Why are people disappointed with boys/why do women want girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For people who say men don’t stay in touch or take care of you when you’re older, isn’t that mostly society’s expectations and how you raise them? So obviously if you parent them well with modern expectations they should be able to defy this stereotype...

One would hope (I sure do), but children aren't born in a vacuum. They pick up on societal expectations and culture outside of the home, too.

Through WWI US men were still closely tied to their mothers. The mothers of fallen soldiers received the flags for their sons, not their DIL. When we needed more men for WWII we social engineered things so that men were not as close to mom (because moms didn’t want their sons dying in another war).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we have to do this every two weeks? Honestly there's something super gross about these threads where it starts out as "I can't believe how many boy-haters feel comfortable saying they don't want sons," and then segues immediately into "LET ME TELL YOU HOW GIRLS SUCK" from a POV of someone with no girls. These "I would never want a girl" posters are just as jacked in the head as the "oh no it's a boy" posters.

That’s not what I was asking.

I was wondering why so many have gender disappointed for a boy, but rarely for a girl. What is it that every woman is after?

You are assuming facts not in evidence. This thread is full of people saying how glad they are they don't have girls. So now you have proof that it is not the case that every woman wants a girl and not a boy. End thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me personally, I grew up with all sisters, so that was what was familiar.

I think that's it. I have 3 brothers and 9 cousins (all guys), so raising boys is so easy to me. Some women also want a "do over" if they didn't have the happiest past. My SIL was relieved when she found out she's having girls because she's lower energy and didn't want to deal with sports, climbing up the walls etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me personally, I grew up with all sisters, so that was what was familiar.

I agree with this. I also was excited about raising the next generation of women sort of a woman to woman thing. That said I wasn't against having a boy, and would have been very happy to have a son. When it came down to it I was just happy to have a baby, because I didn't think it would ever happen for me sex didn't matter at that point.


I think it's strange/sad when people are so vested in the sex of their child that they get upset if the child isn't their preferred sex.

[Anonymous]

I have 5 children, 3 boys and 2 girls. They are all awesome and I adore them. On an incredibly shallow level I was excited to have baby girls because I couldn’t wait to dress them up and put bows in their hair.

[Anonymous]

This is only true if you are white. Minorities always want a boy

[Anonymous]

I have a good relationship with my parents and wanted a boy. Have a boy. He’s a tween now. Life is good.

[Anonymous]

I am a POC and I want girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a POC and I want girls.

What race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is only true if you are white. Minorities always want a boy

How about avoid using the words “minorities” and “always” in the same sentence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is only true if you are white. Minorities always want a boy

How about avoid using the words “minorities” and “always” in the same sentence.

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As relieved to have girls. Black woman.

[Anonymous]

My brother pretty much left me and my mom once he hit 18. My father wasn’t great. I am more familiar with the mom and daughter relationship

I have a 4 year old girl who is my world and we were hoping for a boy. I hope and think it’s all about the family dynamic, and I hope it family stays closer than mine did

[Anonymous]

A daughter is your daughter for the rest of her life

A son is your son until he takes a wife

[Anonymous]

I have one of each but I had really wanted a girl before I had my first (incidentally a boy) mostly because baby girl clothes are so freaking cute! But i LOVE my son and despite not really giving a shit about construction vehicles and trash trucks, I now notice every damn cement mixer driving down the street. Seriously he’s the best! And boy clothes can be pretty cute too, but the poop/fart humor really starts early. He’s a little ham! And when I was pregnant with my second, I wanted a girl again so I could have one of each, but as the time came closer I found myself wishing I was having another little boy bcuz my first was so adorable and sweet. But then my daughter was born and she is also awesome and her tiny shoes are so cute and wow are they different personality wise. She’s pretty funny too.

Moral of the story...both are awesome and people generally get over their initial disappointment. My friends that have all boys love them to death but are a bit wistful about not getting to buy little tutus/sparkly shit sometimes.

[Anonymous]

I love my son, but I hope to have a baby girl. Call me superficial, but I love the bows, clothes, tea parties, etc. I am going to try the Shettles Method as someone mentioned in a previous post.