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Anonymous wrote:you mention "friends" often in this thread, OP. Do you ever wonder or worry what your friends think of your situation? Do you think they are horrified, impressed, envious, sympathetic...what?

We've talked about it. The ones who didn't know him were worried I'd gone crazy and was hooked up with a fat hairy man who sweated a lot. In fact the first time one of them met him she whispered to me "He's not fat OR hairy; good job!" I think we all just want each other to be happy and even if one person's version of happiness wouldn't be another person's we still are rooting for each other. My friend got together with a girl who has three cats. That would totally gross me out. But he's happy with her and her cats, so that's all I care about.

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She previously said her dog was not small enough to put in a purse. How big is a cockapoo?

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Anonymous wrote:how were you able to do an Alaskan cruise together without wife knowing?

They were having construction done on their house - I think she was supervising it or something.

So the wife got to deal with construction, dust, debris, contractors AND two little kids while her fab dh went on a cruise with his mistress. I hope you realize just how big of a jerk this guy is, Op. Narcissist? Sociopath? I don't know, but master manipulator and selfish bastard for sure.

No, the kids went to the grandparents for the week. She was going to go but wanted to stay at the house to supervise them.

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Anonymous wrote:when you go on trips do you tell family that you're going? I think I'd worry about there being an emergency and my family not knowing.

No. I let a friend know. We have been each other's emergency contact since college.
My parents are more the type to go "Oh that's terrible, feel better, good luck" than to jump on the next plane out here and swoop in to get all involved.

oh honey...

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Anonymous wrote:when you go on trips do you tell family that you're going? I think I'd worry about there being an emergency and my family not knowing.

No. I let a friend know. We have been each other's emergency contact since college.
My parents are more the type to go "Oh that's terrible, feel better, good luck" than to jump on the next plane out here and swoop in to get all involved.

Most of us never had parents or anyone else swoop in and handle our lives for us. We did that ourselves and we filtered what our parents even aware about. That's typical. It's up to you to live your life and get your act together. No one is going to do that for you.

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Anonymous wrote:you mention "friends" often in this thread, OP. Do you ever wonder or worry what your friends think of your situation? Do you think they are horrified, impressed, envious, sympathetic...what?

We've talked about it. The ones who didn't know him were worried I'd gone crazy and was hooked up with a fat hairy man who sweated a lot. In fact the first time one of them met him she whispered to me "He's not fat OR hairy; good job!" I think we all just want each other to be happy and even if one person's version of happiness wouldn't be another person's we still are rooting for each other. My friend got together with a girl who has three cats. That would totally gross me out. But he's happy with her and her cats, so that's all I care about.

And now we know this thread is officially fake. No adult would write like this.

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It just occurred to me that this would be a great way to develop a character for a book. By answering all these questions she now has now created a whole background.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:how were you able to do an Alaskan cruise together without wife knowing?

They were having construction done on their house - I think she was supervising it or something.

So the wife got to deal with construction, dust, debris, contractors AND two little kids while her fab dh went on a cruise with his mistress. I hope you realize just how big of a jerk this guy is, Op. Narcissist? Sociopath? I don't know, but master manipulator and selfish bastard for sure.

No, the kids went to the grandparents for the week. She was going to go but wanted to stay at the house to supervise them.

So he told her he was going to go ahead with a cruise without her? And you took the wife's spot on the cruise? Or did you mean the wife was going to go to the grandparents too for the week? Please clarify.

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Meh! I am being facetious. I am sure no one thinks that OP is real, not a troll, mentally stable!

Do you know how difficult it is to even have an affair? The logistics involved? And this high profile man is keeping a young mistress for 4 years without being outed? Sorry, in this conservative town - it is just not happening! Especially not in a setting where the man in question was in a professional setting, where reputations matter.

You are wrong! It happens and has happened to my personal knowledge and it will not be found out as long as one takes a few precautions and most important: the two parties to the affair don't share that information with anyone else.

lol, you mean besides revealing detailed information on a popular online forum?

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Anonymous wrote:A good looking man with pockets stuffed full of cash having to PAY a woman for sex....LOL.

