I had a 5 year affair with a gorgeous woman who’s 17 years younger (and I’m not rich) - AMA

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women don’t believe these stories because we were all young and hot once and not wasting our time at hotels with old married dudes. At a minimum an old married dude would have to be taking me somewhere nice.

That’s a good point. I don’t know anyone who sold out like this in their 20s or 30s. Not saying it doesn’t happen, but I don’t think it’s that common. Why waste time on a losing game when you can invest in being a winner.

She was clearly abused. But he doesn’t cate, she isn’t a person to him just a conquest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women don’t believe these stories because we were all young and hot once and not wasting our time at hotels with old married dudes. At a minimum an old married dude would have to be taking me somewhere nice.

Women with good emotional health can’t relate. Unfortunately there are some damaged people out there who make easy targets for people like OP to take advantage of. It’s truly sad.

Op Here: She initiated and pursued me. I really showed no interest in her initially because I didn’t think she was attainable and she is very culturally different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women don’t believe these stories because we were all young and hot once and not wasting our time at hotels with old married dudes. At a minimum an old married dude would have to be taking me somewhere nice.

That’s a good point. I don’t know anyone who sold out like this in their 20s or 30s. Not saying it doesn’t happen, but I don’t think it’s that common. Why waste time on a losing game when you can invest in being a winner.

OP said affair partner is short and fat so maybe she settled.

I said short and shapely (by no means fat)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP. I'm attractive and had an affair with a man 17 years older than me when I was 29 and he was 56. We had worked together for years so I just saw him as a peer, not an older man. Same story, both in sexless relationships and craved some excitement. Mine only lasted about 6 months though and took place at work after everyone would leave for the day.

How did yours start? How did you meet?

That's 27 years

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know you're an as$hole? Do you care if you traumatize your wife? Do you care if your kids hate you if they find out (because they will)?

I said be nice...

You also said “I do” even though You Don’t, you cheating rat bastard troll.

[Anonymous]

You are rich. Hope your wife dumps you and you end up like my Dad, still thinking you are Gods gift to women and all alone in a retirement home where we have zero respect for him.

[Anonymous]

why do you feel the need to brag about this on DCUM? I mean, I am one of the many who shrug at an affair, whatever, they are common, it's your life. I think your need to broadcast it is almost the bigger issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women don’t believe these stories because we were all young and hot once and not wasting our time at hotels with old married dudes. At a minimum an old married dude would have to be taking me somewhere nice.

This! What 20 year old wants to have an affair with a 40+yo man. At that age, you just want to hang out with your friends and have a good time. Who wants to hang out with an old man?

[Anonymous]

What sort of broken person do you need to be to not realize that 300K IS rich?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know you're an as$hole? Do you care if you traumatize your wife? Do you care if your kids hate you if they find out (because they will)?

I said be nice...

Ok but she didn’t say a f...ing asshole. She is being nice. LOL.

Seriously, she’s right though.

Probably. But it’s just sex.

No man. You’re an asshole. If it’s just sex, just tell your wife. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Man here and I'm curious about the logistics. Do you charge the hotels on her card so you dont' get caught? Do you go out at all like to dinner, or just hang in the hotel room the whole time?

What excuse do you use to account for the time you're with her?

[Anonymous]

Do you guys honestly think this OP is real??? It's probably a fantasy. What grown ass old man goes to an online anonymous forum and says this? I mean, really, NOTHING better to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here and I'm curious about the logistics. Do you charge the hotels on her card so you dont' get caught? Do you go out at all like to dinner, or just hang in the hotel room the whole time?

What excuse do you use to account for the time you're with her?

I'm not the OP but I am the PP (40s married guy with 24 yr old side chick) who posted above
Discretion is key. no electronic trace of anything. Use cash as much as possible .. restaurant, bars etc.
Have a burner untraceable phone. side chick does not know my primary number and it would be hard for her to cause damage if she decides to go crazy ...
Hotels.com gift card on a dummy account (not my primary account) so the hotel charges go towards the gift card. Usually have to provide a CC at check in but in 99% cases there is no charge to the card. Thankfully my wife doesn't pay attention to online credit card accounts so she would not notice any temp holds on the card at check in. She does look @ all the paper statements that come in so I need to be extra careful .. I also have a CC set up from a smaller bank ..paperless statements that she more or less does not know exists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you guys honestly think this OP is real??? It's probably a fantasy. What grown ass old man goes to an online anonymous forum and says this? I mean, really, NOTHING better to do?

Typical DCUM always calling troll because it's unfathomable a younger woman may find an older man attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you guys honestly think this OP is real??? It's probably a fantasy. What grown ass old man goes to an online anonymous forum and says this? I mean, really, NOTHING better to do?

he is not the only one. there are a lot of middle aged men in the same boat. see my posts on this thread also
my guess is 15-25% middle aged so called happily married guys cheat. and many of us do with with MUCH younger women (I get more attention from 20-30 yr old girls now in my mid40s than i ever did when I was 20-30 ... and I'm average ht, average looking, and bald/shaved head lol)