to another man. I think in the OP of the other thread, her husband asked the old boyfriend to get a beer. I could see my husband doing that, but his arm would be around me the whole time, and if we all went out together, he would sit right next to me and make it obvious that we are a couple.

Barf. He probably touches your butt in public too just to make sure everyone knows you guys have sex. Gross.

Barf x2. How insecure the two of you must be. And undereducated.

PP here. That's fine. You can barf if you want to. But why insecure and undereducated?

[Anonymous]

Alpha male who had a total double standard. He could cheat and expect forgiveness, but if his wife even flirted with a guy got insanely jealous.

This is so common. And all of the married women married to betas want to cheat with the alphas because they aren’t attracted to and/or they’re betas won’t have sex with them anymore. The alpha wants his cake and eat it too. Lots of sex with his “high value wife” and anyone on the side to stoke his excessive ego and feel superior. They are all insecure inside.

[Anonymous]

This thread is weird.

[Anonymous]

In the age of Trump, the word alpha has been turned upside down. It used to mean a stoic masculinity, a leader, someone who was respectful but in charge.

Now, the doofuses on that other thread consider alpha like Trump, someone who insults people, weeks revenge on perceived enemies, brags about assaulting women and mocks the weak and handicap.

That's why a man who has the absolute confidence to buy an ex boyfriend a drink is weak but someone who causes a scene and makes the situation unbearable and uncomfortable is "total alpha"

The irony is that women don't find the Trump types either alpha or attractive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the age of Trump, the word alpha has been turned upside down. It used to mean a stoic masculinity, a leader, someone who was respectful but in charge.

Now, the doofuses on that other thread consider alpha like Trump, someone who insults people, weeks revenge on perceived enemies, brags about assaulting women and mocks the weak and handicap.

That's why a man who has the absolute confidence to buy an ex boyfriend a drink is weak but someone who causes a scene and makes the situation unbearable and uncomfortable is "total alpha"

The irony is that women don't find the Trump types either alpha or attractive

Agree, it’s totally bizarre what people think is “alpha”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the age of Trump, the word alpha has been turned upside down. It used to mean a stoic masculinity, a leader, someone who was respectful but in charge.

Now, the doofuses on that other thread consider alpha like Trump, someone who insults people, weeks revenge on perceived enemies, brags about assaulting women and mocks the weak and handicap.

That's why a man who has the absolute confidence to buy an ex boyfriend a drink is weak but someone who causes a scene and makes the situation unbearable and uncomfortable is "total alpha"

The irony is that women don't find the Trump types either alpha or attractive

That idea of “alpha” has been around long before Trump. I remember reading about it online 20+ years ago. It was basically taken by men who lacked social and relationship skills to explain why they struggled with females. Instead of looking at themselves or recognizing that maybe that particular hot female they’d been lusting after just wasn’t interested and it’s nothing personal, it was easier to come up with the stereotype that women only want “alphas”, who are tall, muscular, rich, a-holes, etc. Because it’s easier to blame external factors (“women only like a-holes but I’m a nice guy and refuse to stoop to their level!”) rather than look at yourself and recognize maybe most women don’t want a guy who washes his hair once a week, watches anime all day, and does weird things around her family/friends. And it’s a lot easier to blame women for, say, only wanting tall men since they can’t grow taller, but facing the fact that they have poor leadership skills or can’t handle challenges or lack social skills is a lot more difficult.

[Anonymous]

My alpha DH is never jealous. I thought that was the characters of an alpha…confident etc

[Anonymous]

I am totally secure in my relationship with my attractive wife. I have no fears of her running off with some other guy, or even cheating on me. I'm not about to show any jealous behavior around other clumsy guys, or even former lovers of hers. Guys that are inappropriate are a different story and I will put them in their place, as diplomatically as possible depending on the situation. I get a kick out of seeing a guy trying to get a good look at her, while not being too obvious (he always is) with me. Hey, that is guy is jealous of me. I have her, he doesn't. I'm sure as hell not going to get jealous over any man who is delusional enough to think he has a shot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a pretty alpha man. He gets jealous, and I like it.

He doesn’t tell me not to talk to other men or get angry if someone is flirting with me, but he will walk up and put his arm around me if he sees me talking to another man. I think in the OP of the other thread, her husband asked the old boyfriend to get a beer. I could see my husband doing that, but his arm would be around me the whole time, and if we all went out together, he would sit right next to me and make it obvious that we are a couple.

Your husband sounds incredibly insecure. Do you have a promiscuous history that would lead him to act like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am totally secure in my relationship with my attractive wife. I have no fears of her running off with some other guy, or even cheating on me. I'm not about to show any jealous behavior around other clumsy guys, or even former lovers of hers. Guys that are inappropriate are a different story and I will put them in their place, as diplomatically as possible depending on the situation. I get a kick out of seeing a guy trying to get a good look at her, while not being too obvious (he always is) with me. Hey, that is guy is jealous of me. I have her, he doesn't. I'm sure he's thinking, why the hell is SHE with THAT GUY. I'm sure as hell not going to get jealous over any man who is delusional enough to think he has a shot.

ETA, I could see myself buying her former lover a beer, after being introduced. That's Beta behavior? No, Beta behavior is feeling threatened by that guy, or any man, and thinking you show your manliness by puffing out your insecure chest and making a scene, or taking it our on her later. The PP poster is right. A true Alpha man never even uses that word. It's ridiculous. I'll be the one laughing with her about that guy later on, or even asking about their relationship if I'm curious.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read the other thread but I do like "alpha" guys; sue me 🤷‍♀️
I don't think jealousy is necessarily a bad thing in small doses. I'm human; I get jealous at times. So does my DH. Had nothing to do with a lack of education.