Ask me anything: I am a kept woman

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Anonymous wrote:She previously said her dog was not small enough to put in a purse. How big is a cockapoo?

They can be different sizes. Mine is about 14 lbs. She could fit in one of those canvas Trader Joe's bags, but not my regular purses.

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Anonymous wrote:how were you able to do an Alaskan cruise together without wife knowing?

They were having construction done on their house - I think she was supervising it or something.

So the wife got to deal with construction, dust, debris, contractors AND two little kids while her fab dh went on a cruise with his mistress. I hope you realize just how big of a jerk this guy is, Op. Narcissist? Sociopath? I don't know, but master manipulator and selfish bastard for sure.

No, the kids went to the grandparents for the week. She was going to go but wanted to stay at the house to supervise them.

So he told her he was going to go ahead with a cruise without her? And you took the wife's spot on the cruise? Or did you mean the wife was going to go to the grandparents too for the week? Please clarify.

The wife and kids were going to stay at the grandparents during construction. I did not take the wife's place on the cruise.

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Anonymous wrote:She previously said her dog was not small enough to put in a purse. How big is a cockapoo?

They can be different sizes. Mine is about 14 lbs. She could fit in one of those canvas Trader Joe's bags, but not my regular purses.

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Anonymous wrote:you mention "friends" often in this thread, OP. Do you ever wonder or worry what your friends think of your situation? Do you think they are horrified, impressed, envious, sympathetic...what?

We've talked about it. The ones who didn't know him were worried I'd gone crazy and was hooked up with a fat hairy man who sweated a lot. In fact the first time one of them met him she whispered to me "He's not fat OR hairy; good job!" I think we all just want each other to be happy and even if one person's version of happiness wouldn't be another person's we still are rooting for each other. My friend got together with a girl who has three cats. That would totally gross me out. But he's happy with her and her cats, so that's all I care about.

OP, what the hell does this even mean? Why did friends think he was fat and hairy? How is dating a cat owner even remotely the same as dating a married men with children?

Because that's how we thought of older married men.

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OP, if your guy knew you were divulging what you are on here, would he be upset?

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op, would you consider yourself sentimental at all? Do you are about birthdays, spending holidays with your man, having him show any effort on Valentine's or are you not terribly concerned with that sort of thing?

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Meh! I am being facetious. I am sure no one thinks that OP is real, not a troll, mentally stable!

Do you know how difficult it is to even have an affair? The logistics involved? And this high profile man is keeping a young mistress for 4 years without being outed? Sorry, in this conservative town - it is just not happening! Especially not in a setting where the man in question was in a professional setting, where reputations matter.

You are wrong! It happens and has happened to my personal knowledge and it will not be found out as long as one takes a few precautions and most important: the two parties to the affair don't share that information with anyone else.

lol, you mean besides revealing detailed information on a popular online forum?

+1 I mean, seriously, if anyone cared enough you could probably google names of white, male expert witnesses in their 30s on the topic of mental health who have authored two books and went on a book tour that may have included some of the following cities: Miami, LA, SF, Seattle, NYC, Vancouver. Married around 4 years, two kids, ages 3 and 4. It's not that hard...

Again, you are making the assumption that even if OP is not a troll, that she is answering every question truthfully. I suggest that she is throwing a few red herrings to throw people off track. What would she gain by revealing enough accurate information that would out her benefactor?

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Anonymous wrote:I was interested in this thread and asked OP a bunch of questions earlier that she didn't answer. I'm still not sure she's real, but if she is, I have to say that I no longer care. Clearly there's something "off" about her - drugs, personality disorder, something like that - because of the detached nature of her answers and her sociopathic view of relationships. Probably why the guy likes her - she's emotionally simple.

The only question I'd really like her to answer, which I know she won't because it gets at the heart of the whole issue, is:

If he was with you before the wedding and is so emotionally attached to you, why did he marry his wife and have children with her? Why can't you accept that he prefers her to you, and chose her over you?

I already gave my guess as to why he married her. I don't care that he prefers being married to her instead of me - he wants kids and has them with her and I don't want kids. So he and I being married wouldn't work.

You were like 19 or 20 when he got married to her, weren't you? 30 something men know that no 19/20 (24) year old KNOWS if they want children or not because late teens/early 20's are barely out of childhood themselves. He married this woman because he wanted HER. He sleeps with YOU because you let him.

