DH is never jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been with him for a quarter of a century. I can tell you he is very confident. So much so that it pisses me off. He thinks he can do anything. He thinks he is great looking (he is decent but he over inflates his looks). Physically he thinks he is so ao strong. Maybe if you have not dealt with this....you wouldn't understand.

If he was insecure, I would have picked up on it.

When other men talk to me...it's as if he thinks they wouldn't stand a chance because he is so much better

Op, I am like your DH. Tall, attractive (I probably think i am better looking than I am 😃). It doesn't bother me if my wife talks with other men or goes out with them solo. I trust her and I definitely have the "she isn't doing better than me" attitude.

There are a lot of insecure incels on here projecting on your DH and guys like me. We just aren't the jealous type. And it's not necessarily a great trait, I have had many women who I have dated tell me it feels like I don't care if they stay or go. The truth is, of course I love my wife but I would be fine on the dating market if single. That's probably the vibe your DH gives. Some women find it sexy, others feel the need to be possessed. We are not for everyone

OP here. Yes...this is exactly like my husband.

Curious, does your wife ever get jealous?

I don't know if jealous is the word as much as threatened. She probably picks up on women hitting on me faster than I do and can get pissy or protective. But she is not controlling and if I am out on guys night till 2 am it's not an issue.

As for me, and maybe your DH, he absolutely loves you but is probably not wired like those romance novel heroines who would burn a city down to be with you but would give you a kidney, if they makes sense.

Perhaps it's a combination of practical that there is no such thing as the one and confidence they can find another.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been with him for a quarter of a century. I can tell you he is very confident. So much so that it pisses me off. He thinks he can do anything. He thinks he is great looking (he is decent but he over inflates his looks). Physically he thinks he is so ao strong. Maybe if you have not dealt with this....you wouldn't understand.

If he was insecure, I would have picked up on it.

When other men talk to me...it's as if he thinks they wouldn't stand a chance because he is so much better

Op, I am like your DH. Tall, attractive (I probably think i am better looking than I am 😃). It doesn't bother me if my wife talks with other men or goes out with them solo. I trust her and I definitely have the "she isn't doing better than me" attitude.

There are a lot of insecure incels on here projecting on your DH and guys like me. We just aren't the jealous type. And it's not necessarily a great trait, I have had many women who I have dated tell me it feels like I don't care if they stay or go. The truth is, of course I love my wife but I would be fine on the dating market if single. That's probably the vibe your DH gives. Some women find it sexy, others feel the need to be possessed. We are not for everyone

OP here. Yes...this is exactly like my husband.

Curious, does your wife ever get jealous?

I don't know if jealous is the word as much as threatened. She probably picks up on women hitting on me faster than I do and can get pissy or protective. But she is not controlling and if I am out on guys night till 2 am it's not an issue.

As for me, and maybe your DH, he absolutely loves you but is probably not wired like those romance novel heroines who would burn a city down to be with you but would give you a kidney, if they makes sense.

Perhaps it's a combination of practical that there is no such thing as the one and confidence they can find another.

I think it's a good dose of complacency and being sure that theyre unable to compete.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been with him for a quarter of a century. I can tell you he is very confident. So much so that it pisses me off. He thinks he can do anything. He thinks he is great looking (he is decent but he over inflates his looks). Physically he thinks he is so ao strong. Maybe if you have not dealt with this....you wouldn't understand.

If he was insecure, I would have picked up on it.

When other men talk to me...it's as if he thinks they wouldn't stand a chance because he is so much better

Op, I am like your DH. Tall, attractive (I probably think i am better looking than I am 😃). It doesn't bother me if my wife talks with other men or goes out with them solo. I trust her and I definitely have the "she isn't doing better than me" attitude.

There are a lot of insecure incels on here projecting on your DH and guys like me. We just aren't the jealous type. And it's not necessarily a great trait, I have had many women who I have dated tell me it feels like I don't care if they stay or go. The truth is, of course I love my wife but I would be fine on the dating market if single. That's probably the vibe your DH gives. Some women find it sexy, others feel the need to be possessed. We are not for everyone

OP here. Yes...this is exactly like my husband.

Curious, does your wife ever get jealous?

I don't know if jealous is the word as much as threatened. She probably picks up on women hitting on me faster than I do and can get pissy or protective. But she is not controlling and if I am out on guys night till 2 am it's not an issue.

As for me, and maybe your DH, he absolutely loves you but is probably not wired like those romance novel heroines who would burn a city down to be with you but would give you a kidney, if they makes sense.

Perhaps it's a combination of practical that there is no such thing as the one and confidence they can find another.

OP here. This makes total sense. How do you feel when she gets jealous/ threatened? Do you find it flattering or do you not understand it.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been with him for a quarter of a century. I can tell you he is very confident. So much so that it pisses me off. He thinks he can do anything. He thinks he is great looking (he is decent but he over inflates his looks). Physically he thinks he is so ao strong. Maybe if you have not dealt with this....you wouldn't understand.

If he was insecure, I would have picked up on it.

