How do I go back to his place and watch a movie without having sex? Is that possible?

[Anonymous]

Second date, going to dinner and then he wants to watching a movie at his place. The theatre here is at a mall and a suicide mission to try and park there the weekend before Christmas. We had planned to watch a movie at the theatre until we both realized we didn't want to even try to park there,
so that's how the idea came up.
First date was drinks and walking around an outdoor mall. Kissing only.
I have know him for about 6 months through work (we don't work together!) and have talked a lot through our jobs before going out so not a stranger.

[Anonymous]

I have been in this situation and you simply say no or pull away if you get to making out and you think it's going further than you want to go. Make sure a friend knows where you are and who you are with just to be safe.

[Anonymous]

Don't take your pants off!

[Anonymous]

I'm a pretty open person and would say upfront "I know what Netflix and chill really means, but I really like you and don't want to mess it up by moving too fast." If he's cool and likes you too, he'll get it.

Also, wear something super annoying to unfasten/get off so there's time to stop yourself have fun!

[Anonymous]

You could go to a theater in a neighboring town.

You could turn the parking hunt into a memorable mission.

You could skip the movie and do something else for date night.

[Anonymous]

Just stay off his private parts. Not that difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a pretty open person and would say upfront "I know what Netflix and chill really means, but I really like you and don't want to mess it up by moving too fast." If he's cool and likes you too, he'll get it.

Also, wear something super annoying to unfasten/get off so there's time to stop yourself have fun!

I agree with this except the "stop yourself" part. If you want to have sex, then go ahead and have sex.

[Anonymous]

Suggest a three hour action movie with tons of explosions and hot looking women. He'll stay focused on the movie. That should take up most of the post dinner evening.

[Anonymous]

Say "I'm just here to watch a movie. Ain't getting naked with anyone tonight."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a pretty open person and would say upfront "I know what Netflix and chill really means, but I really like you and don't want to mess it up by moving too fast." If he's cool and likes you too, he'll get it.

Also, wear something super annoying to unfasten/get off so there's time to stop yourself have fun!

I agree with this except the "stop yourself" part. If you want to have sex, then go ahead and have sex.

This.
- married for 19 years, after having sex on the second date

[Anonymous]

yeah, why stop yourself?

[Anonymous]

She's asking if it's possible to, and these are suggestions on how to make it possible.

[Anonymous]

Just don't go to his place if you're not interested in getting intimate. Pretty simple.

[Anonymous]

You can joke and say "I'm looking forward to seeing you and watching a movie, but I'm not ready to 'watch a movie' [make exaggerated air quotes], if you know what I mean!" Say it with a smile and he'll get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a pretty open person and would say upfront "I know what Netflix and chill really means, but I really like you and don't want to mess it up by moving too fast." If he's cool and likes you too, he'll get it.

Also, wear something super annoying to unfasten/get off so there's time to stop yourself have fun!

I agree with this except the "stop yourself" part. If you want to have sex, then go ahead and have sex.

This.
- married for 19 years, after having sex on the second date

Agree (also had sex with my DH on our second date)