No Kids at Wedding - Why So Much Anger?!

[Anonymous]

If we could talk about Baby Fight Club, you would all know about Baby Fight Club. But I tell you true, it's because of the destination weddings. When you don't fly all the children out to Bora Bora for free, what do you expect them to do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So besides a few people saying they know/heard of a bridezilla complaining they didn't attend their wedding, almost exclusively all the hate on this thread is coming from parents who hate childfree weddings. Nonstop insults, insinuating they are mentally ill or bad people, yikes. It really makes the parents pushing for their children to be included look entitled, petty and rude.

Yep. Pretty much.

100%. They keep lashing out at everyone in these made up scenarios and calling people bridezillas as if most of the people here haven't already been married years. This isn't some retro version of The Knot.

+1. Its pretty obvious the ones married before 2010 are the ones still using the term “bridezilla.”

Someone suggested “gaping narcissist” earlier and I’m good with that. It’s gender neutral too, so also covers grooms.

So, having a wedding is now for narcissists? Seems like some people won't be happy unless it's just an open house block party for all ages.

Back in the day, marriages were based on political alliances, not on romantic feelings. I'm pretty sure that ditching these traditions is what gave us Columbine.

We are all bound tight by tradition. When will people learn.

We are not all bound tight by tradition. Speak for yourself.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So besides a few people saying they know/heard of a bridezilla complaining they didn't attend their wedding, almost exclusively all the hate on this thread is coming from parents who hate childfree weddings. Nonstop insults, insinuating they are mentally ill or bad people, yikes. It really makes the parents pushing for their children to be included look entitled, petty and rude.

Yep. Pretty much.

100%. They keep lashing out at everyone in these made up scenarios and calling people bridezillas as if most of the people here haven't already been married years. This isn't some retro version of The Knot.

+1. Its pretty obvious the ones married before 2010 are the ones still using the term “bridezilla.”

Someone suggested “gaping narcissist” earlier and I’m good with that. It’s gender neutral too, so also covers grooms.

So, having a wedding is now for narcissists? Seems like some people won't be happy unless it's just an open house block party for all ages.

Back in the day, marriages were based on political alliances, not on romantic feelings. I'm pretty sure that ditching these traditions is what gave us Columbine.

We are all bound tight by tradition. When will people learn.

We are not all bound tight by tradition. Speak for yourself.

https://tenor.com/search/over-your-head-gifs

It's kind of hilarious you sent a link to gifs as some kind of retort. Ok, grandma.

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Anonymous wrote:So besides a few people saying they know/heard of a bridezilla complaining they didn't attend their wedding, almost exclusively all the hate on this thread is coming from parents who hate childfree weddings. Nonstop insults, insinuating they are mentally ill or bad people, yikes. It really makes the parents pushing for their children to be included look entitled, petty and rude.

Yep. Pretty much.

100%. They keep lashing out at everyone in these made up scenarios and calling people bridezillas as if most of the people here haven't already been married years. This isn't some retro version of The Knot.

+1. Its pretty obvious the ones married before 2010 are the ones still using the term “bridezilla.”

Someone suggested “gaping narcissist” earlier and I’m good with that. It’s gender neutral too, so also covers grooms.

So, having a wedding is now for narcissists? Seems like some people won't be happy unless it's just an open house block party for all ages.

Back in the day, marriages were based on political alliances, not on romantic feelings. I'm pretty sure that ditching these traditions is what gave us Columbine.

We are all bound tight by tradition. When will people learn.

We are not all bound tight by tradition. Speak for yourself.

https://tenor.com/search/over-your-head-gifs

To be fair, I almost fell for that as well. It would not have surprised me to learn this was an actual statement form a child-free wedding opponent:

"Back in the day, marriages were based on political alliances, not on romantic feelings. I'm pretty sure that ditching these traditions is what gave us Columbine."

[Anonymous]

Why would I spend any effort? Sorry you can't keep up. Life is hard. Find a way to cope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would I spend any effort? Sorry you can't keep up. Life is hard. Find a way to cope.

Life does seem very hard. Shouldn't you be spending precious time with your children that you can't bear to be a part from for any amount of time? You seem a little hypocritical.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I are both the youngest of large families, and our kids are the youngest cousins on both sides. Several of our nieces and nephews have gotten married and had "adult only" weddings and our kids were the only first cousins excluded. (They are not babies-- they are 11 and 14.)

When my husband and I were both single we spent tons of time going to all our niblings' recitals, sporting events, plays, etc-- and now that we have kids, do you think our sibs show up for our kids in the same way? Nope.

To then have our kids cast aside at a family wedding is just another hurtful slight. It stings.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would I spend any effort? Sorry you can't keep up. Life is hard. Find a way to cope.

Life does seem very hard. Shouldn't you be spending precious time with your children that you can't bear to be a part from for any amount of time? You seem a little hypocritical.

It's going to get more difficult every year. Learn to deal.

And don't get snippy about the choices people make for their weddings, or about whether and why people are not willing to come to yours. Neither is defensible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both the youngest of large families, and our kids are the youngest cousins on both sides. Several of our nieces and nephews have gotten married and had "adult only" weddings and our kids were the only first cousins excluded. (They are not babies-- they are 11 and 14.)

When my husband and I were both single we spent tons of time going to all our niblings' recitals, sporting events, plays, etc-- and now that we have kids, do you think our sibs show up for our kids in the same way? Nope.

To then have our kids cast aside at a family wedding is just another hurtful slight. It stings.

I’m sorry your family is so awful. That is terrible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would I spend any effort? Sorry you can't keep up. Life is hard. Find a way to cope.

Life does seem very hard. Shouldn't you be spending precious time with your children that you can't bear to be a part from for any amount of time? You seem a little hypocritical.

It's going to get more difficult every year. Learn to deal.

And don't get snippy about the choices people make for their weddings, or about whether and why people are not willing to come to yours. Neither is defensible.

Learn to deal with what? The people who can't deal without their kids need to deal. The rest of us are live and let live. I've been married 18 years I'm not wishing and hoping anyone comes to a wedding I'm not even planning.

[Anonymous]

Deal with people not embedding your gifs for you, or at least calibrate your meter for sarcasm. You can do this.

As for weddings, we are arguing the same point.

[Anonymous]

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Your opinion is quite a shift and a result of an increasingly secular, selfish society. Yes, two families are being joined. The whole purpose was to have family, friends and congregants witness and support the union, not to throw a formal party.

The purpose is to throw a formal party, if that's what the couple decides.

It's not selfish. Your opinion about "society" is the result of you selfishly spinning a narrative that suits your own self-interest.

No… you are of a different, more lonely generation. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I are both the youngest of large families, and our kids are the youngest cousins on both sides. Several of our nieces and nephews have gotten married and had "adult only" weddings and our kids were the only first cousins excluded. (They are not babies-- they are 11 and 14.)

When my husband and I were both single we spent tons of time going to all our niblings' recitals, sporting events, plays, etc-- and now that we have kids, do you think our sibs show up for our kids in the same way? Nope.

To then have our kids cast aside at a family wedding is just another hurtful slight. It stings.

What a shame. That sucks and I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

I read this thread and I see why zoomers are so lonely and depressed. It is sad.

[Anonymous]

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Deal with people not embedding your gifs for you, or at least calibrate your meter for sarcasm. You can do this.

As for weddings, we are arguing the same point.

It's kind of sad you think you're being entertaining or teaching lessons or whatever it is you think you're doing here.