Just curious about something as we enter our 40's...
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Anonymous
| 38/M here. We've been married for 13 years and as we go through our late 30's and are close to our 40's I'm curious about something. I've heard before that when a couple enters their 40's the wife's sex drive elevates as the male's declines. The woman is more often the initiator in bed and needs more satisfaction than she did in her younger years. Is that usually true or is that just a load of crap someone told me? I know everyone's personal experience can vary by health of the relationship, health of the couple, divorces, cheating, etc, but we are just a boring healthy couple with a track record of a healthy long marriage. Just curious what others experience has been. |
Anonymous
| I've not experienced this personally (32 f) but women I know if their forties and fifties have confirmed the wildly increased sex drive, yes. |
Anonymous
| For some woman they have finally caught up to others who were already very comfortable with their sexualilty |
Anonymous
| I'm 42 and my libido feels way higher than it did when I was younger. I'm not in a relationship at the moment u unfortunately. |
Anonymous
| my DW is 41 haven't noticed any increase in her desire |
Anonymous
I should add though that I don't have kids. So that stressor and exhaustion causer isn't there. Also my job has good hours etc. my life is not very stressful and I am well rested. |
Anonymous
| I don't think my sex drive changed when I hit 40. Life was more chaotic which can cause a slow down but it did not with me. I will admit that I became more adventuresome in bed so in at least one way my libido increased or at least changed. I can assure you that my DH's sex drive did not decline at all. |
Anonymous
| 48, single mom with a kid, and my high libido is even higher now. I still wake up with wet dreams, sometimes twice per night or once in the day, once at night. I work out regularly too. |
Anonymous
| My sex drive definitely increased in my 40's but I think it had to do with moving beyond basic vanilla sex which was fine for a certain number of years. My DH and I both agreed that our love life was getting a bit stale after 15 years and that we should do something about it. So I got a bunch of ideas from Cosmo and my DH got his from who knows where and we tried a whole bunch of things, nothing kinky or dangerous, mostly new positions and places other then our bedroom. We are now in our 50's and continue to have a very active sex life. |
Anonymous
| I'm 48, and it's true, but it's only because kids are older, I cut way back on work, so I'm not as tired anymore, which all leads to an increase libido. DH is 50+, and I haven't noticed his libido going down much. |
Anonymous
+1 I'm 46 and my DH is very happy with my higher libido. I just hope it doesn't suddenly go in the opposite direction. |
Anonymous
| I'm 43, but on the pill. I haven't noticed any change. |
Anonymous
You won't go through it while on the pill. It's the perimenopausal wild hormone ride. I was like an 18 yo. It lasted a few years. They were glorious, wild years. Slowing down now that I'm post menopause in my early 50s. I know quite a few women that shared the experience, but only those whose hormones were fluctuating normally, without hormonal birth control. |
Anonymous
I am 34 and my drive is lower now than it was in my late 20s when I wanted to have sex at least once or twice a day. We have young kids and have been married for 6 years so that might be why, but I hope the drive will increase soon. I used to love my nymphomaniac me 
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Anonymous
OP here. It will probably turn around for you soon. You're just a couple years behind my wife, and she went through that too. Our youngest is now 6 and thing's are looking up. She's much better now, but still isn't how she was in her 20's...which why I'm wondering about the 40's.
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