how best teach an 8-year old with decent skills to be more aggressive and energetic on the field?

[Anonymous]

Too young to worry about this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too young to worry about this

The OP is not worried. He’s trying to help his DD improve. As long as he’s not a jackass to his DD while teaching & encouraging her, they will have a great father/daughter bond and he doesn’t sound like a jackass at all.

OP, some girls have older brothers/sisters that they routinely play against so they are accustomed to being aggressive. Spend quality time practicing with her and enjoy the ride. The quality time & bonding between my DD and I is priceless for me. I hired a private trainer her for but after 3 sessions she said she prefers that I be her trainer. Hence, I read up and watched countless articles and YouTube videos. This not only helped her with soccer but I’m able to teach her life lessons too. It’s your daughter so no one has more vested interest in her than you and your wife especially if she loves soccer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Too young to worry about this

The OP is not worried. He’s trying to help his DD improve. As long as he’s not a jackass to his DD while teaching & encouraging her, they will have a great father/daughter bond and he doesn’t sound like a jackass at all.

OP, some girls have older brothers/sisters that they routinely play against so they are accustomed to being aggressive. Spend quality time practicing with her and enjoy the ride. The quality time & bonding between my DD and I is priceless for me. I hired a private trainer her for but after 3 sessions she said she prefers that I be her trainer. Hence, I read up and watched countless articles and YouTube videos. This not only helped her with soccer but I’m able to teach her life lessons too. It’s your daughter so no one has more vested interest in her than you and your wife especially if she loves soccer.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does it matter? She's getting exercise, enjoying the outdoors, learning the values of being a team player and good sportsmanship. Leave her alone and let her enjoy herself and get these benefits.

Why parents have to act like every kid is going to be some sports star is beyond me. There are so many benefits here. Don't spoil it for her.

OP here. I don't expect my daughter to be a soccer star. As I wrote, my praise outweighs my criticism by a ratio of 20 to 1. I'm not one of those crazed lunatic parents screaming angrily at my child from the sidelines.

But I do want to help her experience some larger success on the soccer field, in proportion to the skills that she has worked hard to develop. I think that it would be healthy and beneficial for her to see the fruits of her hard work realized in the form of making a large contribution to her team. I see nothing wrong with gently helping her to improve her performance in games. Would it be better if I were indifferent? I think that would be as bad as being too hard on her.

Why not let the coach focus on this? What's the coach for?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does it matter? She's getting exercise, enjoying the outdoors, learning the values of being a team player and good sportsmanship. Leave her alone and let her enjoy herself and get these benefits.

Why parents have to act like every kid is going to be some sports star is beyond me. There are so many benefits here. Don't spoil it for her.

OP here. I don't expect my daughter to be a soccer star. As I wrote, my praise outweighs my criticism by a ratio of 20 to 1. I'm not one of those crazed lunatic parents screaming angrily at my child from the sidelines.

But I do want to help her experience some larger success on the soccer field, in proportion to the skills that she has worked hard to develop. I think that it would be healthy and beneficial for her to see the fruits of her hard work realized in the form of making a large contribution to her team. I see nothing wrong with gently helping her to improve her performance in games. Would it be better if I were indifferent? I think that would be as bad as being too hard on her.

Why not let the coach focus on this? What's the coach for?!

OP here. I am the coach -- that is, I coach her team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does it matter? She's getting exercise, enjoying the outdoors, learning the values of being a team player and good sportsmanship. Leave her alone and let her enjoy herself and get these benefits.

Why parents have to act like every kid is going to be some sports star is beyond me. There are so many benefits here. Don't spoil it for her.

OP here. I don't expect my daughter to be a soccer star. As I wrote, my praise outweighs my criticism by a ratio of 20 to 1. I'm not one of those crazed lunatic parents screaming angrily at my child from the sidelines.

But I do want to help her experience some larger success on the soccer field, in proportion to the skills that she has worked hard to develop. I think that it would be healthy and beneficial for her to see the fruits of her hard work realized in the form of making a large contribution to her team. I see nothing wrong with gently helping her to improve her performance in games. Would it be better if I were indifferent? I think that would be as bad as being too hard on her.

Why not let the coach focus on this? What's the coach for?!

Coaches typically have 13+ players to coach. You think the coach has the time and energy pay attention to your DC teach/fix his/her kicking, dribbling or passing technique, encourage them to work on their weak foot, etc?

It took my DC’s previous coach almost a full season to realize that she’s ambidextrous.

[Anonymous]

ut I do want to help her experience some larger success on the soccer field, in proportion to the skills that she has worked hard to develop. I think that it would be healthy and beneficial for her to see the fruits of her hard work realized in the form of making a large contribution to her team.

OP, if she legitimately cared about this, she would be more aggressive and energetic on the field. I say this as a parent of an 11 year old boy, whose aggression and energy level changed a ton after U9, because he decided to become more invested in soccer. But it isn't like technical skills, which you can teach, or stamina, which you can improve by conditioning. Either she cares about winning/contributing or she doesn't. You're not going to train it into her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does it matter? She's getting exercise, enjoying the outdoors, learning the values of being a team player and good sportsmanship. Leave her alone and let her enjoy herself and get these benefits.

Why parents have to act like every kid is going to be some sports star is beyond me. There are so many benefits here. Don't spoil it for her.

OP here. I don't expect my daughter to be a soccer star. As I wrote, my praise outweighs my criticism by a ratio of 20 to 1. I'm not one of those crazed lunatic parents screaming angrily at my child from the sidelines.

But I do want to help her experience some larger success on the soccer field, in proportion to the skills that she has worked hard to develop. I think that it would be healthy and beneficial for her to see the fruits of her hard work realized in the form of making a large contribution to her team. I see nothing wrong with gently helping her to improve her performance in games. Would it be better if I were indifferent? I think that would be as bad as being too hard on her.

Why not let the coach focus on this? What's the coach for?!

OP here. I am the coach -- that is, I coach her team.

Hi coach