So I am thinking about using my Grandmother's address to send my kid to DCPS...

[Anonymous]

QUOTE: Good luck making friends. Do you think we're going to invite you & him to any birthday parties or playdates? No, you're choosing to put him in a situation where he's set up to be an outcast, and letting the playground politics play out is our response. A few years from now when he suffers from low self-esteem, withdraws from schools and performs poorly, has no friends and is on a path to failure he'll be blaming you for how much he hates school.

Take THAT and shove it

This is actually sickening. There IS an innocent child involved who it seems some people would purposefully shun to deal with an issue among adults. Simply nauseating. ( new poster)

[Anonymous]

I think so too. Take out your hatred on this mom, not a little boy. Honestly, it makes me sick to think of a mom writing that she will never have this child over for a playdate.

This world is full of really cruel people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get it. Thank you all for your opinions. I also want to apologize for my namecalling and my defensive tone. I honestly never thought that people would actually rat out my DS or purposely not invite him to bday parties and playdates just because we don't technically live in the area. I would never do that to someone... sorry but I guess I don't have that mean streak in me. Yes, it's risky but I really only want to see my son in a great school and since my Granny lives in that neighborhood and has lived there for years I figured I may chance it. I actually spoke to some people in her neighborhood and they displayed no issues when I mentioned it. Actually my DS plays with their kids and is pretty good friends with the neighborhood kids. This is a predominantly white neighborhood and (sorry for bringing up the race card but it is what it is) I am actually surprised that they have been so accepting of us.

Anyway, i'm rambling but I have decided against it. Although the neighborhood folks are cool with it, im afraid my son may run into one of you.

In defense of the non-neighborhood folks -- you aren't taking anything away from the in boundary families. It's the out of boundary families with children on the waiting list who will lose out if you take a spot dishonestly. In DC the majority of families who have in bounds spots at great schools are white, the majority of families on the waiting lists aren't -- their race doesn't determine how welcoming you are.

I wonder if you could up the nights you spend with Granny to 4, and change your driver's license and your tax witholding. You don't need to pay her rent (unless of course she needs you to). You could still keep the other apartment, so you had somewhere to go when you want a break, or on weekends, but you'd be a DC resident. I know a number of families who live in DC and have property elsewhere, a "farm" they retreat to or a ski house or a beach house -- they're still DC residents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
QUOTE: Good luck making friends. Do you think we're going to invite you & him to any birthday parties or playdates? No, you're choosing to put him in a situation where he's set up to be an outcast, and letting the playground politics play out is our response. A few years from now when he suffers from low self-esteem, withdraws from schools and performs poorly, has no friends and is on a path to failure he'll be blaming you for how much he hates school.

Take THAT and shove it

This is actually sickening. There IS an innocent child involved who it seems some people would purposefully shun to deal with an issue among adults. Simply nauseating. ( new poster)

When the OP said:

OP wrote:So while you miserable bitties sit around blowing a gasket, my son will attend your GREAT schools while using your tax dollars.

in an anonymous forum, then she is the one who instigated it all by starting the fire.

then she chose to pour gasoline on it when she added:

OP wrote:Take that and shove it.

Ergo she's the one who gets to take responsibility for provoking serious blowback.

Maybe next time she'll make smarter choices.

[Anonymous]

So this is news to me - and good news if true. Are certain DC elementary schools actually prized over MD schools? I guess we're talking PG county - not Bethesda / CC???

[Anonymous]

This is not a victimless crime. This person is stealing approx $18k from the city a year and refusing to pay taxes for it like all the rest of us DC residents. I hope someone rats her kid out and he has to endure the shame and humiliation of being called out of class in front of his mates. I also hope she gets liens placed on her income for the amount she owes the DC taxpayer. In fact it would be nice to see a few of these people prosecuted because this is obviously premeditated.

The "i only want the best for my child" argument is just BS. SO its now ok to break the law because you only wanted the best for something? Move to DC pay our goddamn high tax rate or stay in MD pay your low tax rate and send your kid to the school in your neighborhood. Also please stop taking up all the parking spots in our neighborhood on Sundays, you people dont live here anymore.

