WDYD with a teen party with alcohol?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling a lot of the "call the cops" posters have elementary and middle school children. Would love to know how many of you have high school or college aged kids.

12:29 here. As I said in my post, I'm in my 50s. My 4 kids are in high school/college. I'd definitely call the cops.

On your own child?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you parents? do you not remember the death of a Whitman senior from drinking in Dec. 2017?

One kid dying from drinking is terrible. But its a pretty small statistic. Kids die from many different causes all.the time. I would never call the police on a party.

Half your children dying before graduating is not a small statistic to his family. How completely sociopathic you are.

Having children arrested is sociopathic

[Anonymous]

The MADD campaigns worked on me as a teen. I drank all the time and never drove drunk in high school or college. I don’t support teen drinking, but I do believe it’s possible to talk to your kids about drunk driving and not act like a complete nutcase about drinking. This is sort of like talking about birth control. Screaming about abstinence gets you cut out of the loop. Also being the parent who narcs on every party gets you cut out. I am not interested in shutting down communication with my kids or their friends. I coach teenagers and they tell me a lot about parties, vaping at school, etc. I think it’s good for them to have an adult to speak with. I think you do more good buy building trust and teaching teens than acting like a complete no-tolerance policy lunatic.

Explain beer is not the same thing as cocaine.
Explain dangers of alcohol and hooking up.
Explain dangers of drunk driving, alcoholism, etc.

But you don’t have to act horrified by teen drinking and try to eradicate it like it’s child pornography. These kids are going to college soon. Teach them how to recognize a sketchy party, bad situation with a guy, and so on. Telling them all drinking is the devil’s work and calling the cops just means they will make more mistakes in college.

I have young teens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The MADD campaigns worked on me as a teen. I drank all the time and never drove drunk in high school or college. I don’t support teen drinking, but I do believe it’s possible to talk to your kids about drunk driving and not act like a complete nutcase about drinking. This is sort of like talking about birth control. Screaming about abstinence gets you cut out of the loop. Also being the parent who narcs on every party gets you cut out. I am not interested in shutting down communication with my kids or their friends. I coach teenagers and they tell me a lot about parties, vaping at school, etc. I think it’s good for them to have an adult to speak with. I think you do more good buy building trust and teaching teens than acting like a complete no-tolerance policy lunatic.

Explain beer is not the same thing as cocaine.
Explain dangers of alcohol and hooking up.
Explain dangers of drunk driving, alcoholism, etc.

But you don’t have to act horrified by teen drinking and try to eradicate it like it’s child pornography. These kids are going to college soon. Teach them how to recognize a sketchy party, bad situation with a guy, and so on. Telling them all drinking is the devil’s work and calling the cops just means they will make more mistakes in college.

I have young teens.

You do know that any alcohol is really awful for adolescent brain development, right? Stop using such judgmental language towards those of us who don't think it's a great idea to encourage teens to drink. And stop using such judgmental language about mental illness. It's embarrassing. It's not okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling a lot of the "call the cops" posters have elementary and middle school children. Would love to know how many of you have high school or college aged kids.

12:29 here. As I said in my post, I'm in my 50s. My 4 kids are in high school/college. I'd definitely call the cops.

On your own child?

If I was away from home and learned my kids were having a party at my house and serving alcohol? Absolutely. It's a foreseeable consequence.

[Anonymous]

Serious question for parents of older kids (I have toddlers): are teenagers really driving drunk? I would have thought Uber had significantly curtailed this. There are, of course, other risks from teens drinking at parties, but I'm wondering about this one specifically.

[Anonymous]

I did nothing when this happened with us, not sure why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling a lot of the "call the cops" posters have elementary and middle school children. Would love to know how many of you have high school or college aged kids.

12:29 here. As I said in my post, I'm in my 50s. My 4 kids are in high school/college. I'd definitely call the cops.

On your own child?

If I was away from home and learned my kids were having a party at my house and serving alcohol? Absolutely. It's a foreseeable consequence.

