2023 Girls Recruiting

[Anonymous]

Ask your club team coach, high school coach and recruiting director. There is still hope my son didn’t get his preread back until July 7th of last year. We felt just as you did and then got a call and it was a complete surprise. Don’t worry one bit.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t take that advice last thing you want to be like is aggressive that is a red flag. Talk to your coach and recruiting director they should know if they are not honest than that is a major major red flag for the program. College coaches have a lack of respect for certain people in this community and speak volumes about the aggressive nature of one in particular. [/quote]

Disagree. I would wait til 7/5 and then ask where I am on their recruiting chart. If you can’t get a straight answer, drop the school from consideration. [/quote]

Thanks for all this advice. I just can't believe the coach would have said, repeatedly, you are our number one recruit, if they didn't mean it. I know where she is on the chart and I believe she really is at the top. I am pretty sure she didn't pass the pre-read and coach just doesn't want to tell her. I just wish she would have so she could get it over with and move on with her life. It probably means dropping the sport. She has one other offer from a decent school, but not one she would go to without the sport. She just didn't cast her net that wide. Moved very far down the road with two D1s, lost her first choice last fall becauser of freshman year grades, and the second one, the final spot came down to her and one other player and she lost. It's just been so frustrating and such a roller coaster. But she loves this NESCAC, was told she was THE one, so she wasn't that worried, except for the grades. Looks like this one is a no, too, though and she is devastated. We are thinking about a PG year and reaching back out to coaches who were obviously so interested in her to see if another year of academics would help. Thanks again![/quote]

If they are really a top target, give the coach time to figure it out. Sometimes it takes a while, maybe they need more feedback on what you will need to do to qualify, etc. They will likely try to find a way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are the updates on local commits on NESCAC day?

Pride just posted commits to Colby and Middlebury.

That’s great news!

I thought so too but I am sure someone out there will pull out some stats and slam the schools as academically weak.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t take that advice last thing you want to be like is aggressive that is a red flag. Talk to your coach and recruiting director they should know if they are not honest than that is a major major red flag for the program. College coaches have a lack of respect for certain people in this community and speak volumes about the aggressive nature of one in particular. [/quote]

Disagree. I would wait til 7/5 and then ask where I am on their recruiting chart. If you can’t get a straight answer, drop the school from consideration. [/quote]

Thanks for all this advice. I just can't believe the coach would have said, repeatedly, you are our number one recruit, if they didn't mean it. I know where she is on the chart and I believe she really is at the top. I am pretty sure she didn't pass the pre-read and coach just doesn't want to tell her. I just wish she would have so she could get it over with and move on with her life. It probably means dropping the sport. She has one other offer from a decent school, but not one she would go to without the sport. She just didn't cast her net that wide. Moved very far down the road with two D1s, lost her first choice last fall becauser of freshman year grades, and the second one, the final spot came down to her and one other player and she lost. It's just been so frustrating and such a roller coaster. But she loves this NESCAC, was told she was THE one, so she wasn't that worried, except for the grades. Looks like this one is a no, too, though and she is devastated. We are thinking about a PG year and reaching back out to coaches who were obviously so interested in her to see if another year of academics would help. Thanks again![/quote]

Don't do a PG year without a contingent offer in hand. would be a waste of $$ and time.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t take that advice last thing you want to be like is aggressive that is a red flag. Talk to your coach and recruiting director they should know if they are not honest than that is a major major red flag for the program. College coaches have a lack of respect for certain people in this community and speak volumes about the aggressive nature of one in particular. [/quote]

Disagree. I would wait til 7/5 and then ask where I am on their recruiting chart. If you can’t get a straight answer, drop the school from consideration. [/quote]

Thanks for all this advice. I just can't believe the coach would have said, repeatedly, you are our number one recruit, if they didn't mean it. I know where she is on the chart and I believe she really is at the top. I am pretty sure she didn't pass the pre-read and coach just doesn't want to tell her. I just wish she would have so she could get it over with and move on with her life. It probably means dropping the sport. She has one other offer from a decent school, but not one she would go to without the sport. She just didn't cast her net that wide. Moved very far down the road with two D1s, lost her first choice last fall becauser of freshman year grades, and the second one, the final spot came down to her and one other player and she lost. It's just been so frustrating and such a roller coaster. But she loves this NESCAC, was told she was THE one, so she wasn't that worried, except for the grades. Looks like this one is a no, too, though and she is devastated. We are thinking about a PG year and reaching back out to coaches who were obviously so interested in her to see if another year of academics would help. Thanks again![/quote]

Don't do a PG year without a contingent offer in hand. would be a waste of $$ and time.[/quote]

Does anybody have any experience with that? Doing a PG year with a contingent offer? Do many, if any, of the NESCACS, offer that? DD is still devastated, hasn't heard, and now one of her good friends who she met through the process at the school has announced her commitment--it's the first friend she knows who's committed to this school (trying not to give too much away). I have to believe the coach is just working on something, but wondering if it's a no, whether we should ask about a PG year. DD is very young anyway, and could benefit from another year to get ready for the academics, though she would be ready as well. She is ready athletically, without a doubt.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why you can’t ask your recruiting director or high school coach. It is ridiculous you can’t. Name the school or program because they shouldn’t be helping players if they can’t help you. Ridiculous

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand why you can’t ask your recruiting director or high school coach. It is ridiculous you can’t. Name the school or program because they shouldn’t be helping players if they can’t help you. Ridiculous[/quote]

I really can't, it would be too much information. The fact is, we have been on our own this whole process, the club coach made a few calls in the fall, which was helpful, but the high school coach was clear that there is nothing they can do, because they don't know anybody. We don't know what we're doing.

