No Kids at Wedding - Why So Much Anger?!

[Anonymous]

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No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

The shockingly high rates of loneliness and depression in zoomers is well-documented. If that isn’t sad, I don’t know what is.

[Anonymous]

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No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

The shockingly high rates of loneliness and depression in zoomers is well-documented. If that isn’t sad, I don’t know what is.

You seem gleeful at the prospect of other people being lonely and depressed. Have you asked yourself why that is? I’m listening.

[Anonymous]

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No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

The shockingly high rates of loneliness and depression in zoomers is well-documented. If that isn’t sad, I don’t know what is.

You seem gleeful at the prospect of other people being lonely and depressed. Have you asked yourself why that is? I’m listening.

They are positively perseverating on sadness, aren't they?

[Anonymous]

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Deal with people not embedding your gifs for you, or at least calibrate your meter for sarcasm. You can do this.

As for weddings, we are arguing the same point.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

I think you need to figure out how to handle things for yourself, and you'll be a lot happier.

Girl, it's not that deep. Go touch grass.

Hey, I'm not the one who can't keep up. Insulting other people doesn't make you any better. Get it together.

[Anonymous]

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Deal with people not embedding your gifs for you, or at least calibrate your meter for sarcasm. You can do this.

As for weddings, we are arguing the same point.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

I think you need to figure out how to handle things for yourself, and you'll be a lot happier.

Girl, it's not that deep. Go touch grass.

Hey, I'm not the one who can't keep up. Insulting other people doesn't make you any better. Get it together.

As you insult people. You're just the gift that keeps on giving.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

The shockingly high rates of loneliness and depression in zoomers is well-documented. If that isn’t sad, I don’t know what is.

Provide the well-documented evidence-based connection between that and what we are talking about: child-free weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So a man invited his sister to his wedding but left out his 12yo niece/nephew, their child?
That’s rude.

I’ve been invited to
Adult only weddings by friends without kids. It doesn’t make me angry but sometimes I don’t go.
To be invited to a siblings wedding though, but my tween isn’t invited, that burns.

+1. The bride was awful for doing this.
It’s my 12-year-old daughter’s dream to attend a wedding. She would be devastated if a close family member were to get married and not invite her to the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So a man invited his sister to his wedding but left out his 12yo niece/nephew, their child?
That’s rude.

I’ve been invited to
Adult only weddings by friends without kids. It doesn’t make me angry but sometimes I don’t go.
To be invited to a siblings wedding though, but my tween isn’t invited, that burns.

+1. The bride was awful for doing this.
It’s my 12-year-old daughter’s dream to attend a wedding. She would be devastated if a close family member were to get married and not invite her to the wedding.

Look at what you just did: you blamed a bride for a groom’s decision.

THE MAN invited HIS SISTER to his wedding and not HIS NIECE. GROOM’S CALL. If I had told my husband-to-be that we would not be having his niece and nephew at the wedding, he would have put his foot down. Men who either make this decision or go along with the bride’s decision BEAR RESPONSIBILITY. Stop blaming women for everything!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So a man invited his sister to his wedding but left out his 12yo niece/nephew, their child?
That’s rude.

I’ve been invited to
Adult only weddings by friends without kids. It doesn’t make me angry but sometimes I don’t go.
To be invited to a siblings wedding though, but my tween isn’t invited, that burns.

+1. The bride was awful for doing this.
It’s my 12-year-old daughter’s dream to attend a wedding. She would be devastated if a close family member were to get married and not invite her to the wedding.

Well that's that. It's her dream.

Is it also her dream to be a maid of honor?

[Anonymous]

The 12 year old should dream bigger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The 12 year old should dream bigger.

Yeah.

The 12 year old should dream of a child-less wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If, like, you get invited to dinner at a White House occupied by a President you like, you gonna pi$$ and moan because the kids can't go too?
If you get invited to an anniversary dinner, do you ask if the kids can come?
If yes, just stay home until the kids are in the military or college,

The belief that your wedding is of similar importance to a state dinner is actually a really good summation of the problem of modern brides and grooms.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL had a no kids allowed destination wedding at a $1000/night resort that was hours away from an airport. We had a 2 year old and had never left him overnight and no childcare options. SIL tried to paint this as an amazing opportunity to take a child free 'vacation' (all her close friends also had kids) but we didn't end up going so her only sibling wasn't there.

Your husband didn’t go alone? When it’s a sibling and your only sibling and your child is 2 and the other parent can manage for a few days solo, not going is pretty aggressive. Did you encourage him to go? Did his sister go to your wedding?

DP but neither DH nor I would have encouraged or nagged the other person to go. 1K a night and a bunch of PTO to fly to a destination wedding
w/ o spouse and kids would be a no go for us at that time in our life. It’s insanely rude to assume your guests are going to sacrifice their family vacation time and budget because you want a destination wedding. If you want a destination wedding by all means have one but the obligations to attend completely change when you choose this path.

How much pto do you need for 1 night? You are just making excuses to be upset because they didn't invite your precious little toddler.

We’ve been told over and over that all brides (excuse me, 99.9%) are perfectly happy and never, ever rude when someone declines to attend their wedding for any reason whatsoever. But you seem to be very upset that someone chose not to use PTO to go to your wedding here. Oh dear. I guess you are a special one.

DP

It's not upsetting people decline the invitation. It's upsetting people making up disingenuous excuses for doing so.

Why lie about PTO and babysitters? Just say you are declining an invitation to an event that does not accommodate you in the special way you want to be accommodated. Babysitters and PTO is a passive aggressive protest, nothing more.

Isn’t that…any event anyone ever declines?

I’m declining your MLM party because it doesn’t accommodate my special wish not to be sold Mary Kay products.

I’m declining your happy hour because it doesn’t accommodate my special wish not to be around your odious boyfriend.

And I’m declining your wedding because it doesn’t accommodate my wish not to spend an extra $200 on you.

I don’t see why the latter is any different than the former two?

[Anonymous]

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Deal with people not embedding your gifs for you, or at least calibrate your meter for sarcasm. You can do this.

As for weddings, we are arguing the same point.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

I think you need to figure out how to handle things for yourself, and you'll be a lot happier.

Girl, it's not that deep. Go touch grass.

Hey, I'm not the one who can't keep up. Insulting other people doesn't make you any better. Get it together.

As you insult people. You're just the gift that keeps on giving.

I think it's pretty clear you aren't keeping up with the conversation. That's not an insult -- that's just you. Can't help you with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So a man invited his sister to his wedding but left out his 12yo niece/nephew, their child?
That’s rude.

I’ve been invited to
Adult only weddings by friends without kids. It doesn’t make me angry but sometimes I don’t go.
To be invited to a siblings wedding though, but my tween isn’t invited, that burns.

+1. The bride was awful for doing this.
It’s my 12-year-old daughter’s dream to attend a wedding. She would be devastated if a close family member were to get married and not invite her to the wedding.

Well that's that. It's her dream.

Is it also her dream to be a maid of honor?

Girl needs to aim higher. Make that bride give up her place so the 12 year old can feel the dream in her place