DH relatives forgetting that I kept my name
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Anonymous
| Several members of DH's family (grandparents, aunts/uncles) either don't know or don't remember that I kept my last name. I kept my maiden name on Facebook and they are all active users, but I digress. The past few years they have sent checks (which we are grateful for) around the holidays addressed to "Larlo and Larla Smith". Given that this is not my name, I can't do anything with these checks. We thank them and have never mentioned the name thing, but it's frustrating as a) I'd like to be addressed by my name and b) I manage our finances but can't cash the checks. Can I/he/we say anything? |
Anonymous
| My bank cashes checks with my husband's last name on them. Have you ever tried? |
Anonymous
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Why can't you deposit the checks into your joint account? There shouldn't be any problem with the checks in that regard.
I won't even touch you making a mountain out of a molehill with the rest of what you wrote but the checks are a nonissue as they are still usable. |
Anonymous
| Joint or husband's account. My husband's father after 15 years still calls me by the wrong first name. I long gave up on the last name concern. |
Anonymous
| My own family purposefully forgets I didn't change my name. Never had a problem depositing a check. |
Anonymous
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You can cash the checks.
Im pretty sure a random Aunt who speaks to you once a year probably barely remembers your first name or your last. I don't even remember the name of the third kid my good friend just had. Shit happens when you get old. Relax, not personal. |
Anonymous
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yes you can cash those checks but you instead choose to bitch.
This is what happens when you follow feminists dummies. You become a feminist dummy. Don't be a follower. |
Anonymous
| Stop. |
Anonymous
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I never changed my name, I don't mind that some family members either don't remember or prefer to use my husband's, and I have never had problems cashing checks. |
Anonymous
| Second the mountain out of a molehill. Stop trying to be offended. And yes, you can cash those checks. |
Anonymous
I'm sorry, but given that the majority of women still mindlessly give up their names, I don't think keeping your own name makes you a follower. Sorry the thought threatens you though. |
Anonymous
+1 Have you even tried OP? This is truly not the big deal you are making it out to be. |
Anonymous
| That's annoying, but the same thing happened to me with wedding checks, and the bank had no problem. If you have a joint account with your husband's name on it, or if he has an account in just his name, you should be fine. |
Anonymous
| It's very annoying. My own parents, my brother, and just about everyone in DH's family "forget." I just had a book published is November, name prominently on the cover, sent copies to everyone, and still they sent Christmas stuff to "Larlo and Larla Lastname." Clearly, there's a whole lot of passive-aggressive going on. |
Anonymous
+1 |