Honestly interested in sending child away

[Anonymous]

We have a child that will be 11 in a few weeks. The following is honest sharing and I appreciate not being judged for it.

My child is not smart. She’s not good at anything. She has no interests. She is obsessed with sugar. She screams and loses her mind with us all the time.

We have tried meds, therapy groups, private school, executive function tutors...nothing works.

She refuses to accept blame and is only obsessed with blaming others for “making” her upset.

Example: she was losing her mind at the mall because I told her no when she asked for ice cream. She proceeded to scream and me the entire way to the car. Rather than put her little brother in the car with her screaming (again) I said she could calm down in the car and we would wait outside it.

A friend of hers from school and her parents drove by us and stopped to say hello. And heard her screaming. I told them she was having a meltdown.

She realized what was happening and freaked out because I told on her. Not that the only reason the whole situation existed was because of her choices.

Can a kid just be a bad person beyond repair?

We just want her out of our lives.

[Anonymous]

What is her SN dx?

[Anonymous]

ADHD and dyslexia with no psych stuff

Been evaluated twice

[Anonymous]

What treatment is she in? What’s her therapist situation?

[Anonymous]

(ADHD is a psych thing)

[Anonymous]

Meant no other psych diagnosis

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it, it sounds like it might be a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried parenting classes?

[Anonymous]

Yes. We’ve taken PEP classes.

NOTHING WORKS FOR HER. Or for our family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We’ve taken PEP classes.

NOTHING WORKS FOR HER. Or for our family.

But what therapy is SHE getting for her antisocial behavior?

[Anonymous]

She might not be smart. My son has a low iq. Should we send all such children away? I’m not sure where you’re coming from but you need some serious help. She’s your child. Not a bad dog you’re disappointed in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She might not be smart. My son has a low iq. Should we send all such children away? I’m not sure where you’re coming from but you need some serious help. She’s your child. Not a bad dog you’re disappointed in.

Unhelpful. OP needs more support/ more members of her parenting “team.” Even if residential school isn’t the answer try to be constructive.

[Anonymous]

That sounds like it sucks in so many ways. But you have to realistically know that she's your responsibility. Send her away and you will probably ruin her life.

[Anonymous]

Do you have other children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She might not be smart. My son has a low iq. Should we send all such children away? I’m not sure where you’re coming from but you need some serious help. She’s your child. Not a bad dog you’re disappointed in.

Unhelpful. OP needs more support/ more members of her parenting “team.” Even if residential school isn’t the answer try to be constructive.

Some ppl just aren’t cut out for parenting, and the way OP describe her circumstances make it sound like she is such a person.