How old were you the first time? Are you still in contact with your "first"?

[Anonymous]

Age the first time you had sex = 19-years-old
Still in contact with your first = Yes, friends on Facebook.
Are you male or female? = Female

I was 19-years-old. He was my college boyfriend. We had been friends for more than a year before we started dating. We had been dating for more than 6 months. He had a friend who was going to school at Pepperdine. We traveled to Malibu, California to visit his friend. A group of us traveled to San Diego, and the to Tijuana, Mexico for spring break.

When we first got to Malibu, his friend left us alone the whole trip and stayed with his girlfriend.

His friend's place was a pool house he rented in Malibu, that was on the grounds of a larger house. We had candles lit, and it was very romantic to me.

I'm still in touch with him on Facebook. He is now married and has a son. We were very close and good friends, as well as boyfriend and girlfriend. I'm the one who broke up with him, and I know it hurt him. He seems to have forgiven me completely. There's absolutely nothing between us now except we're friends on Facebook and connected on LinkedIn. We don't communicate with each other outside of public posts.

[Anonymous]

I was 19 too. I thought I was madly in love at the time, but now I know better now. lol

We do not stay in touch. I don't like the idea of staying in touch with exes. They are exes for a good reason(I might think differently for those who broke up with people because of distance-I never did).

I will say hi if I met him or will accept a Facebook invite, but no calls.

A little off topic: I am always curious about how people can stay friends with exes. Acquantainces, I can see. But friends?

I am fiercely loyal in my romantic and non-romantic friendships. It so happens that I have been the one to initiate a break up in all the relationships that I have had. And if I broke up with someone, it is mostly because in some fashion or another or another the loyalty was not returned in kind(not cheating). So a friendship is really out of the question.

[Anonymous]

25. Married to him, so yes.

[Anonymous]

I was old at 23 and he was a mistake so I have no contact.

[Anonymous]

Female
I was 18.
Pretty much a ONS at college. I knew that going in, and was fine with it. HS boyfriend wouldn't have sex with me. I just wanted it!
Still in contact, no.
But I am still sort of in contact with with one of my exes. I would call us friends, but we live so far apart that there is no substantial contact between us. But I do love him as a person, and care about his welfare.

[Anonymous]

I'm DW's first.
She was like 250th

[Anonymous]

I was 19, she was 18. We started dating freshman year in college. Things escalated over a couple of months and, so, our first time was in her dorm room. We broke up our sophomore year, had a few more encounters at college over the years, but I haven't had any communication with her since graduation.

[Anonymous]

19. No.

[Anonymous]

I was 19 and he was 24; i was far from his first! We were counselors at summer camp and lived very far away from each other. We saw each other only twice afterward and wrote romantic letters for about a year (this was in the early 90s) and then we lost touch. We were very different and it never would’ve worked out long-term, but I’m glad he was my first. I was very attracted to him and it was an adventure.

We’re not in touch; I saw that he’s on Facebook but I didn’t friend him and don’t plan to. There’s no need to rekindle the connection. I can’t tell if he’s married or has a family, but he wasn’t the settling down type; he had a restless soul and was always traveling the world.

[Anonymous]

We were 18, in college, and together for a couple of years. We stayed in touch through college and beyond, until he died way too young a few years post-college.

[Anonymous]

Why dwell in the past. If you aren't with that person it really doesn't mean much.

I always feel bad for the people still bothering with a first spouse. I've seen more than a few that messed up their 2nd marriages when they should have moved on.

[Anonymous]

I was 18, he was 19. He was my first boyfriend, I was definitely not his first anything.

No, we aren't in touch. Things ended very badly (he cheated then walked out on a lease we'd just signed together on an expensive place he chose, ruining my finances for a while) so I'm happy never having to see him again. We'd been together for years at that point so the casualness with which he walked away and never looked back really messed me up for a long time. Thankfully I'm no longer young and dumb and did my best to learn my lesson(s) from that experience.

[Anonymous]

15
In touch through facebook; just the occasional "cute pic!" on each other's photos of kids type of thing.
Female

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why dwell in the past. If you aren't with that person it really doesn't mean much.

I always feel bad for the people still bothering with a first spouse. I've seen more than a few that messed up their 2nd marriages when they should have moved on.

If you had kids together there's really no way around having contact with former spouse. It is best for the kids (and your own sanity) if you can be cordial, even friendly, but having an active friendship/relationship? No. That's a bad idea for most people. But if you're married and have an ongoing friendship with an ex you were married to but had no kids with or only dated is a whole different kettle of fish. It wasn't until years into my marriage to my second wife that I found out she had (has?) a close friendship with her high school/college boyfriend. I've told her how uncomfortable this makes me but she was dismissive and minimized it although she said she has now distanced herself from him, but there's no way of confirming if she's being truthful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15
In touch through facebook; just the occasional "cute pic!" on each other's photos of kids type of thing.
Female

Same here, but 16