People inviting themselves on your vacation?
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Anonymous
| Long story short, a friend has just booked a vacation at the same small resort we will be visiting this summer, at the same time as we will be there. She’s very excited (she didn’t even ask if we were interested in vacationing with her—we aren’t, this is family time.) Obviously I know I can’t control when or where people vacation, but I’m bummed. We value our family time. How do I move forward? |
Anonymous
| Not mention any vacation plans in advance. |
Anonymous
That’s the plan! |
Anonymous
| That's a good one OP! I've never heard of someone doing that. But, I think you should be flattered. Try to make the best of the situation. You may find that you actually enjoy it. |
Anonymous
| Just don't agree to get together. Let her know you hope she'll have a great time and you're excited to compare notes when you get back. |
Anonymous
This just seems so rude. But then again, so is inviting yourself along without consulting! |
Anonymous
That's the problem with truly over the top rude behavior (as exhibited by this friend inviting herself along). The appropriate and effective response has to be so harsh, it feels incredibly rude to do. But it isn't. The rudeness is entirely on the part of the "friend" tagging along without so much as checking with OP whether it would be ok. |
Anonymous
| If this was a close friend of mine, they would know how much I value family time. If she thought you would have been excited about it, then she would have been happily chattering with you about joining in before booking. I'm thinking she knew you would not be 100% pleased. Vacation time for me is rare. That opportunity to focus on my family and build family memories is important to me. I would book elsewhere and not mention our family change in plans. |
Anonymous
Yep, if the "friend" were truly a good friend who thought this would be okay with all parties s/he would have asked -- probably when you were planning the vacation. |
Anonymous
| Is this friend normally mooch? Don't say anything to her about or offer to give her rides to the airport, etc. Maybe she's hoping she can tag along with your family for meals, rides, etc. and save money. |
Anonymous
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Is this a resort?
Call and see if they can book you far away from their unit. Depending on the size and type of the resort you might never see them there, except perhaps with a lot of effort. If you are talking about a place like Disneyworld or a place with lots of different cabins like Massenutten, then being there at the same time is really no big deal. |
Anonymous
Is she hinting that she'll hang out with you? |
Anonymous
Yup. I had an acquaintance askif it would be OK for her family to join us on a trip. She added "It's fine if you say no." I said, "Sorry, no, it's family time." She wrote back, "I don't see what the big deal is. We'd do our own thing some of the time." |
Anonymous
| Man, people are nuts. I'm glad I'm kinda stand-offish. I don't have a ton of friends, but no one would ever do that to me!! |
Anonymous
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OP I’m sure you won’t do what I would do and that’s cancel my plans and go somewhere else.
I don’t like when I can’t even go to the restroom in peace without a friend wanting to come with me as for my vacation.....hell no. |