No Kids at Wedding - Why So Much Anger?!

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Anonymous wrote:I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

They seem to have a lot of negative people in their lives who want to dictate who is invited to their wedding and giving them grief for not inviting distant younger relatives without offering to help pay for the ever expanding guest list.

[Anonymous]

No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

It's a discussion if you don't want to discuss, see yourself out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it brings up a lot of complicated feelings. Weddings have always been traditionally family event with two families coming together and a new family starting. But a few years ago, there was a change to make everything perfect, Instagram worthy and aspirational so out with imperfect kids. I also think it goes hand-in-hand with parents, not parenting their kids which is a huge incentive to not have kids at a wedding.

Personally, I would rather have kids at my wedding, then have a perfect wedding, and I would definitely rather be inclusive of kids than lose and alienate family members.

Likewise family members should understand when a couple chooses to only have an adult only ceremony and not break relationships because they can’t bring their kids

The bigger shift is the couple paying for the wedding. If mom is paying, the grand kids and nieces and nephews are part of the deal because wedding have traditionally been family reunions

Good point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

They seem to have a lot of negative people in their lives who want to dictate who is invited to their wedding and giving them grief for not inviting distant younger relatives without offering to help pay for the ever expanding guest list.

+1

If these people had their way they would be arranging the marriages.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it brings up a lot of complicated feelings. Weddings have always been traditionally family event with two families coming together and a new family starting. But a few years ago, there was a change to make everything perfect, Instagram worthy and aspirational so out with imperfect kids. I also think it goes hand-in-hand with parents, not parenting their kids which is a huge incentive to not have kids at a wedding.

Personally, I would rather have kids at my wedding, then have a perfect wedding, and I would definitely rather be inclusive of kids than lose and alienate family members.

Likewise family members should understand when a couple chooses to only have an adult only ceremony and not break relationships because they can’t bring their kids

The bigger shift is the couple paying for the wedding. If mom is paying, the grand kids and nieces and nephews are part of the deal because wedding have traditionally been family reunions

Good point.

Their parents are probably broke paying hundreds of thousands for college and said they couldn't help with the wedding. So couples are paying for their weddings on their own. But that's not good for distant relatives who want a free chicken dinner and to see their kids breakdancing on the dance floor for a few hours.

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Anonymous wrote:If, like, you get invited to dinner at a White House occupied by a President you like, you gonna pi$$ and moan because the kids can't go too?
If you get invited to an anniversary dinner, do you ask if the kids can come?
If yes, just stay home until the kids are in the military or college,

I wouldn't expect kids to be invited to the WH since that has nothing to do with family.

I would expect children at family members anniversary parties for sure. I attended my grandparents 50th and various aunts and uncles anniversary dinners.

When people get married they are inviting more than family. Inviting family kids means you also need to allow you coworkers and college friends to bring their kids and that adds up quickly for a limited reception budget.

No it doesn't. Just like you don't have to invite your coworker's parents just because you invited your parents' parents, your cousin's parents, and your best friend's parents that helped raise you.

No way am I inviting some people’s kids and excluding others. That’s just wrong. Kid free wedding or kids are invited but it’s tacky to invite some and not others. (Wedding party being the exception.)

I think it's a very normal line to draw that children of family would be invited but not random acquaintances. Kids are people and like any other person, would be invited, or not invited, based on their relationship to the bride and groom.

Disagree, it’s like saying some people can bring a spouse and some people can’t.

I don’t care if you have a kid free wedding or not, but I think it’s bad manners to invite some and not all kids.

Not really. I've seen "only the kids in wedding party invited" also seen "only immediate family kids (nieces/nephews of the bridge and groom), also seen only relatives kids.

If I don't know my coworkers kids why the hell would I invite them to my wedding?!?!? Or just maybe even if I do, if they are not some of my best friends, I have limits on numbers/kids cost as much as adults/etc. so yeah I get to decide who to invite.
Mans you as an invitee get to decide who"yes or no" for attendance based on the invite. You don't get to add guests

Just because you get to decide doesn’t mean I don’t get to decide that you’re being tacky and rude. I already made an exception for kids in the wedding party. But telling your coworker he can’t bring his kids just to have him shop up and see all your nephews and nieces? Yeah, not cool.

