WDYD with a teen party with alcohol?

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you parents? do you not remember the death of a Whitman senior from drinking in Dec. 2017?

One kid dying from drinking is terrible. But its a pretty small statistic. Kids die from many different causes all.the time. I would never call the police on a party.

Half your children dying before graduating is not a small statistic to his family. How completely sociopathic you are.

Having children arrested is sociopathic

learn to read - the cops do not arrest, they caution and send home

No. They write them a citation, they must appear in court and it goes on their record. They have to
Appear in court, hire a lawyer and go through alcohol counseling.

Unless you are willing to do all that to your own child when they drink leave other people’s kids alone.

Not their permanent record! That's right, not their permanent record, at least, if they're minors. I'm sorry you don't believe your child should experience consequences of their actions. I'm sorry we, as a society, have to suffer because of enablers like you.

Actually there could be an 18 yo there do it could go in their permanent record which will affect all job options in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

Those posters are parents of children 12 and under smh

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I would suggest calling the cops. Yes, many kids are going to drink--even "good" kids (since you mentioned the kid's were often up to no good). The police would have made sure that parents were called instead of kids possibly driving under the influence. I know it would be difficult for your child, OP, but the risks to turning a blind eye are too great.

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Anonymous wrote:You should have called the cops. Some kid could have driven away from that party drunk, and killed himself/herself, friends in the car, total strangers in other cars. It's the exact scenario that you know you see in the news all the time. It's not some far-fetched possibility; it's very possible indeed. Telling the parents? Please. That's weak. Those parents need a call from the cops saying their kids are in custody, not another parent telling them sheepishly that their kids had alcohol in the house.

You seem scared that your DD will clam up about where she's going and what she's doing if she knows you ratted out these teens to the cops. You could have, as soon as you got home, stepped away somewhere and called without her knowing. it would be better if you could have done it in front of her (because: lesson, lawbreaking equals getting busted and mom is not scared of teen drunks who throw parties). But I do get that in the moment, it's hard for any of us to react that toughly and we don't want our kids to stop telling us things or calling us to be the ones to pick them up if there's trouble.

I would absolutely talk with DD about how she felt about all that drinking and seeing her friend THAT wasted. That's the level of wasted that can so easily end in a rape of an unconscious girl. Next time it could be your DD.

And before someone else here comes along to yell about how teens will be teens, they'll still get drunk another time, etc., well, I suspect people who think like that have never known someone who died due to a drunk teen or college age student getting behind the wheel of a car and driving. I have known someone killed that way. I wonder what would have happened if cops had broken up that party, that one night.

That’s how I talk about it with my daughters: lots of gory info on roofies (super super common in all DC bars!) and sexual assault stories from my high school years. I tell her the number one rule is that she must look out for the safety of her friends, she can’t do that drunk. I’ve told her about friends of mine and the drunk driving accidents they were in that resulted in death or friends got raped. Situations where I was drunk and was assaulted and once kidnapped. None of us has forgiven ourselves 40 years later….

I try to state a fact and not as fear-mongerer, but it is really really scary.

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Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

This sounds like it was written by a man, or at least a woman who has not lived through sexual assault. And also is super out of touch: see fentanyl. Fentanyl is extraordinarily addictive and getting put in all drugs these days. Roofies are ultra commonplace in even “swanky” bars in DC.

Are you really saying that losing a child in a car accident or have them sexually assault (no one ever forgets!) is okay??