He's not paying for sex. He's paying for a relationship dynamic that is different from what he has at home. I am the NP from a few pages back who was in a near-identical relationship. The guy I was with enjoyed keeping his wife on a tight leash financially while spending crazy amounts of money on me. Money was something they fought about and, fortunately for him, he was the one who earned it all so he could use it control her. We didn't have that dynamic in our relationship and he enjoyed doing things for me that were completely over-the-top. As another PP pointed out, guys like this do whatever the fuck they want. Their choices probably won't make sense to you, because you aren't that kind of person.

That's sick. There's no way I would want to associate with a guy like that. That's abusive behavior.

I didn't really put it together till years into our relationship. She still had plenty of nice things, a big house, help, vacations, etc., but he would use all of that as leverage against her. If she wanted to know where he was going or questioned him about something, she was an ungrateful bitch who needed to spend less time questioning him and more time trying to make him happy. Eventually he began to treat me the same way. The whole situation was gross, but I will never be with an emotionally abusive person again in the future. As far as I know, the wife is still trading her soul for horses and St. John suits. There's nothing quite like his and her STD testing before your 25th anniversary trip to Nevis!

OP, I hope you wouldn't put up with this kind of treatment. Do you have any reason to believe he is emotionally abusive to his wife? Is there a lot of gaslighting going on?

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Anonymous wrote:Your "emergency contact" friend who has known you for a long time...what does she think of your situation?

She just wants me to be careful and not get pregnant. She has said if we break up I can move in with her.

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Anonymous wrote:you mention "friends" often in this thread, OP. Do you ever wonder or worry what your friends think of your situation? Do you think they are horrified, impressed, envious, sympathetic...what?

We've talked about it. The ones who didn't know him were worried I'd gone crazy and was hooked up with a fat hairy man who sweated a lot. In fact the first time one of them met him she whispered to me "He's not fat OR hairy; good job!" I think we all just want each other to be happy and even if one person's version of happiness wouldn't be another person's we still are rooting for each other. My friend got together with a girl who has three cats. That would totally gross me out. But he's happy with her and her cats, so that's all I care about.

OP, what the hell does this even mean? Why did friends think he was fat and hairy? How is dating a cat owner even remotely the same as dating a married men with children?

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Anonymous wrote:
Meh! I am being facetious. I am sure no one thinks that OP is real, not a troll, mentally stable!

Do you know how difficult it is to even have an affair? The logistics involved? And this high profile man is keeping a young mistress for 4 years without being outed? Sorry, in this conservative town - it is just not happening! Especially not in a setting where the man in question was in a professional setting, where reputations matter.

You are wrong! It happens and has happened to my personal knowledge and it will not be found out as long as one takes a few precautions and most important: the two parties to the affair don't share that information with anyone else.

lol, you mean besides revealing detailed information on a popular online forum?

If I were the OP, and I wanted to do something like she is doing, I'd answer some questions truthfully and others provide incorrect information about others and no one would know the identity of the parties.

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Anonymous wrote:you mention "friends" often in this thread, OP. Do you ever wonder or worry what your friends think of your situation? Do you think they are horrified, impressed, envious, sympathetic...what?

We've talked about it. The ones who didn't know him were worried I'd gone crazy and was hooked up with a fat hairy man who sweated a lot. In fact the first time one of them met him she whispered to me "He's not fat OR hairy; good job!" I think we all just want each other to be happy and even if one person's version of happiness wouldn't be another person's we still are rooting for each other. My friend got together with a girl who has three cats. That would totally gross me out. But he's happy with her and her cats, so that's all I care about.

And now we know this thread is officially fake. No adult would write like this.

You'd be surprised...try hanging out at a spa/salon sometime.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Meh! I am being facetious. I am sure no one thinks that OP is real, not a troll, mentally stable!

Do you know how difficult it is to even have an affair? The logistics involved? And this high profile man is keeping a young mistress for 4 years without being outed? Sorry, in this conservative town - it is just not happening! Especially not in a setting where the man in question was in a professional setting, where reputations matter.

You are wrong! It happens and has happened to my personal knowledge and it will not be found out as long as one takes a few precautions and most important: the two parties to the affair don't share that information with anyone else.

lol, you mean besides revealing detailed information on a popular online forum?

+1 I mean, seriously, if anyone cared enough you could probably google names of white, male expert witnesses in their 30s on the topic of mental health who have authored two books and went on a book tour that may have included some of the following cities: Miami, LA, SF, Seattle, NYC, Vancouver. Married around 4 years, two kids, ages 3 and 4. It's not that hard...