No normal co-worker is going to get mad about that. Most people understand how this works and I doubt the clueless coworker who didn't would be the type someone would invite to their wedding in the first place.

Doesn’t make it any less rude. I had a child free wedding. I would never have done kids and not others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

It's a discussion if you don't want to discuss, see yourself out.

"See your therapist" was my contribution to the discussion.

Given the melodrama I can't be the only one who finds it an appropriate response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

It's a discussion if you don't want to discuss, see yourself out.

"See your therapist" was my contribution to the discussion.

Given the melodrama I can't be the only one who finds it an appropriate response.

Well, now you can go back under your rock with your 2018 contributions.

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Anonymous wrote:If, like, you get invited to dinner at a White House occupied by a President you like, you gonna pi$$ and moan because the kids can't go too?
If you get invited to an anniversary dinner, do you ask if the kids can come?
If yes, just stay home until the kids are in the military or college,

I wouldn't expect kids to be invited to the WH since that has nothing to do with family.

I would expect children at family members anniversary parties for sure. I attended my grandparents 50th and various aunts and uncles anniversary dinners.

When people get married they are inviting more than family. Inviting family kids means you also need to allow you coworkers and college friends to bring their kids and that adds up quickly for a limited reception budget.

No it doesn't. Just like you don't have to invite your coworker's parents just because you invited your parents' parents, your cousin's parents, and your best friend's parents that helped raise you.

No way am I inviting some people’s kids and excluding others. That’s just wrong. Kid free wedding or kids are invited but it’s tacky to invite some and not others. (Wedding party being the exception.)

I think it's a very normal line to draw that children of family would be invited but not random acquaintances. Kids are people and like any other person, would be invited, or not invited, based on their relationship to the bride and groom.

Disagree, it’s like saying some people can bring a spouse and some people can’t.

I don’t care if you have a kid free wedding or not, but I think it’s bad manners to invite some and not all kids.

Not really. I've seen "only the kids in wedding party invited" also seen "only immediate family kids (nieces/nephews of the bridge and groom), also seen only relatives kids.

If I don't know my coworkers kids why the hell would I invite them to my wedding?!?!? Or just maybe even if I do, if they are not some of my best friends, I have limits on numbers/kids cost as much as adults/etc. so yeah I get to decide who to invite.
Mans you as an invitee get to decide who"yes or no" for attendance based on the invite. You don't get to add guests

Just because you get to decide doesn’t mean I don’t get to decide that you’re being tacky and rude. I already made an exception for kids in the wedding party. But telling your coworker he can’t bring his kids just to have him shop up and see all your nephews and nieces? Yeah, not cool.

No normal co-worker is going to get mad about that. Most people understand how this works and I doubt the clueless coworker who didn't would be the type someone would invite to their wedding in the first place.

Doesn’t make it any less rude. I had a child free wedding. I would never have done kids and not others.

My kids would be bored out of their minds at a wedding of my co-worker where they don't know other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

They seem to have a lot of negative people in their lives who want to dictate who is invited to their wedding and giving them grief for not inviting distant younger relatives without offering to help pay for the ever expanding guest list.

DP. Right?

If you worry about zoomers, then let's not put the burden of holding society together on them. Let them judge what they want for their personal weddings, and expect the people who value big gatherings hold them themselves. That doesn't have to be as a wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

It's a discussion if you don't want to discuss, see yourself out.

"See your therapist" was my contribution to the discussion.

Given the melodrama I can't be the only one who finds it an appropriate response.

Well, now you can go back under your rock with your 2018 contributions.

You can go see your therapist.

[Anonymous]

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Deal with people not embedding your gifs for you, or at least calibrate your meter for sarcasm. You can do this.

As for weddings, we are arguing the same point.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

I think you need to figure out how to handle things for yourself, and you'll be a lot happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

See your therapists.

It's a discussion if you don't want to discuss, see yourself out.

"See your therapist" was my contribution to the discussion.

Given the melodrama I can't be the only one who finds it an appropriate response.

Well, you are not alone.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Deal with people not embedding your gifs for you, or at least calibrate your meter for sarcasm. You can do this.

As for weddings, we are arguing the same point.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.

I think you need to figure out how to handle things for yourself, and you'll be a lot happier.

Girl, it's not that deep. Go touch grass.