[Anonymous]

You guys are relentless...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys are relentless...

Only because you guys are shameless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a victimless crime. This person is stealing approx $18k from the city a year and refusing to pay taxes for it like all the rest of us DC residents. I hope someone rats her kid out and he has to endure the shame and humiliation of being called out of class in front of his mates. I also hope she gets liens placed on her income for the amount she owes the DC taxpayer. In fact it would be nice to see a few of these people prosecuted because this is obviously premeditated.

The "i only want the best for my child" argument is just BS. SO its now ok to break the law because you only wanted the best for something? Move to DC pay our goddamn high tax rate or stay in MD pay your low tax rate and send your kid to the school in your neighborhood. Also please stop taking up all the parking spots in our neighborhood on Sundays, you people dont live here anymore.

I'm one of the bitterest opponents of suburban church parkers, or rather of the preferential treatment they receive, but that "you people" comment was pretty low.

[Anonymous]

"you people" never comes out right.. no matter how you mean it.

[Anonymous]

Even if "you people" means the people who don't live in the city but still park in the neighborhood? Because in this case that's what it means. PC run amok.

[Anonymous]

If you live in the vicinity of a church what do you expect people to do? Catch the metro to church? Come on people... I understand your frustration but you chose to live in a city.. you had to know you would have to battle with parking. If you don't want to deal with that you should get a place with a garage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you live in the vicinity of a church what do you expect people to do? Catch the metro to church? Come on people... I understand your frustration but you chose to live in a city.. you had to know you would have to battle with parking. If you don't want to deal with that you should get a place with a garage.

Let's not turn this into a church parking debate. Please. And FWIW, I don't think anyone is objecting to people driving to church and parking legally. It is the illegal parking that blocks in the cars of residents that is objected to. If I park my car legally on Saturday afternoon, it is not fair for others (whether going to church or anywhere else) to block my car in while they go about their business. I might want to drive to church too. If I drive to church on Sunday and return to find all the legal places taken up with MD plate cars, then I really have no reason to b*tch; the issue is illegal/antisocial parking that harms other people, not merely having to "deal" with limited parking.

On the school issue. It seems like OP could pretty easily establish residency in DC. If she is splitting time between the two houses, she just needs to get some utilities in her name and then get her drivers license switched to DC. Her DH can still maintain residence in MD, and she can stay in MD as much as she likes. The critical issue is that she pays income taxes in DC on whatever money she earns from her job. That is all that concerns me. As long as she pays DC taxes, then no problem -- I don't care where she or DC sleep most nights. ANd, then she can be honest about her situation.

OP, DC taxes are higher than MD. But they are not they high. I bet the additional taxes from this switch would be less than the cost of even a cheap private school and certainly less than DC tuition. There is probably an easy legal solution to your problem OP.

[Anonymous]

Good grief if OP moved in and live there four nights a week it would be the same as many divorced kids with one parent in MD. Take a chill pill, folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.. im actually NOT missing the point. My original question was "has anyone ever done this?" If you haven't move on.. If you have then comment. I never said that she was his legal guardian.

So while you miserable bitties sit around blowing a gasket, my son will attend your GREAT schools while using your tax dollars. Take that and shove it.

End thread.

Well if you pull up to my DC's school with MD plates, I have been known to record the plates and forward such information to both the school and OSSE. I have known at least one student to get the boot. I do not know if it was the result of my reporting, or a multitude of reports.

I have MD plates and I live in DC. The issue of my plates are between me and MD. I also know kids that I one parent that lives in DC and the other in MD. Also there are alot of Millitary familes that do not have to change their tags. So why do you people stop being so F***King nosey!

Cool. I'll keep my eyes open for your car. I usually call ROSA--which is the DC branch that enforces auto registration requirements. They'll write you a ticket to the tune of $250 per incidence and after you rack up a few of those, you can let the judge know.