Be honest, is this why 3 kids seems to be the new magic number?

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:That's not the reason. I know families with no duds, families with all duds, families where the kids hate each other or hate the parents.

It's just a status thing, showing you can afford three kids. It has a try-hard vibe.

+1

No reason to have three or more kids in this day and age.

I had a third because I wasn't actually infertile. Please shut up with your stupid opinions

Why not have twenty then, if it’s about your fertility.

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This thread is fascinating

[Anonymous]

OP your friends are lying to you. Three kids is a status symbol. Three kids means you are showing you can afford a bigger car, bigger house, etc...

Move to McLean, people we know are on their 4th kids!

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It's about showing how wealthy they are.

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Anonymous wrote:That's why I have 5 kids. I'm winning at evolution

And killing our planet. Good job.

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Anonymous wrote:That's why I have 5 kids. I'm winning at evolution

And killing our planet. Good job.

That's not really fair. Maybe her 5th child will be a scientist who solves climate change.

People are not having kids because it's a status symbol - that is crazy. They like being parents!

[Anonymous]

I think you should spend less time with these women, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's not the reason. I know families with no duds, families with all duds, families where the kids hate each other or hate the parents.

It's just a status thing, showing you can afford three kids. It has a try-hard vibe.

+1

No reason to have three or more kids in this day and age.

I had a third because I wasn't actually infertile. Please shut up with your stupid opinions

Seriously? Well, aren't you just a ray of sunshine? I would suggest you shut up with your obtuse, insensitive comments. BTW - "not being infertile" is not an accomplishment you moron - it is simply your biology and reflective of nothing. If this is something you pride yourself on you are really reaching.......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's not the reason. I know families with no duds, families with all duds, families where the kids hate each other or hate the parents.

It's just a status thing, showing you can afford three kids. It has a try-hard vibe.

+1

No reason to have three or more kids in this day and age.

I had a third because I wasn't actually infertile. Please shut up with your stupid opinions

Seriously? Well, aren't you just a ray of sunshine? I would suggest you shut up with your obtuse, insensitive comments. BTW - "not being infertile" is not an accomplishment you moron - it is simply your biology and reflective of nothing. If this is something you pride yourself on you are really reaching.......

Calm TF down. I meant I had an OOPS baby after being told I was infertile. Take a freaking xanax

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's not the reason. I know families with no duds, families with all duds, families where the kids hate each other or hate the parents.

It's just a status thing, showing you can afford three kids. It has a try-hard vibe.

+1

No reason to have three or more kids in this day and age.

I had a third because I wasn't actually infertile. Please shut up with your stupid opinions

Why not have twenty then, if it’s about your fertility.

The kid was an accident you jagoff not a status symbol

[Anonymous]

This confirms my belief that people who intentionally have more than 2 children are nuts or stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met a group of friends for brunch over the weekend. One mentioned that she and her husband were trying for baby # 3. Another woman said she couldn’t imagine adding a third so that kids outnumbered parents.

The woman planning to add a third said “oh, you have to have at least 3 these days just in case.” Just in case?? I’m childfree and literally blurted that out because it sounded so terrible to me. Another mom friend piped up that that was why she had 3. She claimed that if you think about people we know who grew up in the 90s, most are duo siblings, and at least one sibling is a dud.

I really thought about it… and she’s not totally wrong. Just looking at my family where each aunt & uncle set had 2 kids each, in all except 2 pairs, one cousin is successful and the other is a so-called dud.

These two made such a convincing argument that the one friend who said she couldn’t imagine having a 3rd is now going to discuss it with her husband. What???

Basically the women who are pro-3 kids said that if you have 3, when one is a “dud” you still have 2 great ones left to count on later in life. Or if something terrible happens, like a school shooting, your kid isn’t left an only child with all the pressure.

But ever since brunch, all I'm noticing is parents out with THREE kids. They're everywhere! Do I need new friends or is this a real thing/thought process for parents?

Your friends sound dumb.

A lot of people have 3 kids for various reasons and “because one of the kids might be a dud” is definitely not a common reason. If having a dud was a big concern then why have any any kids at all?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's not the reason. I know families with no duds, families with all duds, families where the kids hate each other or hate the parents.

It's just a status thing, showing you can afford three kids. It has a try-hard vibe.

+1

No reason to have three or more kids in this day and age.

I had a third because I wasn't actually infertile. Please shut up with your stupid opinions

Why not have twenty then, if it’s about your fertility.

The kid was an accident you jagoff not a status symbol

And you’re telling other people to take a Xanax?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP your friends are lying to you. Three kids is a status symbol. Three kids means you are showing you can afford a bigger car, bigger house, etc...

Move to McLean, people we know are on their 4th kids!

We have 3 kids and our family only has one car (a minivan) and a modest house (2 kids share a room). So I’m not sure we are screaming “status symbol.” Granted, we live close-in in a walkable neighborhood and prioritized location over a big house (so I guess I’m more status conscious about living in a desirable zip code than just having a McMansion in a generic burb). Do you like how I wove in another common DCUM battle to this thread?

But seriously, at the end of the day, we’ve made trade offs like everyone and 3 is the number of kids we really wanted. It never crossed my mind that having a third kid would be a status thing because our friends with 1 or 2 kids have an easier time getting a sitter, traveling, etc. Having three kids isn’t the most glamorous lifestyle unless you mean the people who outsource everything to an army of nannies. I guess there is a youth factor we have though in that I am 6 years younger than DH, so we had time for a third kid whereas his friends with same aged wives had their second later in life than I had my third. But again, I don’t see this as some huge flex. A part of me is jealous they’re out of the diaper and napping stage!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This confirms my belief that people who intentionally have more than 2 children are nuts or stupid.

Yeah it's not the people jumping to conclusions about stranger's motivation on the internet. Status symbol?? A child? Who in the world thinks like that?