[Anonymous]

Reach out to the coach! See what’s going on! Ask nicely, talk about how much you absolutely love the school, and see what the status is. Very little to lose at this point. I would advocate for yourself!

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hear about all this. Can you at least say if you are at a public or private? I can't imagine a private school coach being so unhelpful!

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Our private school coach did basically nothing. And is known for being a pretty decent coach.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t take that advice last thing you want to be like is aggressive that is a red flag. Talk to your coach and recruiting director they should know if they are not honest than that is a major major red flag for the program. College coaches have a lack of respect for certain people in this community and speak volumes about the aggressive nature of one in particular. [/quote]

Disagree. I would wait til 7/5 and then ask where I am on their recruiting chart. If you can’t get a straight answer, drop the school from consideration. [/quote]

Thanks for all this advice. I just can't believe the coach would have said, repeatedly, you are our number one recruit, if they didn't mean it. I know where she is on the chart and I believe she really is at the top. I am pretty sure she didn't pass the pre-read and coach just doesn't want to tell her. I just wish she would have so she could get it over with and move on with her life. It probably means dropping the sport. She has one other offer from a decent school, but not one she would go to without the sport. She just didn't cast her net that wide. Moved very far down the road with two D1s, lost her first choice last fall becauser of freshman year grades, and the second one, the final spot came down to her and one other player and she lost. It's just been so frustrating and such a roller coaster. But she loves this NESCAC, was told she was THE one, so she wasn't that worried, except for the grades. Looks like this one is a no, too, though and she is devastated. We are thinking about a PG year and reaching back out to coaches who were obviously so interested in her to see if another year of academics would help. Thanks again![/quote]

Don't do a PG year without a contingent offer in hand. would be a waste of $$ and time.[/quote]

Does anybody have any experience with that? Doing a PG year with a contingent offer? Do many, if any, of the NESCACS, offer that? DD is still devastated, hasn't heard, and now one of her good friends who she met through the process at the school has announced her commitment--it's the first friend she knows who's committed to this school (trying not to give too much away). I have to believe the coach is just working on something, but wondering if it's a no, whether we should ask about a PG year. DD is very young anyway, and could benefit from another year to get ready for the academics, though she would be ready as well. She is ready athletically, without a doubt. [/quote]

If the college wanted your daughter to do a PG year, they would ask. Feel horrible about your situation. This is an example where you club's recruiting director should get involved.

At this point, though, if the coach doesn't follow up by mid-week I'd move on. If the coach doesn't pay attention to you when recruiting, what are the chances he/she will once you are on campus.

Once the shock is over (and it will take a bit), hopefully your daughter can find a school where there is a good mix of academics and lacrosse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reach out to the coach! See what’s going on! Ask nicely, talk about how much you absolutely love the school, and see what the status is. Very little to lose at this point. I would advocate for yourself!

Agree, but it is probably more effective coming from recruiting director. Club has vested interest in keeping relationship with recruiting director.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t take that advice last thing you want to be like is aggressive that is a red flag. Talk to your coach and recruiting director they should know if they are not honest than that is a major major red flag for the program. College coaches have a lack of respect for certain people in this community and speak volumes about the aggressive nature of one in particular. [/quote]

Disagree. I would wait til 7/5 and then ask where I am on their recruiting chart. If you can’t get a straight answer, drop the school from consideration. [/quote]

Thanks for all this advice. I just can't believe the coach would have said, repeatedly, you are our number one recruit, if they didn't mean it. I know where she is on the chart and I believe she really is at the top. I am pretty sure she didn't pass the pre-read and coach just doesn't want to tell her. I just wish she would have so she could get it over with and move on with her life. It probably means dropping the sport. She has one other offer from a decent school, but not one she would go to without the sport. She just didn't cast her net that wide. Moved very far down the road with two D1s, lost her first choice last fall becauser of freshman year grades, and the second one, the final spot came down to her and one other player and she lost. It's just been so frustrating and such a roller coaster. But she loves this NESCAC, was told she was THE one, so she wasn't that worried, except for the grades. Looks like this one is a no, too, though and she is devastated. We are thinking about a PG year and reaching back out to coaches who were obviously so interested in her to see if another year of academics would help. Thanks again![/quote]

Don't do a PG year without a contingent offer in hand. would be a waste of $$ and time.[/quote]

Does anybody have any experience with that? Doing a PG year with a contingent offer? Do many, if any, of the NESCACS, offer that? DD is still devastated, hasn't heard, and now one of her good friends who she met through the process at the school has announced her commitment--it's the first friend she knows who's committed to this school (trying not to give too much away). I have to believe the coach is just working on something, but wondering if it's a no, whether we should ask about a PG year. DD is very young anyway, and could benefit from another year to get ready for the academics, though she would be ready as well. She is ready athletically, without a doubt. [/quote]

It’s certainly worth a discussion with the college coach if this year doesn’t work out this year, but hopefully I will! But if she PGs there are so many unknowns—what if your daughter does the PG year and the coach leaves; she doesn’t get her grades/test scores where the school wants them to be; is she ok with another year of high school, another season of HS lax and another fall/summer of club lax; does she have any other schools she’s really interested in that might work out instead? All of this can add to stress/burnout so if it comes down to this having an independent source or counselor she can trust to talk to would be key. Best of luck and I hope it all works out for your daughter!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear about all this. Can you at least say if you are at a public or private? I can't imagine a private school coach being so unhelpful!

Private

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Our private school coach did basically nothing. And is known for being a pretty decent coach.

To be fair, most private school coaches have relationships at only a few schools, while recruiting directors at top clubs has relationships with almost all top D1 and D3 programs.