weigh in on dad's friend/teen drama at family gathering

[Anonymous]

The situation:

A sixteen year old girl, who has never had a boyfriend and who is sensitive about this, wanders into the room where her dad is sitting with his oldest friend. The friend has a wife and a daughter of his own, who is daughter's age. The friend looks at daughter and says, "So, Larla, why don't you have a boyfriend? Are you a lesbian?" And Larla snaps at the dad's friend that "what you're saying is really insensitive."

Dad tells off daughter for being rude to his friend.

I think the friend WAS insensitive. Daughter is embarrassed about not having a boyfriend, especially when around dad's friend's daughter, who is very popular at their school. Her father should have defended her, right?

[Anonymous]

Yes, he should have defended her. What a turd dad's friend is.

[Anonymous]

Um, yes. Father should have defended her.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, both men behaved like jerks and should be ashamed of themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, both men behaved like jerks and should be ashamed of themselves.

This 100%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, both men behaved like jerks and should be ashamed of themselves.

This 100%

This. The girl said nothing rude. She pointed out that the dads friend was being insensitive and inappropriate which he was.

[Anonymous]

That girl is amazing and her response is perfect. The men suck.

[Anonymous]

The friend was an insensitive jerk, and the father was wrong for not defending his daughter against his own friend's ruse comments. However, I do think it was reasonable for the father to have told off the daughter for snapping. That wouldn't fly in our house either: we have high standards for how our children are expected to interact with adults, in a way she was a host or at age 16 at least sort of a representative of her parents who were the hosts of this guest, and byou that age she should have or be really working on developing the social skills to show grace under fire in such situations.

[Anonymous]

^BY that age
Phone typo, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The friend was an insensitive jerk, and the father was wrong for not defending his daughter against his own friend's ruse comments. However, I do think it was reasonable for the father to have told off the daughter for snapping. That wouldn't fly in our house either: we have high standards for how our children are expected to interact with adults, in a way she was a host or at age 16 at least sort of a representative of her parents who were the hosts of this guest, and byou that age she should have or be really working on developing the social skills to show grace under fire in such situations.

I think she did handle it with grace by telling the friend he was insensitive.

No reason why if friend acts like a jackass a 16 year old can’t call him on it. It’s one thing to be respectful to adults, it’s another thing to teach your kids to just take it when they get treated like crap. Speaking up was allowable in this situation, IMHO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The friend was an insensitive jerk, and the father was wrong for not defending his daughter against his own friend's ruse comments. However, I do think it was reasonable for the father to have told off the daughter for snapping. That wouldn't fly in our house either: we have high standards for how our children are expected to interact with adults, in a way she was a host or at age 16 at least sort of a representative of her parents who were the hosts of this guest, and byou that age she should have or be really working on developing the social skills to show grace under fire in such situations.

Social skills include showing in the face of boorish behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The friend was an insensitive jerk, and the father was wrong for not defending his daughter against his own friend's ruse comments. However, I do think it was reasonable for the father to have told off the daughter for snapping. That wouldn't fly in our house either: we have high standards for how our children are expected to interact with adults, in a way she was a host or at age 16 at least sort of a representative of her parents who were the hosts of this guest, and byou that age she should have or be really working on developing the social skills to show grace under fire in such situations.

Social skills include showing in the face of boorish behavior.

Showing backbone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The situation:

A sixteen year old girl, who has never had a boyfriend and who is sensitive about this, wanders into the room where her dad is sitting with his oldest friend. The friend has a wife and a daughter of his own, who is daughter's age. The friend looks at daughter and says, "So, Larla, why don't you have a boyfriend? Are you a lesbian?" And Larla snaps at the dad's friend that "what you're saying is really insensitive."

Dad tells off daughter for being rude to his friend.

I think the friend WAS insensitive. Daughter is embarrassed about not having a boyfriend, especially when around dad's friend's daughter, who is very popular at their school. Her father should have defended her, right?

Tell us what the kid really said because what you wrote did not come out of a 16 yo mouth.

[Anonymous]

I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 19, and he turned into my husband.

It's completely sickening how those two turds behaved. Hopefully you can still say something.

I am happy to note, though, that the young lady can defend herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The situation:

A sixteen year old girl, who has never had a boyfriend and who is sensitive about this, wanders into the room where her dad is sitting with his oldest friend. The friend has a wife and a daughter of his own, who is daughter's age. The friend looks at daughter and says, "So, Larla, why don't you have a boyfriend? Are you a lesbian?" And Larla snaps at the dad's friend that "what you're saying is really insensitive."

Dad tells off daughter for being rude to his friend.

I think the friend WAS insensitive. Daughter is embarrassed about not having a boyfriend, especially when around dad's friend's daughter, who is very popular at their school. Her father should have defended her, right?

Tell us what the kid really said because what you wrote did not come out of a 16 yo mouth.

My 13 year old BOY has been saying this for years, why can' a 16 year old girl say it? Or are raising your kids to be inarticulate cavemen?