YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

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I'm not convinced the Stauffers deliberately adopted a special needs kid to make money off of him because I think they've done a good job of convincing themselves that their lifestyle blogging is a valid choice for their family.

But I don't for a minute think that the effect on their lifestyle blog was never considered.

Hopefully the child is better off, but the whole thing is very disturbing. The Reuters story linked from page one makes it clear that the "re-homing"/abandonment process is informal, whereas the adoption process is very formal.

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Anonymous wrote:As a mother of an international adopted now teen, I find this Story very sad.

I do agree with inferences from OP that this social media influencer should have made more of an effort to provide a stable home and to bond with the child.

However, I do not wish to be too judgy as being an adoptive parent is Both extremely challenging and rewarding. We have both: biological and adoptive children with special needs and there are definitely extra hurdles in helping the adoptive child to flourish (Such as being sensitive to different life experiences for people of color and making sure they have friends and role models who look like them). Nonetheless, there are more similarities than differences in duties for parenting biological and adopted children.

Regarding the negativity and hysteria around international adoptions, there are many Thousands of positive success stories. It took us many years to adopt as good agencies are so vigilant in ensuring that prospective parents have the emotional, physical, Psychological and financial resources to successfully adopt and raise children. They do home studies to check that your home is safe and welcoming. They interview existing children to ensure that they are well adjusted, perform criminal background checks, test for alcohol/ substance abuse and require clean medical bills of health.They also require social workers in the countries of the biological mothers ascertain that the mother really believes adoption is the best solution for her and take DNA tests of both biological mother and child to confirm the identity of the mother is true and that she willingly gives her child up for adoption. Of course, it is better for children to stay with their biological parents if that is possible but in many cases it is not. In countries where international adoptions have been closed down due to Den Hague Treaty Violations, their orphanages are overflowing.

International is not the only way to combat poverty but it can be one tool of many. However, adoptive parents need to take their duties profoundly seriously. Children are not status objects but complex sentient beings who need love, understanding and discipline.

You sound very thoughtful and grounded. I am glad your adoption worked out.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d like to know what kind of training the adoption agency required. I had friends that did a domestic adoption and were required to attend many classes about inter-racial adoption, even though one of the parents was the same race as the child. Did these parents have training on international adoption? On parenting special needs children, particularly children with neurological differences?
I agree the child is almost certainly better off without them which is probably why a professional recommended it. I am also curious whether the mom who is taking him was one pf his former service providers who formed a better attachment than the adoptive parents, as they said the new person has a medical baclground.

One, they are LYING when they say a “medical professional” told them to abandon this child.

Two, she’s a trained nurse. She has a medical background.

They adopted a child for profit and are getting rid of him because he’s too much for these selfish people.

The only “fact” here is that she was a nurse. Everything else is just your opinion....

Just because she is a nurse, doesn't mean she has any specific training to deal with a child with SN.

She said it herself in a video that she was able to care for a child with SN because of her being a nurse. At the time she made that statement she wasn't even a licensed nurse. She was a nurse for a very short time before she had her license removed for assaulting a pregnant co-worker. She's nuts.

She actually admitted to this on camera?

[/b]Public court records[b]. Why would she admit that on camera, it doesn't align well with her fabricated lifestyle.

Can you post the link?

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It's about time these people are exposed for what they truly are.

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Who is this person? Why are we supposed to believe what she says about Myka is true? This lady needs to get a life and a real job imo.

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First of all, they are using the term “rehoming” like they have given their pet dog or cat a new home.
I have never heard the term rehoming in regards to a child.

Second, would they rehome one of their biological children if they had a special need later on?
Or would that put them in jail??!

Finally choosing to be a parent requires an initial commitment + promise of unconditional love.
1000%.

They failed miserably at this.

I am ecstatic that her endorsement deals are dropping her left & right.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this person? Why are we supposed to believe what she says about Myka is true? This lady needs to get a life and a real job imo.

