How do I go back to his place and watch a movie without having sex? Is that possible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this what people are expecting now?? Back on the dating scene and I honestly can't imagine having sex with someone before date 7-10! Man I'm screwed.

Nope, you aren't screwed and with that attitude you likely won't be any time soon. Not in HS any more. Guys aren't going to wait around for ten dates. 3-5 dates and no sex, any man that isn't desperate will assume you aren't interested and move on.

[Anonymous]

To answer OP's question:

Is it possible? Sure it is but why decide now? Trust your instincts, wear your Nike gear and "just do it"

[Anonymous]

Op here with an update.
To answer a few questions, I have known him for about 6 months through work, we don't work together (I'm a contractor on an "as needed" basis where he works, we are in separate buildings) to clear up that we are NOT coworkers and NOT strangers. Very familiar with and have talked to him a lot before dating.
I took a lot of advice so here is what I did and how it ended up. I am grateful to the person who suggested a dress and tights, that made me laugh at first but was also a great point.
I also liked the idea of being up front about it and laughing, even though that person got shot down, that is exactly what I did and it worked perfectly. I did it before the movie and he laughed too and said he was also worried I thought he meant "Netflix and chill" like the young people on Tindr and wouldn't want to come. So we Netflix and halfway chilled and it was awesome.
And the news said there were 6 car accidents in the mall parking lot, and 20 something cars ticketed/towed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say "I'm just here to watch a movie. Ain't getting naked with anyone tonight."

90% of the time a woman has told me that she was naked within an hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this what people are expecting now?? Back on the dating scene and I honestly can't imagine having sex with someone before date 7-10! Man I'm screwed.

So you expect a man to pony up 10 x $100-200 per date - $1000-2000 in overpriced food and wine to get your pants off? So classy. Why don't I just cut to the chase and give you a Christian Dior Diorama the first time I pick you up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here with an update.
To answer a few questions, I have known him for about 6 months through work, we don't work together (I'm a contractor on an "as needed" basis where he works, we are in separate buildings) to clear up that we are NOT coworkers and NOT strangers. Very familiar with and have talked to him a lot before dating.
I took a lot of advice so here is what I did and how it ended up. I am grateful to the person who suggested a dress and tights, that made me laugh at first but was also a great point.
I also liked the idea of being up front about it and laughing, even though that person got shot down, that is exactly what I did and it worked perfectly. I did it before the movie and he laughed too and said he was also worried I thought he meant "Netflix and chill" like the young people on Tindr and wouldn't want to come. So we Netflix and halfway chilled and it was awesome.
And the news said there were 6 car accidents in the mall parking lot, and 20 something cars ticketed/towed

Good for you OP! Glad it ended up so well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't go to his place. Do something else with better parking.

Also don't date mother fuckers from work.

I thought the same thing!

Depressing.

[Anonymous]

Glad it worked out, OP! Happy for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here with an update.
To answer a few questions, I have known him for about 6 months through work, we don't work together (I'm a contractor on an "as needed" basis where he works, we are in separate buildings) to clear up that we are NOT coworkers and NOT strangers. Very familiar with and have talked to him a lot before dating.
I took a lot of advice so here is what I did and how it ended up. I am grateful to the person who suggested a dress and tights, that made me laugh at first but was also a great point.
I also liked the idea of being up front about it and laughing, even though that person got shot down, that is exactly what I did and it worked perfectly. I did it before the movie and he laughed too and said he was also worried I thought he meant "Netflix and chill" like the young people on Tindr and wouldn't want to come. So we Netflix and halfway chilled and it was awesome.
And the news said there were 6 car accidents in the mall parking lot, and 20 something cars ticketed/towed

You slept with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here with an update.
To answer a few questions, I have known him for about 6 months through work, we don't work together (I'm a contractor on an "as needed" basis where he works, we are in separate buildings) to clear up that we are NOT coworkers and NOT strangers. Very familiar with and have talked to him a lot before dating.

Hmmm you have known this guy for 6 months and you're not sure you want to have sex with him yet? Sounds like you need to rethink this. You don't sound really interested.

Anonymous wrote:Op here with an update.
I took a lot of advice so here is what I did and how it ended up. I am grateful to the person who suggested a dress and tights, that made me laugh at first but was also a great point.

Because no man ever managed to get a chick to take off a dress and tights...

Did he even try to have sex with you? If not, that seems kinda weak tbh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this what people are expecting now?? Back on the dating scene and I honestly can't imagine having sex with someone before date 7-10! Man I'm screwed.

No - move at the pace you want. Im more of a 8-12 date range and I've never had a guy ditch me for it. They'll wait if they're into you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this what people are expecting now?? Back on the dating scene and I honestly can't imagine having sex with someone before date 7-10! Man I'm screwed.

Nope, you aren't screwed and with that attitude you likely won't be any time soon. Not in HS any more. Guys aren't going to wait around for ten dates. 3-5 dates and no sex, any man that isn't desperate will assume you aren't interested and move on.

that hasnt been my experience. guys have waited for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here with an update.
To answer a few questions, I have known him for about 6 months through work, we don't work together (I'm a contractor on an "as needed" basis where he works, we are in separate buildings) to clear up that we are NOT coworkers and NOT strangers. Very familiar with and have talked to him a lot before dating.
I took a lot of advice so here is what I did and how it ended up. I am grateful to the person who suggested a dress and tights, that made me laugh at first but was also a great point.
I also liked the idea of being up front about it and laughing, even though that person got shot down, that is exactly what I did and it worked perfectly. I did it before the movie and he laughed too and said he was also worried I thought he meant "Netflix and chill" like the young people on Tindr and wouldn't want to come. So we Netflix and halfway chilled and it was awesome.
And the news said there were 6 car accidents in the mall parking lot, and 20 something cars ticketed/towed

You slept with him.

OP here
I laughed so hard when I read this! My best friend listened to the entire story of my night and said the exact same thing. I did not!

[Anonymous]

Letting him get a piece of ass without spending a dime? Dream big. He's going to have tons of respect for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this what people are expecting now?? Back on the dating scene and I honestly can't imagine having sex with someone before date 7-10! Man I'm screwed.

No - move at the pace you want. Im more of a 8-12 date range and I've never had a guy ditch me for it. They'll wait if they're into you.

Not even Rihanna is interesting enough to take on 12 dates before action. You puritans must be dating some real top shelf beta male schmucks.