That’s a lot of what if’s.

This woman just picked her drunk child up from a party, Either call the cops on everybody including your own children or don’t call at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question for parents of older kids (I have toddlers): are teenagers really driving drunk? I would have thought Uber had significantly curtailed this. There are, of course, other risks from teens drinking at parties, but I'm wondering about this one specifically.

Kids are not drinking and driving because they do you Uber. Some parents have their head so far in the sand that their kids are afraid to take an Uber and admit that they have been drinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question for parents of older kids (I have toddlers): are teenagers really driving drunk? I would have thought Uber had significantly curtailed this. There are, of course, other risks from teens drinking at parties, but I'm wondering about this one specifically.

Kids are not drinking and driving because they do you Uber. Some parents have their head so far in the sand that their kids are afraid to take an Uber and admit that they have been drinking.

This is not universally true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The MADD campaigns worked on me as a teen. I drank all the time and never drove drunk in high school or college. I don’t support teen drinking, but I do believe it’s possible to talk to your kids about drunk driving and not act like a complete nutcase about drinking. This is sort of like talking about birth control. Screaming about abstinence gets you cut out of the loop. Also being the parent who narcs on every party gets you cut out. I am not interested in shutting down communication with my kids or their friends. I coach teenagers and they tell me a lot about parties, vaping at school, etc. I think it’s good for them to have an adult to speak with. I think you do more good buy building trust and teaching teens than acting like a complete no-tolerance policy lunatic.

Explain beer is not the same thing as cocaine.
Explain dangers of alcohol and hooking up.
Explain dangers of drunk driving, alcoholism, etc.

But you don’t have to act horrified by teen drinking and try to eradicate it like it’s child pornography. These kids are going to college soon. Teach them how to recognize a sketchy party, bad situation with a guy, and so on. Telling them all drinking is the devil’s work and calling the cops just means they will make more mistakes in college.

I have young teens.

You do know that any alcohol is really awful for adolescent brain development, right? Stop using such judgmental language towards those of us who don't think it's a great idea to encourage teens to drink. And stop using such judgmental language about mental illness. It's embarrassing. It's not okay.

What language? “Lunatic” is offensive and wrong? Oh dear. Again, I don’t support teen drinking, but I know that acting hysterical about most things does not make them go away. Reason usually is a better guide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question for parents of older kids (I have toddlers): are teenagers really driving drunk? I would have thought Uber had significantly curtailed this. There are, of course, other risks from teens drinking at parties, but I'm wondering about this one specifically.

Kids are not drinking and driving because they do you Uber. Some parents have their head so far in the sand that their kids are afraid to take an Uber and admit that they have been drinking.

This is not universally true.

Nothing is universally true. Statistically significant though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

My class buried 4 classmates in one year due to drinking and driving. Different accidents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question for parents of older kids (I have toddlers): are teenagers really driving drunk? I would have thought Uber had significantly curtailed this. There are, of course, other risks from teens drinking at parties, but I'm wondering about this one specifically.

Oh yes every day every weekend.

A few years ago. Neighborhood party. Parents supplied alcohol. Four boys got in the car two did not make it home Makes me sick to my stomach.

Or in Olney, MD quite a few years back now I think he killed three.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling a lot of the "call the cops" posters have elementary and middle school children. Would love to know how many of you have high school or college aged kids.

12:29 here. As I said in my post, I'm in my 50s. My 4 kids are in high school/college. I'd definitely call the cops.

On your own child?

If I was away from home and learned my kids were having a party at my house and serving alcohol? Absolutely. It's a foreseeable consequence.

That’s a lot of what if’s.

This woman just picked her drunk child up from a party, Either call the cops on everybody including your own children or don’t call at all.

It's one 'if'. The person hosting bears the consequences. My teen demonstrated better judgment by calling me. If my kid was at the party when someoneelse called the cops, my kids would suffer the consequences.