Turned down friends thermostat during the night and they feel I did something wrong....Question

[Anonymous]

You were both rude.

It was rude to adjust the thermostat, but they should not have reacted rudely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the thermostat were set to 71 in my house it would be intolerably hot. It wouldn’t bother me if a guest lowered it. My parents’ house is often too cold but I don’t touch their thermostat because I don’t understand it; I just open the window. However, this wastes energy, which I know they hate when they realize it.

Everyone insisting this is beyond the pale is totally wrong.

At the same time you *** don’t touch*** your own parents thermostat because you “don’t understand it”. This is the correct answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were both rude.

It was rude to adjust the thermostat, but they should not have reacted rudely.

I guess they are birds of a feather

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot imagine turning down the thermostat for the entire house because you were uncomfortable. Why would you think iit is ok. My guess is one of the rooms that someone else was sleeping in gets less heat and they were freezing.

They may also have an old system that takes awhile to get the house back up. Even just a few degrees in cold weather can take awhile.

+1

Rooms heat/cool differently in differently houses. By adjusting the thermostat 2 or 3 degress, you could have been changing the temp of someone else's room up to 5 or 6 degrees if they are closer to the unit.

[Anonymous]

You’re both incredibly rude. You shouldn’t have done it and they shouldn’t have raised it once you did.

Where do you people get your manners?

[Anonymous]

Come on guys. OP is full of $hit. Just a troll bored on a cold night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were both rude.

It was rude to adjust the thermostat, but they should not have reacted rudely.

Amen. Thread closed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the thermostat were set to 71 in my house it would be intolerably hot. It wouldn’t bother me if a guest lowered it. My parents’ house is often too cold but I don’t touch their thermostat because I don’t understand it; I just open the window. However, this wastes energy, which I know they hate when they realize it.

Everyone insisting this is beyond the pale is totally wrong.

Your opinion is that 71 is intolerably hot so of course it wouldn’t bother you if a guest lowered it, but obviously the host and owner of the home has a different comfort level....hence why they choose to keep their home at that temperature. What if the menopausal guest decided to lower the temperature to 51 degrees after the hosts were sleeping because that was most comfortable to her? Would that be equally acceptable to you?

[Anonymous]

It is selfish to adjust the whole house’s temperature to your comfort level.

As polite hosts, they should not have expressed their displeasure, butvIbakso think your behavior was very nervy.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's wrong to do this. Open a window or take off your shirt and sleep on top of the bedding. People are particular about their thermostat settings. You were wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the thermostat were set to 71 in my house it would be intolerably hot. It wouldn’t bother me if a guest lowered it. My parents’ house is often too cold but I don’t touch their thermostat because I don’t understand it; I just open the window. However, this wastes energy, which I know they hate when they realize it.

Everyone insisting this is beyond the pale is totally wrong.

At the same time you *** don’t touch*** your own parents thermostat because you “don’t understand it”. This is the correct answer.

If I understood it, I’d touch it. Because my parents are actually much more upset by A/C going out the window than they are by the thermostat being touched, which doesn’t bother them at all. So the notion that it’s crystal clear that the OP should have done something else to adjust the temperature for her only is kind of laughable. Clearly everyone insisting that it is has never discussed energy use with my parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the thermostat were set to 71 in my house it would be intolerably hot. It wouldn’t bother me if a guest lowered it. My parents’ house is often too cold but I don’t touch their thermostat because I don’t understand it; I just open the window. However, this wastes energy, which I know they hate when they realize it.

Everyone insisting this is beyond the pale is totally wrong.

Your opinion is that 71 is intolerably hot so of course it wouldn’t bother you if a guest lowered it, but obviously the host and owner of the home has a different comfort level....hence why they choose to keep their home at that temperature. What if the menopausal guest decided to lower the temperature to 51 degrees after the hosts were sleeping because that was most comfortable to her? Would that be equally acceptable to you?

That’s not what she did.

[Anonymous]

You overstepped.

[Anonymous]

Nothing pisses me off more than when DH changes the temperature on the bathroom heated floors, so I empathize with your friends.

[Anonymous]

NP

1. I'm a little wigged out by the posters who think it's a super big deal. These are not my people.

2. It would strike me as a little odd if the guest adjusted the thermostat, but I wouldn't flip out. I'd just adjust it back after they left ... If they were staying more than one night, I'd ask "Were you hot last night?," and we'd figure it out.

3. I agree the friends overreacted. This business of "you never touch a person's thermostat" is not some universal rule. Some of the posters are just very particular people.

4. Another variable: Are you close friends with these people? The more casual the acquaintance, the odder it is to adjust the thermostat. Among closer friends, who cares? Mi casa, tu casa.