WDYD with a teen party with alcohol?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

The OP is talking about parents supplying alcohol to teenagers. I don't know why you think that's all right, because it's not. You were lucky that nothing bad came of your frequent drinking as a teen; many aren't so fortunate.

Next time, call the cops, OP.

No, she is talking about a party where there are no adults and alcohol is present.

I am not promoting alcohol use, but the hysterical reaction on this site leads me to believe many posters just have zero experience with teen drinking. The advice is often way over the top.

[Anonymous]

Never call the cops

-cop

Call the parents and let them know there is a party with alcohol at their house.

The link provide the cops were called btw. That’s why the kid was stumbling home instead of in a safe house,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

The OP is talking about parents supplying alcohol to teenagers. I don't know why you think that's all right, because it's not. You were lucky that nothing bad came of your frequent drinking as a teen; many aren't so fortunate.

Next time, call the cops, OP.

No, she is talking about a party where there are no adults and alcohol is present.

I am not promoting alcohol use, but the hysterical reaction on this site leads me to believe many posters just have zero experience with teen drinking. The advice is often way over the top.

No, we just think we need to stop normalizing passed out teens that don't know where they are or are passed out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

The OP is talking about parents supplying alcohol to teenagers. I don't know why you think that's all right, because it's not. You were lucky that nothing bad came of your frequent drinking as a teen; many aren't so fortunate.

Next time, call the cops, OP.

You suggesting is yo call the cops and offer her own daughter up for arrest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

The OP is talking about parents supplying alcohol to teenagers. I don't know why you think that's all right, because it's not. You were lucky that nothing bad came of your frequent drinking as a teen; many aren't so fortunate.

Next time, call the cops, OP.

No, she is talking about a party where there are no adults and alcohol is present.

I am not promoting alcohol use, but the hysterical reaction on this site leads me to believe many posters just have zero experience with teen drinking. The advice is often way over the top.

No, we just think we need to stop normalizing passed out teens that don't know where they are or are passed out.

That is not the job of cops.

[Anonymous]

I've picked my teen up from a party that they felt uncomfortable being at. And after he told me what was going on, I've called the police. He described several kids passed out from drinking too much and honestly, the number of cars in the driveway and lining the street concerned me as far as drinking & driving.

I'm not some head in the clouds parent who thinks there is never alcohol at these parties. I know alcohol is probably present at every party, even the ones where my son says "no, so and so doesn't drink so there won't be alcohol."

I didn't call the police with my kid in the car or even with his knowledge because I didn't want that to be on him. Meaning, I didn't want him to have to deal with any guilt or keeping the secret that his mom was the one who narced if kids got in trouble.

Also, I'll say it... calling the police has made him more aware of what parties he attends. After it started circulating on social media that the cops arrived to bust up the party, he was all "OMG, Mom, look! I'm so glad I left when I did..."

I don't feel guilty. I don't call the police on every party he attends, either. It was just that specific case where he asked for a ride and then described very dangerous conditions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

You are wrong.

[Anonymous]

Could you send out a blast to all parents so they all know to go get their kids?

[Anonymous]

Just a thought - how many of the parents saying call the cops on your teens are white vs POC?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am truly interested in what kind of high school experience the call the police posters had. We drank all the time, went to top DC schools, went to great colleges, and were generally fine. We were drinking beer and, back then, smoking cigarettes. We weren't doing anything too crazy.

Did these posters not go to parties, and assume parties involved cocaine and sex trafficking or something? This level of outrage is such an extreme take on normal teen behavior. You have to teach your kid how to exist in the world. It's not your job to shut down teenage activity as a general matter.

You are 100% wrong.
OP should have called the police. Drinking age 21

Why did you go to cocaine and sex trafficking trumpet? That's on you.

Of course, teens drink no one is denying that but it does not mean they should not have consequences to their actions. Again it's illegal.

Team DH OP you should have called the police.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a thought - how many of the parents saying call the cops on your teens are white vs POC?

Does it matter? Someone who can assure that none of these kids are going to be driving needs to be. called. Color has nothing to do with it. this isnt the 80s for all of you reminiscing about your drug and alcohol use in the woods and under the bleachers.

[Anonymous]

If I had the parents info I would call them. If not, I would call the Police after I got my kid. The girl passed out on the couch could have had anything happen to her, why are people ok with this? This is not having a couple beers with friends.

[Anonymous]

I'm on the fence here. If you call the cops do it anonymously. A friend called the cops after picking up their kid. Everyone knew it was my friend. All the kids blocked her kid AND her kid (a senior at the time) stopped speaking to her. Did not speak to Mom through all of college. Clearly there were bigger problems between the two for this to happen (probably along the lines of the mom being inflexible) but it was a rough 4.5 years for the mom. It took the death of her own mom for them to come back together.

Find a way to do this without destroying relationship with the kid and for the kid.

[Anonymous]

How old are you parents? do you not remember the death of a Whitman senior from drinking in Dec. 2017?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just a thought - how many of the parents saying call the cops on your teens are white vs POC?

Does it matter? Someone who can assure that none of these kids are going to be driving needs to be. called. Color has nothing to do with it. this isnt the 80s for all of you reminiscing about your drug and alcohol use in the woods and under the bleachers.

Color may color the police response. I would be much more comfortable calling the cops on a party of white kids at a white family’s house bc I know the cops would rest them fairly and just break up the party and get people home safe, rather shooting a kid.