Would marry someone who's cheap?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm dating someone who I think is fabulous. We have so much fun together, GREAT sex, are compatible in a lot of ways. One issue is that he's cheap. This scares me. I think it will become an issue down the road. I'm financially responsible, and at the same time enjoy luxuries. He on the other hand is flat out cheap! He constantly comments on the cost of things and how he doesn't want to pay for stuff. Could be something as inexpensive as $2. Anyone married to a cheap spouse? How is it?

watch this video this husband is cheap and very frugal he try get cheap or free stuff for his wife... but she love him...do you wanted to end up like this guy on vid unless you really really love him afterall you not married to him in marriage you suppose each other..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Peo2l3Wm5M&ab_channel=tlcuk

[Anonymous]

"He constantly comments on the cost of things and how he doesn't want to pay for stuff."

Hell no! I wouldn't even date someone like this. Life is too short to have happiness quashed like this. You can be financially responsible and even frugal but not be like this.

[Anonymous]

Sure didn’t work for me. Granted my husband made half of what I made but his constant wanting to control my spending was a deal breaker. He couldn’t respect my choices and I couldn’t respect his.

[Anonymous]

Run for the Hills. Cheapness means mentally ill or deprived.

[Anonymous]

Run away as fast as you can. Look up “ Extreme Cheapskates”, it was on TLC. The cheapskates will make your head spin.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

I had a very cheap nightmare of a father who was difficult to deal with on multiple fronts including being super cheap. If you would enjoy a future in which every special event or occasion is ruined by someone grumbling over the cost, you have to sit through humiliating and awkward meals in which he refuses to order any food or orders something ridiculously small, like a cup of soup that takes 30 seconds to eat, and then picks from everyone else’s plates and pressures them into feeding him, or where you receive gifts picked up at the dollar store or on super discount and so they’re horrible, or where he tries to wriggle out of paying your children’s school tuitions- then by all means marry this man! And enjoy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s worth having a conversation about it before ending it. Does he comment on the price but still buy things? My FIL likes to complain that gas/milk/etc is so expensive, but he still buys it.

If you are young and thinking of having kids, I would definitely be cautious, in case you end up staying home and having to fight with him about ‘his’ money. If you don’t want kids and have an established career, it may matter less because you can do what you want with your own money. I remember my parents getting into huge fights about money, my dad was cheap and my mom liked to spend. They would be at each other’s throats over $15. They got divorced, but get along great now that they don’t have to share finances. It isn’t that he is wrong and you are right or vise versa, but you do want to have balance. Spending the rest of your life justifying the $15 face wash vs the $.50 dial soap will be miserable.

Or marry him but keep your finances separate. That's what we do. My husband thinks nothing of spending $400 a month on booze, but he gave me jewelry from a consignment shop for Christmas and won't give more than 2% of his income to charity. It would have been a shame to miss out just because his ideas of finances are so far off of mine.

Why did you marry him?

[Anonymous]

Growing up I was always told that my uncle was cheap. He would only buy canned food, his car was 20 years old, he kept the house cold so he wouldn’t have to pay high utility bills, etc. He died about 12 years ago and it turns out he was a millionaire a few times over. He also had mental illness and this is how it manifested itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s worth having a conversation about it before ending it. Does he comment on the price but still buy things? My FIL likes to complain that gas/milk/etc is so expensive, but he still buys it.

If you are young and thinking of having kids, I would definitely be cautious, in case you end up staying home and having to fight with him about ‘his’ money. If you don’t want kids and have an established career, it may matter less because you can do what you want with your own money. I remember my parents getting into huge fights about money, my dad was cheap and my mom liked to spend. They would be at each other’s throats over $15. They got divorced, but get along great now that they don’t have to share finances. It isn’t that he is wrong and you are right or vise versa, but you do want to have balance. Spending the rest of your life justifying the $15 face wash vs the $.50 dial soap will be miserable.

Or marry him but keep your finances separate. That's what we do. My husband thinks nothing of spending $400 a month on booze, but he gave me jewelry from a consignment shop for Christmas and won't give more than 2% of his income to charity. It would have been a shame to miss out just because his ideas of finances are so far off of mine.

This is different. He's extravagant with himself but doesn't value you. IME there's always something wrong with a married couple who keeps finances separate, unless there were kids from a previous marriage.

[Anonymous]

I think you have to discuss and reach an agreement before marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s worth having a conversation about it before ending it. Does he comment on the price but still buy things? My FIL likes to complain that gas/milk/etc is so expensive, but he still buys it.

If you are young and thinking of having kids, I would definitely be cautious, in case you end up staying home and having to fight with him about ‘his’ money. If you don’t want kids and have an established career, it may matter less because you can do what you want with your own money. I remember my parents getting into huge fights about money, my dad was cheap and my mom liked to spend. They would be at each other’s throats over $15. They got divorced, but get along great now that they don’t have to share finances. It isn’t that he is wrong and you are right or vise versa, but you do want to have balance. Spending the rest of your life justifying the $15 face wash vs the $.50 dial soap will be miserable.

Or marry him but keep your finances separate. That's what we do. My husband thinks nothing of spending $400 a month on booze, but he gave me jewelry from a consignment shop for Christmas and won't give more than 2% of his income to charity. It would have been a shame to miss out just because his ideas of finances are so far off of mine.

Your husband isn’t cheap, he’s selfish. I’m sorry.

[Anonymous]

OP you deserve someone who’s treats you right. This guy is a cheap-ass jerk. Doesn’t even let you order dessert?? So when you went on your first date did he even pay? I’m guessing no? What guy takes a woman out to dinner and then tells her not to order things because of price?

Please find someone else who will treat you well and for heavens sake actually encourage you to order dessert, not grunt over the price. He sounds like he has major issues with money. I don’t care how everything else is- money is a HUGE part of marriage. You are headed for misery if you marry him.

[Anonymous]

One of the key traits that I looked for in a spouse was someone who was generous with their resources. At the time, my BF wasn't rich, but he lavished what he had on me. Now we're rich and he really spoils me. Find someone generous.

[Anonymous]

OP Have you ever seen the Joy Luck Club? If not- look it up. One of the women in the movie is married to a completely stingy a-hole. He has a running list on their fridge of who pays for what. He buys her a cat as a present -and then proceeds to put “cat food”, “kitty litter etc- basically anything cat related on her list of things that SHE is supposed to pay for. Your boyfriend will be this man and you will be miserable. Please save yourself now.