How old were you the first time? Are you still in contact with your "first"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:19. No.

Same. No idea where he is, what he is doing, etc. No contact at all since age 20 and I am in my 30s.

[Anonymous]

18 and I see her once every year or two when I return to my hometown but that's about it. She now looks about 15 years older than my same age wife so I'm glad I moved on. My last before my DW was a good friend of hers so we see her every few years or so but no other contact. She was a real tigress in bed so I have nice memories but that was her only real asset.

[Anonymous]

I (male) was a 14 year old high school freshman growing up in the 1970s in a beach town. The house next door was a group rental of women in their early 20s. One night I ended up there at a party. A very overweight and unattractive woman in her 20s invited me to smoke a joint in her car. After smoking the joint she got very handsy with me. She then led me to the back yard and took my virginity.

No, we do not keep in touch.

[Anonymous]

16. Yes. Female, 45. He’s an amazing friend. I’m so glad it was him. I had a positive, loving first time with a gentle man. We dated for years and I went to his wedding a few decades later. No awkwardness.

[Anonymous]

19. He was a friend with benefits in college and objectively treated me pretty badly. We were in touch sporadically in our 20s. Since then we’ve become connected on Facebook and LinkedIn but he has popped in and out of both of those. I think he was engaged at one point but not sure what’s going on now. We are now 40 and I’m happily married with two kids. Sucks to be him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was 19 too. I thought I was madly in love at the time, but now I know better now. lol

We do not stay in touch. I don't like the idea of staying in touch with exes. They are exes for a good reason(I might think differently for those who broke up with people because of distance-I never did).

I will say hi if I met him or will accept a Facebook invite, but no calls.

A little off topic: I am always curious about how people can stay friends with exes. Acquantainces, I can see. But friends?

I am fiercely loyal in my romantic and non-romantic friendships. It so happens that I have been the one to initiate a break up in all the relationships that I have had. And if I broke up with someone, it is mostly because in some fashion or another or another the loyalty was not returned in kind(not cheating). So a friendship is really out of the question.

Curious...why "no calls"?

[Anonymous]

17. No. He was 31 at the time. I wish I could back and take that away. He was sick.

[Anonymous]

Also 19. We were together for 3 years during college and a year after. We talked about getting married, but kept fighting and lived in different cities after college, so things just dissolved.

There was a long time I thought we maybe could put things back together, but it never worked and I had a hard time when he moved on (to the woman he married about a year after I saw him the last time). He moved to her country and that was that.

No contact, but I do Google him every once in a while. It may be pathetic but it is what it is. I know we never would have been good together long term, but he was still hard to get over since I had spent so much time with him at such a pivitol time in my life.

[Anonymous]

18 and no

[Anonymous]

I was 16, he was 20. He was my first love and we were together for 4 years until I broke up with him. We have been friends continually since but in the last 5 or so years really only communicating through Facebook. Before that we would visit each other and I attended his first wedding. He was invited to my (only) wedding but he was deported, so missed it. I'm 49 now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also 19. We were together for 3 years during college and a year after. We talked about getting married, but kept fighting and lived in different cities after college, so things just dissolved.

There was a long time I thought we maybe could put things back together, but it never worked and I had a hard time when he moved on (to the woman he married about a year after I saw him the last time). He moved to her country and that was that.

No contact, but I do Google him every once in a while. It may be pathetic but it is what it is. I know we never would have been good together long term, but he was still hard to get over since I had spent so much time with him at such a pivitol time in my life.

Very similar experience here and among some of my friends. I think it's because we romanticize the idea of being with your first love "forever" so much that it's hard to let go when it ends. Also, when you're in a serious relationship at that age, when you're starting to really develop your sense of who you are/will be as an adult, your sense of self can get really wrapped up in who you're with. If you "lose" that person, you lose a huge part of who you think you are.

[Anonymous]

Bunch of older dudes perving on younger girls.

[Anonymous]

17 with older woman (35-40?) in our neighborhood who I did yard work for. She was always teasing me about being cute but not having a girlfriend. When it came out that I was a virgin she offered to solve my problem. It was pretty embarrassing given I finished in minutes but I was much better a week later. I have no idea what became of her and it was 28 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Not all

- the 14 year old dude above

[Anonymous]

18
No
She was 23 and married. Her husband almost walked in on us the first and only time we did it. Once the coast was clear I darted out of there and never looked back.
Guy