When other men talk to me...it's as if he thinks they wouldn't stand a chance because he is so much better

Op, I am like your DH. Tall, attractive (I probably think i am better looking than I am 😃). It doesn't bother me if my wife talks with other men or goes out with them solo. I trust her and I definitely have the "she isn't doing better than me" attitude.

There are a lot of insecure incels on here projecting on your DH and guys like me. We just aren't the jealous type. And it's not necessarily a great trait, I have had many women who I have dated tell me it feels like I don't care if they stay or go. The truth is, of course I love my wife but I would be fine on the dating market if single. That's probably the vibe your DH gives. Some women find it sexy, others feel the need to be possessed. We are not for everyone

OP here. Yes...this is exactly like my husband.

Curious, does your wife ever get jealous?

I don't know if jealous is the word as much as threatened. She probably picks up on women hitting on me faster than I do and can get pissy or protective. But she is not controlling and if I am out on guys night till 2 am it's not an issue.

As for me, and maybe your DH, he absolutely loves you but is probably not wired like those romance novel heroines who would burn a city down to be with you but would give you a kidney, if they makes sense.

Perhaps it's a combination of practical that there is no such thing as the one and confidence they can find another.

I think it's a good dose of complacency and being sure that theyre unable to compete.

Go away loser

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Anonymous wrote:I am truly stunned that people think that not being jealous is a bad thing. So many incels here.

I am shocked that so many men delusionally thought their incel, beta behavior would ever be attractive. Sucking up to other men who had their d*** sucked by their wife? I mean- just cringe 😬

you are assuming

LOL. Unless they were two virgins I certainly am not. Hello!

I have slept with guys without doing that

Okay.. and? His d*** was still all up inside you

Beta boy is really bothered by women having sex.

Women having sex with another man SHOULD bother any sane husband. Anyway, that's why youve been called a beta on multiple threads now. Keep coping.

.why would it? Most women are not virgins when they marry.

I really cant explain to you the basic human instincts when youre clearly so far removed from them and act more like an autistic and asexual robot. So pathetic.

Lol. You sound incredibly insecure.

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Anonymous wrote:I am truly stunned that people think that not being jealous is a bad thing. So many incels here.

I am shocked that so many men delusionally thought their incel, beta behavior would ever be attractive. Sucking up to other men who had their d*** sucked by their wife? I mean- just cringe 😬

you are assuming

LOL. Unless they were two virgins I certainly am not. Hello!

I have slept with guys without doing that

Okay.. and? His d*** was still all up inside you

Beta boy is really bothered by women having sex.

Women having sex with another man SHOULD bother any sane husband. Anyway, that's why youve been called a beta on multiple threads now. Keep coping.

.why would it? Most women are not virgins when they marry.

I really cant explain to you the basic human instincts when youre clearly so far removed from them and act more like an autistic and asexual robot. So pathetic.

Lol. You sound incredibly insecure.

LOL. Keep projecting

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been with him for a quarter of a century. I can tell you he is very confident. So much so that it pisses me off. He thinks he can do anything. He thinks he is great looking (he is decent but he over inflates his looks). Physically he thinks he is so ao strong. Maybe if you have not dealt with this....you wouldn't understand.

If he was insecure, I would have picked up on it.

When other men talk to me...it's as if he thinks they wouldn't stand a chance because he is so much better

Op, I am like your DH. Tall, attractive (I probably think i am better looking than I am 😃). It doesn't bother me if my wife talks with other men or goes out with them solo. I trust her and I definitely have the "she isn't doing better than me" attitude.

There are a lot of insecure incels on here projecting on your DH and guys like me. We just aren't the jealous type. And it's not necessarily a great trait, I have had many women who I have dated tell me it feels like I don't care if they stay or go. The truth is, of course I love my wife but I would be fine on the dating market if single. That's probably the vibe your DH gives. Some women find it sexy, others feel the need to be possessed. We are not for everyone

OP here. Yes...this is exactly like my husband.

Curious, does your wife ever get jealous?

I don't know if jealous is the word as much as threatened. She probably picks up on women hitting on me faster than I do and can get pissy or protective. But she is not controlling and if I am out on guys night till 2 am it's not an issue.

As for me, and maybe your DH, he absolutely loves you but is probably not wired like those romance novel heroines who would burn a city down to be with you but would give you a kidney, if they makes sense.

Perhaps it's a combination of practical that there is no such thing as the one and confidence they can find another.

I think it's a good dose of complacency and being sure that theyre unable to compete.

Go away loser

Take your own advice, sad failure.

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This is like me with DH. I’ve just never felt jealous. He’s good looking and women have hit on him and checked him out but it doesn’t bother me. I guess I trust him and know how much he loves me. If he cheated then I would be but I’d mostly be angry and hurt.

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Anonymous wrote:This is like me with DH. I’ve just never felt jealous. He’s good looking and women have hit on him and checked him out but it doesn’t bother me. I guess I trust him and know how much he loves me. If he cheated then I would be but I’d mostly be angry and hurt.