Myka needs to get a real job and stop exploiting her children.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d like to know what kind of training the adoption agency required. I had friends that did a domestic adoption and were required to attend many classes about inter-racial adoption, even though one of the parents was the same race as the child. Did these parents have training on international adoption? On parenting special needs children, particularly children with neurological differences?
I agree the child is almost certainly better off without them which is probably why a professional recommended it. I am also curious whether the mom who is taking him was one pf his former service providers who formed a better attachment than the adoptive parents, as they said the new person has a medical baclground.

One, they are LYING when they say a “medical professional” told them to abandon this child.

Two, she’s a trained nurse. She has a medical background.

They adopted a child for profit and are getting rid of him because he’s too much for these selfish people.

The only “fact” here is that she was a nurse. Everything else is just your opinion....

No, they are lying. Medical professionals don’t give advice to abandon children. These people are narcissists. They took a vacation to Bali within weeks of “rehoming” their kid. They are just horrible.

I had posted the above. I've worked a fair amount with medical professionals regarding SN kids. I agree that they wouldn't advise to abandon a child, but I can see a wise professional, after having assessed the train wreck that this situation was, saying something along the lines of that it would be in the best interest of the child to be in a household with fewer young children, and where the parents were able to cut out travel and focus on providing the child the services that the child needs. Sort of giving her a "best interests" out where it was clear that she wasn't able to meet the needs of the child and it appeared that there might be some better option. I really do hope that this person that materialized to take the child really is a better option. My hope is that it is someone that was previously providing him services, so he already has a bond of some sort with them.

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Anonymous wrote:First of all, they are using the term “rehoming” like they have given their pet dog or cat a new home.
I have never heard the term rehoming in regards to a child.

Second, would they rehome one of their biological children if they had a special need later on?
Or would that put them in jail??!

Finally choosing to be a parent requires an initial commitment + promise of unconditional love.
1000%.

They failed miserably at this.

I am ecstatic that her endorsement deals are dropping her left & right.

Rehoming is an adoption term for kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this person? Why are we supposed to believe what she says about Myka is true? This lady needs to get a life and a real job imo.

Myka needs to get a real job and stop exploiting her children.

Do you say this about the 58373838 other family vloggers out there?

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this person? Why are we supposed to believe what she says about Myka is true? This lady needs to get a life and a real job imo.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:First of all, they are using the term “rehoming” like they have given their pet dog or cat a new home.
I have never heard the term rehoming in regards to a child.

Second, would they rehome one of their biological children if they had a special need later on?
Or would that put them in jail??!

Finally choosing to be a parent requires an initial commitment + promise of unconditional love.
1000%.

They failed miserably at this.

I am ecstatic that her endorsement deals are dropping her left & right.

But this is legal. It might not be morally correct but it is legal. My sister is considering rehoming her child. She is 22 years old and she is totally unable to raise the kid.

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Anonymous wrote:First of all, they are using the term “rehoming” like they have given their pet dog or cat a new home.
I have never heard the term rehoming in regards to a child.

Second, would they rehome one of their biological children if they had a special need later on?
Or would that put them in jail??!

Finally choosing to be a parent requires an initial commitment + promise of unconditional love.
1000%.

They failed miserably at this.

I am ecstatic that her endorsement deals are dropping her left & right.

Rehoming is an adoption term for kids.

No, as a parent of adopted children, it really isn't. It's only a term used for the gray semi-legal area where you send your kids off to live with a stranger with no background checks.

Placing a child for adoption, disrupting an adoption, re-adoption. These are terms used for the legal process. I hope that this family used the legal process, that they signed paperwork to terminate their rights, and that Huxley is now in the custody of a family with a complete homestudy and social worker supervision. If that's true, and their mistake was using the wrong word, that's find. But "rehoming" is generally not used for that legal process.

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Anonymous wrote:Who is this person? Why are we supposed to believe what she says about Myka is true? This lady needs to get a life and a real job imo.

Myka needs to get a real job and stop exploiting her children.

Do you say this about the 58373838 other family vloggers out there?

Yes, absolutely. Not only these atrocious vloggers, but also all the wannabe vloggers who exploit their children. It's sickening.