Would you admit you have a child on the first date?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going on a date on Friday, but I he doesn't know that I have a child. Should I make that known on the first date or wait to see how things go first?

He should have known before the 1st date.

Again, it's only because I want him to give me a chance.

But you and your child are a package deal - he can't have one without the other. And if you're not upfront with him and he becomes invested in the way you're hoping, he may feel manipulated or deceived when you tell him the truth.

I would at least like to get through one date to see how things go. If a second date is possible, I will tell him. I meet guys, but they're immediately turned off when I tell them I have a child. They won't even bother to give me a chance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going on a date on Friday, but I he doesn't know that I have a child. Should I make that known on the first date or wait to see how things go first?

He should have known before the 1st date.

Again, it's only because I want him to give me a chance.

Why would you want to rope in a guy who might not be open to a kid already in the picture?

He absolutely should know before the first date. Don't be ashamed you already have a kid.

I'm not ashamed at all, but I know it makes dating that much harder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever talked to him? If so, how has it never come up?

I usually let me talk about himself. I've given him minor details about me.

[Anonymous]

Let him not let me.

[Anonymous]

If I were open to dating someone with a child, but a person let an entire date pass without once mentioning that they have a child, I would not see them again no matter how much I liked them. I'd think they were either a deceptive person or an uncaring parent.

[Anonymous]

I sure as hell wouldn't conceal it. What is there to "admit"?

[Anonymous]

*sigh* well I'm sure he'll text me tomorrow so I'll let him know I have a child. That will be the end of the date before it starts.

[Anonymous]

Well, then you will know he's not for you ... I just don't understand why you'd even want to spend a couple hours with someone who would want you without your kid? How did you meet this person? Why don't you put yourself out on the dating scene as a single PARENT - that way it won't be a "big reveal"....? Wtf? this seems weird to me as a parent. If I were suddenly single and posting on a dating site, I would say I was a single parent -- isn't that an option? If I were meeting people at work or church or the gym or a club, I would say I am a single parent ...? why are you hiding your kid?

[Anonymous]

There are probably a lot of men who are single parents too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are probably a lot of men who are single parents too?

Most of the men who turned me down were single parents. They were looking for a woman without kids.

[Anonymous]

Then they suck. You don't want them. And you don't want to waste even 15 minutes on them, or lure them, or con them into thinking they want you for even 1 or 2 or 3 dates. They are flawed and disgusting and horrid human beings who should not be around your beautiful child. How do you not see this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:*sigh* well I'm sure he'll text me tomorrow so I'll let him know I have a child. That will be the end of the date before it starts.

Maybe try a better attitude and sell yourself as a great catch with a wonderful kid?

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

37

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then they suck. You don't want them. And you don't want to waste even 15 minutes on them, or lure them, or con them into thinking they want you for even 1 or 2 or 3 dates. They are flawed and disgusting and horrid human beings who should not be around your beautiful child. How do you not see this?

I'm not trying to con anyone, I just want to be giving a fair chance. Shit, I wish I weren't divorced so I wouldn't have to deal with this crap, but life didn't work out that way.