This is very typical feminine energy and perfectly normal 🙏🏻 biologically speaking

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Jealousy is the sign of a controlling a$$hole. One of the reasons I divorced my ex was b/c she was extremely jealous. Every woman in my life was a threat to her and mes to extreme levels of paranoia. She once called a co-worker of mine and accused her of f**king me and telling her - she was AA - to find other white men. It was awful.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been with him for a quarter of a century. I can tell you he is very confident. So much so that it pisses me off. He thinks he can do anything. He thinks he is great looking (he is decent but he over inflates his looks). Physically he thinks he is so ao strong. Maybe if you have not dealt with this....you wouldn't understand.

If he was insecure, I would have picked up on it.

When other men talk to me...it's as if he thinks they wouldn't stand a chance because he is so much better

Op, I am like your DH. Tall, attractive (I probably think i am better looking than I am 😃). It doesn't bother me if my wife talks with other men or goes out with them solo. I trust her and I definitely have the "she isn't doing better than me" attitude.

There are a lot of insecure incels on here projecting on your DH and guys like me. We just aren't the jealous type. And it's not necessarily a great trait, I have had many women who I have dated tell me it feels like I don't care if they stay or go. The truth is, of course I love my wife but I would be fine on the dating market if single. That's probably the vibe your DH gives. Some women find it sexy, others feel the need to be possessed. We are not for everyone

OP here. Yes...this is exactly like my husband.

Curious, does your wife ever get jealous?

I don't know if jealous is the word as much as threatened. She probably picks up on women hitting on me faster than I do and can get pissy or protective. But she is not controlling and if I am out on guys night till 2 am it's not an issue.

As for me, and maybe your DH, he absolutely loves you but is probably not wired like those romance novel heroines who would burn a city down to be with you but would give you a kidney, if they makes sense.

Perhaps it's a combination of practical that there is no such thing as the one and confidence they can find another.

OP here. This makes total sense. How do you feel when she gets jealous/ threatened? Do you find it flattering or do you not understand it.

I understand it but I do not find it flattering. I would not want to be married to someone controlling or insecure about our relationship.

If she wants to show flattering behavior, the bedroom is the place for that.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I know this is a good thing. But we have been married 23 years and I have never seen him be jealous. I'm curious if this is normal? It's bit annoying.

When we bumped into my ex...he bought him a drink.
When a guy hits on me (not recent), he was never jealous or bothered.

Sounds like he's a beta male. Is he physically weak? Could most men beat him in a fight? Is he weak, small, short, shrimpy, or overweight?

Is he mentally/emotionally beta? Does he desperately seek out the approval of other men?

I think that's probably what it is. He knows he'll lose in a fight and he values the approval of other dudes over his woman. Textbook beta

I call troll. Otherwise this person is seriously naive and immature. Your husband sounds confident, secure and emotionally intelligent.

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Anonymous wrote:Jealousy is the sign of a controlling a$$hole. One of the reasons I divorced my ex was b/c she was extremely jealous. Every woman in my life was a threat to her and mes to extreme levels of paranoia. She once called a co-worker of mine and accused her of f**king me and telling her - she was AA - to find other white men. It was awful.

There's a difference between "extreme levels of paranoia" and "no jealousy whatsoever" which is a sign of something emotionally off, or someone not caring about you (or themselves). If your wife literally could not care less if you slept with someone else, or wanted to buy drinks for your exgirlfriend... well, she probably is either extremely emotionally disregulated or just doesnt give AF about you, perhaps because she's too absorbed with herself to be capable of love. Either way- no bueno.

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Anonymous wrote:I am same as your husband. I am 6'4", 235lb and former college hockey player.

I am just not sexually insecure and not really sexually jealous either. I suppose it possible my wife could cheat but I wouldn't take it personally. I am good in bed and have no shortage of women I could revenge with

Where did you play?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I have been with him for a quarter of a century. I can tell you he is very confident. So much so that it pisses me off. He thinks he can do anything. He thinks he is great looking (he is decent but he over inflates his looks). Physically he thinks he is so ao strong. Maybe if you have not dealt with this....you wouldn't understand.

If he was insecure, I would have picked up on it.

When other men talk to me...it's as if he thinks they wouldn't stand a chance because he is so much better

Op, I am like your DH. Tall, attractive (I probably think i am better looking than I am 😃). It doesn't bother me if my wife talks with other men or goes out with them solo. I trust her and I definitely have the "she isn't doing better than me" attitude.

There are a lot of insecure incels on here projecting on your DH and guys like me. We just aren't the jealous type. And it's not necessarily a great trait, I have had many women who I have dated tell me it feels like I don't care if they stay or go. The truth is, of course I love my wife but I would be fine on the dating market if single. That's probably the vibe your DH gives. Some women find it sexy, others feel the need to be possessed. We are not for everyone

OP again. Once when we were engaged I almost broke up with him due to his parents...and he was sad but was like -- do what makes you happy. Ge would have been fine. It pisses me off....like I would like my husband to make me feel like I am the centre of his universe. And he is okay either way.

My ex-H was the same way. Then he cheated on me with men. There truly weren't many signs. Just a couple little things like this that would've been crazy for me to jump to "he's gay!" And yet... But this will fall on deaf ears, just like I never would've believed it possible of my ex.