Honestly interested in sending child away

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Anonymous wrote:^ But nothing OP said actually sounds like her daughter is “one of those kids!”

You have no clue how demoralizing and stressful it is to live with a tween who screams and throws tantrums anytime they are told no. Walking through the mall with an 11 year old screaming, running into people you know with your a child screaming and out of control in your car, being screamed at in your home because you say no to soda....Each individual infraction seems like no big deal, but when it is an everyday occurrence, it really beats you down. I have a friend with a child like this. She is constantly stressed, she has gained a lot of weight (according to her because she eats out of stress and is often depressed), she has never told me she would like to send her child away, but there have been many times when she has broken down in tears saying she's at her wits end because therapy and meds don't help. Wouldn't want to be in her shoes or OP's shoes. Don't judge. Maybe you think OP is over reacting with the mall story, but if that's your daily/hourly life, that must be hard.

Kids don't scream for soda (or ice-cream in OP's case) unless they've been given it plenty of times before. They just don't.

Several people have told OP that there's a good chance that a clean diet may dramatically improve the way her daughter functions, but OP doesn't want to bother with it.

I was very sympathetic towards OP in the beginning, but not anymore.

Kids ask for things they've never been given all the time. My only child asked me over and over again for a 'big brother", something he hadn't been given even once.

And kids who have disabilities that impact the way they self-regulate and express their emotions, sometimes make their requests by screaming, even impossible or unreasonable ones.

As a special ed teacher, I've seen plenty of kids put on very restricted diets. The diets cause a lot of social isolation for kids, and add a layer stress for families, but other than kids with celiac, I've never seen significant behavioral changes come from dietary changes.

As a special ed teacher, you should understand that different things work for different kids. Especially for those kids whose parents claim to have "tried everything" except diets, you should be supportive of them trying diets. If I'd done only what the doctors and special ed teachers had told me, one of my kids would be on all sorts of medications and would still be suffering horribly from a couple of conditions. Instead, we've seen HUGE improvements and actually don't need medication at all anymore. But if we stop the diet, it all comes back. I do agree that a diet adds a layer of stress (really!) and can cause social isolation, but that's exactly why people need to start being more supportive of diets. They really work for some kids, and if more people understood that then more people would be accepting of it and more people would be willing to try it (and support others who do) and the cycle would ultimately benefit a lot more kids.