Are There Any Red Flags Here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMFG the responses on this thread!

She is just trying to be healthy!

OP, back off. Don't try to control her eating and exercise habits when everything you describe is perfectly healthy. You say she isn't eating oreos? That is not a problem.

+1. I can understand if there is a genetic tendency you may need to intervene early, but I think expressing concern and getting a therapy evaluation for a kid who won't eat processed junk which has no value whatsoever, who will bake and eat some of what she bakes, who exercises regularly, even if it's a solitary exercise and like most girls her age has been influenced by the media and peers to care about appearance....then you risk her deciding you are no longer safe and she needs to lie. She'll just throw out the cookie you packed instead of telling you she wants to reduce sugar. She'll tell you the only reasons she exercises is for health, when it is totally normal even for that age group to care about looking fit and trim too.

The bottom line is you need to look at whether or not your daughter is a danger to her health right now. I can assure you avoiding processed foods, being a health weight, exercising daily and wanting to stick with health foods is not a jeopardy to her current health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMFG the responses on this thread!

She is just trying to be healthy!

OP, back off. Don't try to control her eating and exercise habits when everything you describe is perfectly healthy. You say she isn't eating oreos? That is not a problem.

+1. I can understand if there is a genetic tendency you may need to intervene early, but I think expressing concern and getting a therapy evaluation for a kid who won't eat processed junk which has no value whatsoever, who will bake and eat some of what she bakes, who exercises regularly, even if it's a solitary exercise and like most girls her age has been influenced by the media and peers to care about appearance....then you risk her deciding you are no longer safe and she needs to lie. She'll just throw out the cookie you packed instead of telling you she wants to reduce sugar. She'll tell you the only reasons she exercises is for health, when it is totally normal even for that age group to care about looking fit and trim too.

The bottom line is you need to look at whether or not your daughter is a danger to her health right now. I can assure you avoiding processed foods, being a health weight, exercising daily and wanting to stick with health foods is not a jeopardy to her current health.

I can assure you?? Ok, Dr. all knowing.

It’s not so good for the mental health of an 11 year old to be restricting and so focused on food rules and diet culture. Those are the red flags.

So many responses here are supporting the idea people are supposed to live by unnecessarily strict and self punishing food rules.

[Anonymous]

Kids emulate what they see. I have scrawny 12 yo boy who asks when he will look like an mma fighter.
I tell him not until he is 24 and graduated from MIT.

MMA fighter body may be more realistic, but he is working hard to get accepted to MIT. Got to have goals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMFG the responses on this thread!

She is just trying to be healthy!

OP, back off. Don't try to control her eating and exercise habits when everything you describe is perfectly healthy. You say she isn't eating oreos? That is not a problem.

+1. I can understand if there is a genetic tendency you may need to intervene early, but I think expressing concern and getting a therapy evaluation for a kid who won't eat processed junk which has no value whatsoever, who will bake and eat some of what she bakes, who exercises regularly, even if it's a solitary exercise and like most girls her age has been influenced by the media and peers to care about appearance....then you risk her deciding you are no longer safe and she needs to lie. She'll just throw out the cookie you packed instead of telling you she wants to reduce sugar. She'll tell you the only reasons she exercises is for health, when it is totally normal even for that age group to care about looking fit and trim too.

The bottom line is you need to look at whether or not your daughter is a danger to her health right now. I can assure you avoiding processed foods, being a health weight, exercising daily and wanting to stick with health foods is not a jeopardy to her current health.

I can assure you?? Ok, Dr. all knowing.

It’s not so good for the mental health of an 11 year old to be restricting and so focused on food rules and diet culture. Those are the red flags.

So many responses here are supporting the idea people are supposed to live by unnecessarily strict and self punishing food rules.

Restricting is used in the clinical sense for someone eating too few calories or eliminating food groups we need for our health. Reducing sugar and not eating Doritos is a good thing and not a clinical issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMFG the responses on this thread!

She is just trying to be healthy!

OP, back off. Don't try to control her eating and exercise habits when everything you describe is perfectly healthy. You say she isn't eating oreos? That is not a problem.

+1. I can understand if there is a genetic tendency you may need to intervene early, but I think expressing concern and getting a therapy evaluation for a kid who won't eat processed junk which has no value whatsoever, who will bake and eat some of what she bakes, who exercises regularly, even if it's a solitary exercise and like most girls her age has been influenced by the media and peers to care about appearance....then you risk her deciding you are no longer safe and she needs to lie. She'll just throw out the cookie you packed instead of telling you she wants to reduce sugar. She'll tell you the only reasons she exercises is for health, when it is totally normal even for that age group to care about looking fit and trim too.

The bottom line is you need to look at whether or not your daughter is a danger to her health right now. I can assure you avoiding processed foods, being a health weight, exercising daily and wanting to stick with health foods is not a jeopardy to her current health.

I can assure you?? Ok, Dr. all knowing.

It’s not so good for the mental health of an 11 year old to be restricting and so focused on food rules and diet culture. Those are the red flags.

So many responses here are supporting the idea people are supposed to live by unnecessarily strict and self punishing food rules.

Restricting is used in the clinical sense for someone eating too few calories or eliminating food groups we need for our health. Reducing sugar and not eating Doritos is a good thing and not a clinical issue.

Totally untrue.

- mom of child with anorexia.