DH has a bank account I didn't know about

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He has about $300,000 worth of stock in it. I didn't know about this account. He says it is for "us". But if that was so, then why do I not know about it? This all came to light when we were talking about budgeting and how to spend less on the credit card. We have minimal debt, other than the house payment but dh worries about it. That's when he mentioned that account. It's not retirement or college account. It is just sitting there. Meanwhile, I've been scrimping and saving to pay for kids activities, etc, nevermind clothing or whatever for me. All this time that money was there. He says he just didn't think to lay everything out and it wasn't purposeful. He has always been tight with money but I didn't think of him as being dishonest. Would you be upset about this?

I work full time. My paycheck goes into the joint account. He knows where my money is. It feels unfair.

[Anonymous]

Tell him that you want your name added to the account.

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It's wrong, it's bad, of course I would be upset.

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I assume you are bad with money and he thought if you knew about it then you would spend it

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Where does his paycheck go? How did he save for this?

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I'm not bad with money. I have under 5k in debt. I'm responsible. I work hard. Not sure where that came from.

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Where did the 300,000 come from? This is crazy.

[Anonymous]

How odd. Women on this site constantly advise other women to have secret bank accounts.

Maybe he's prepping!

[Anonymous]

He says that he takes part of his paycheck, buys stock and puts it away for later. I never saw the money bc he invested before it was in the joint account.

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Is the money from an inheritance? His parents? Stock windfall from a former employer? What's your hhi?

[Anonymous]

Wow, thanks guys! I guess it's all my fault and he's prepping to leave and I'm just dumb for trusting my husband? Jeez.

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Anonymous wrote:Is the money from an inheritance? His parents? Stock windfall from a former employer? What's your hhi?

Not an inheritance. Together we make about 220 K.

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Anonymous wrote:He says that he takes part of his paycheck, buys stock and puts it away for later. I never saw the money bc he invested before it was in the joint account.

How much from his paycheck? It must be a substantial amount, or he's a really, really good investor.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He says that he takes part of his paycheck, buys stock and puts it away for later. I never saw the money bc he invested before it was in the joint account.

How much from his paycheck? It must be a substantial amount, or he's a really, really good investor.

He loves researching stocks. He always has since he was a teen. But that's not his line of buisiness.

I just discovered this this past weekend so I don't know the details of how much he spends. I just know he invests on a regular (monthly?) basis.

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I'd be upset. How long have you been married? The "not mentioning it" bit is weird. Do you review your joint tax return? How long has this account been around?