Plenty of child-free women on this forum have stated they knew at that age they didn't want kids.

Sure, at 24 I didn't want kids. Then I matured, met the man I wanted to marry, and very much wanted children.

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Anonymous wrote:Your "emergency contact" friend who has known you for a long time...what does she think of your situation?

She just wants me to be careful and not get pregnant. She has said if we break up I can move in with her.

How soon until your lease is up on your current apartment? How soon until he gives you another 3 months worth of rent payment?

I think you should plan on not renewing this lease and moving in with your girlfriend. Let it be another surprise for him. Like you said, he doesn't control you, right? You don't need his permission to move do you? In the meantime, look for full time work. When you land a job - that can be another surprise for him.

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Meh! I am being facetious. I am sure no one thinks that OP is real, not a troll, mentally stable!

Do you know how difficult it is to even have an affair? The logistics involved? And this high profile man is keeping a young mistress for 4 years without being outed? Sorry, in this conservative town - it is just not happening! Especially not in a setting where the man in question was in a professional setting, where reputations matter.

You are wrong! It happens and has happened to my personal knowledge and it will not be found out as long as one takes a few precautions and most important: the two parties to the affair don't share that information with anyone else.

lol, you mean besides revealing detailed information on a popular online forum?

+1 I mean, seriously, if anyone cared enough you could probably google names of white, male expert witnesses in their 30s on the topic of mental health who have authored two books and went on a book tour that may have included some of the following cities: Miami, LA, SF, Seattle, NYC, Vancouver. Married around 4 years, two kids, ages 3 and 4. It's not that hard...

Again, you are making the assumption that even if OP is not a troll, that she is answering every question truthfully. I suggest that she is throwing a few red herrings to throw people off track. What would she gain by revealing enough accurate information that would out her benefactor?

Nice try at throwing of the bored readers who have ready access to google, OP! Looking forward to the first PP who posts their guess to this modern day game of Clue!

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Anonymous wrote:you mention "friends" often in this thread, OP. Do you ever wonder or worry what your friends think of your situation? Do you think they are horrified, impressed, envious, sympathetic...what?

We've talked about it. The ones who didn't know him were worried I'd gone crazy and was hooked up with a fat hairy man who sweated a lot. In fact the first time one of them met him she whispered to me "He's not fat OR hairy; good job!" I think we all just want each other to be happy and even if one person's version of happiness wouldn't be another person's we still are rooting for each other. My friend got together with a girl who has three cats. That would totally gross me out. But he's happy with her and her cats, so that's all I care about.

OP, what the hell does this even mean? Why did friends think he was fat and hairy? How is dating a cat owner even remotely the same as dating a married men with children?

Because that's how we thought of older married men.

When you are in your late teens/early 20's, the idea of having sex with a married guy ten or more years old is gross. Along the same lines as having to hang out with someone who owns three cats. Heck, when I was in college, dating a graduate student was considered weird. There were plenty of cute, interesting guys around your age available.

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Anonymous wrote:op, would you consider yourself sentimental at all? Do you are about birthdays, spending holidays with your man, having him show any effort on Valentine's or are you not terribly concerned with that sort of thing?

Sure. I'm not over the top about it, but I like to celebrate.

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If you man died in a car accident today, would you go to the funeral?

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Anonymous wrote:how were you able to do an Alaskan cruise together without wife knowing?

They were having construction done on their house - I think she was supervising it or something.

So the wife got to deal with construction, dust, debris, contractors AND two little kids while her fab dh went on a cruise with his mistress. I hope you realize just how big of a jerk this guy is, Op. Narcissist? Sociopath? I don't know, but master manipulator and selfish bastard for sure.

No, the kids went to the grandparents for the week. She was going to go but wanted to stay at the house to supervise them.

So he told her he was going to go ahead with a cruise without her? And you took the wife's spot on the cruise? Or did you mean the wife was going to go to the grandparents too for the week? Please clarify.

So he never had any intention, whatsoever, of being around to supervise this construction. Instead, he probably convinced his wife that neither one of them had to be there, she & the kids could stay with the grandparents, he could "travel for work". And, of course, when issues happened with the construction (as issues tend to do) the wife was the one who got to cancel her plans, stay behind and do the dirty work. Nice fella you landed yourself, there.

The wife and kids were going to stay at the grandparents during construction. I did not take the wife's place on the cruise.

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I get that you don't care about the wife, but don't you feel bad about the kids?