Be honest, is this why 3 kids seems to be the new magic number?

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Anonymous wrote:What about the converse? I have two smart and beautiful little boys and I am way too afraid to have another because who hits the jackpot three times? Yes I have severe anxiety.

See that's sweet. I feel like I have the greatest kid ever so I stopped at one!

This is my husband's reasoning for wanting to stop at one.

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99% percentile has nothing to do with anything. I got a perfect score on every standardized test. I was still a problem for my parents and according to my early life testing, My results definitely make me a dud!

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Just me and my sister. No duds. Same with DH and his two sibs.

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Anonymous wrote:That's why I have 5 kids. I'm winning at evolution

You might have three duds.

The right way:

Have one. Is s/he a dud? If yes, have a second.

So on and so forth.

- signed the baby of the family

I don't know anyone with 10 duds. Worth it to have 10 just to have one to carry on the family legacy.

If it takes 10 kids to get a non-dud, your family legacy is actually DUD.

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My good friend is one of 5, and neither she nor any of her siblings married or had kids. Her parents died without having any grandchildren.
I doubt they had 5 to ensure grandchildren. If they did, well, maybe that’s karma.

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So what is the definition of a dud?
Anyone who doesn't end up UMC?

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Anonymous wrote:So what is the definition of a dud?
Anyone who doesn't end up UMC?

Not umc and doesn't have any kids

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Anonymous wrote:Three is just a status symbol in a high COL area.

+1

+2 the really status-obsessed families I know in this area generally have 3 kids. It’s definitely a thing. Of course, I know plenty of families, even the majority of families, with 1 or 2 kids as well. But 3 kids means you met your husband/wife early enough in life and you were both healthy enough where 3 was even an option; it means you’re financially secure enough to afford child care and activities for 3 kids; it means you probably have a bigger house to accommodate everyone. It’s a status symbol for some people for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:I met a group of friends for brunch over the weekend. One mentioned that she and her husband were trying for baby # 3. Another woman said she couldn’t imagine adding a third so that kids outnumbered parents.

The woman planning to add a third said “oh, you have to have at least 3 these days just in case.” Just in case?? I’m childfree and literally blurted that out because it sounded so terrible to me. Another mom friend piped up that that was why she had 3. She claimed that if you think about people we know who grew up in the 90s, most are duo siblings, and at least one sibling is a dud.

I really thought about it… and she’s not totally wrong. Just looking at my family where each aunt & uncle set had 2 kids each, in all except 2 pairs, one cousin is successful and the other is a so-called dud.

These two made such a convincing argument that the one friend who said she couldn’t imagine having a 3rd is now going to discuss it with her husband. What???

Basically the women who are pro-3 kids said that if you have 3, when one is a “dud” you still have 2 great ones left to count on later in life. Or if something terrible happens, like a school shooting, your kid isn’t left an only child with all the pressure.

But ever since brunch, all I'm noticing is parents out with THREE kids. They're everywhere! Do I need new friends or is this a real thing/thought process for parents?

This is the stupidiest thing I've ever read. Please lord.

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See, my feeling has always been that the more kids you have, the more likely it is for one to be a dud

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Anonymous wrote:So what is the definition of a dud?
Anyone who doesn't end up UMC?

I assume the long term “failure to launch” types. Below average jobs, single for a long time, no kids, finances not great.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three is just a status symbol in a high COL area.

+1

+2 the really status-obsessed families I know in this area generally have 3 kids. It’s definitely a thing. Of course, I know plenty of families, even the majority of families, with 1 or 2 kids as well. But 3 kids means you met your husband/wife early enough in life and you were both healthy enough where 3 was even an option; it means you’re financially secure enough to afford child care and activities for 3 kids; it means you probably have a bigger house to accommodate everyone. It’s a status symbol for some people for sure.

This is so weird. Only on DCUM have I ever heard this. Most affluent families that I know have two or less. We families with three seem to have LESS disposable income so definitely not a status thing. I think that the only people that see “status” in kid # are perhaps those who are insecure about their own.

Or is this a status thing among conservative families? Admittedly, I don’t know too many of those

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Anonymous wrote:I definitely wanted more than one kid because my brother died when we were kids.

So sorry for your loss. Hugs, PP

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We have 3 because we love children and wanted a big family. In prior centuries we likely would have had a huge family. But now days you can’t afford as many. 3 makes us feel that our family is large still. I love loud households, newborns, just everything about having kids.

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Anonymous wrote:That's not the reason. I know families with no duds, families with all duds, families where the kids hate each other or hate the parents.

It's just a status thing, showing you can afford three kids. It has a try-hard vibe.

+1

No reason to have three or more kids in this day and age.

I had a third because I wasn't actually infertile. Please shut up with your stupid opinions