Be honest, is this why 3 kids seems to be the new magic number?
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I met a group of friends for brunch over the weekend. One mentioned that she and her husband were trying for baby # 3. Another woman said she couldn’t imagine adding a third so that kids outnumbered parents.
The woman planning to add a third said “oh, you have to have at least 3 these days just in case.” Just in case?? I’m childfree and literally blurted that out because it sounded so terrible to me. Another mom friend piped up that that was why she had 3. She claimed that if you think about people we know who grew up in the 90s, most are duo siblings, and at least one sibling is a dud. I really thought about it… and she’s not totally wrong. Just looking at my family where each aunt & uncle set had 2 kids each, in all except 2 pairs, one cousin is successful and the other is a so-called dud. These two made such a convincing argument that the one friend who said she couldn’t imagine having a 3rd is now going to discuss it with her husband. What??? Basically the women who are pro-3 kids said that if you have 3, when one is a “dud” you still have 2 great ones left to count on later in life. Or if something terrible happens, like a school shooting, your kid isn’t left an only child with all the pressure. But ever since brunch, all I'm noticing is parents out with THREE kids. They're everywhere! Do I need new friends or is this a real thing/thought process for parents? |
Anonymous
| I feel dumber for having read this. |
Anonymous
| That has always been the reasoning. It's not new. |
Anonymous
You deserve it. Why continue reading after you realized it was dumb? |
Anonymous
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Why do you need two non-duds and not just one?
Mom of one. I fully see arguments for 2 but this argument for 3 doesn’t make any sense. |
Anonymous
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2 heirs and a spare?
The first commandment in the Bible is go forth and multiply That's a good enough reason for me! |
Anonymous
| That's why I have 5 kids. I'm winning at evolution |
Anonymous
| If the three kids are spaced too close together they usually end up fighting all the time, which is why we didn't have three kids. But I do see the point. |
Anonymous
| I'd consider three if I could afford them and hire someone else to take care of them. |
Anonymous
| I'm pregnant with my 3rd and this reasoning has never occurred to me and sounds deranged. |
Anonymous
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Maybe they have three because you can’t trust men to buy condoms or pull out in time.
That’s probably what they didn’t want to tell you. |
Anonymous
| This is the dumbest thing I've read on DCUM. |
Anonymous
| Three is just a status symbol in a high COL area. |
Anonymous
| Trendy... it cycles from 2-5. |
Anonymous
| The thinking about having back up kids in case of duds or early death is valid but the magical number is 4 so you're not stuck with a middle child |