Why are people disappointed with boys/why do women want girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is because men leave and don't keep the relationship with their family of origin up as much as a woman.

My mom isn’t engaged at ALL with her grandchildren, yet my mother in law is my absolute lifeline. As in, they’ve sold their house and moved to our town to help. This is my husbands mom.

I can have sons and still be an engaged grandparent/mother in law. Right?

Sure...if your daughter-in-law lets you ;0)

I’m a mom of a handful of boys (no girls). Literally every older mom I’ve ever met has told me that “boys” leave and “thank god they have a daughter who still calls” etc.

I adore my MIL. I invited her to the hospital when I delivered, she has a key to our house and she’s always welcome. I also remind my husband and kids to call/FaceTime with the grands.

I hope I don’t lose my boys to controlling future wives. I’m cautiously optimistic things will go well if we act cool, throw money at them, and generally are helpful. Fingers crossed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Girls are easier to take care of and are less likely to have ASD or learning disabilities.

Could not disagree with this more. Girls might be be more "calm", but I'll take the energy over the drama and emotions ANY day. My life (with two little boys) seems MUCH easier compared to the stories I hear about girls.

Your kids are young. Boys wouldn't be committing school shootings and suicide at rates so much higher than girls if they didn't have drama and emotions. And every little boy I know has tantrumed his way through toddlerhood just like the little girls.

[Anonymous]

Do we have to do this every two weeks? Honestly there's something super gross about these threads where it starts out as "I can't believe how many boy-haters feel comfortable saying they don't want sons," and then segues immediately into "LET ME TELL YOU HOW GIRLS SUCK" from a POV of someone with no girls. These "I would never want a girl" posters are just as jacked in the head as the "oh no it's a boy" posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 sons here and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Same.

I never had the "urge" to have a girl. Actually I hoped for a son as my first born, then I wanted another boy so they could be BFFs.


Np Can we please stop with the girl bashing? If you were really happy with all boys you wouldn't bash the girls. Who are you trying to convince?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is because men leave and don't keep the relationship with their family of origin up as much as a woman.

+1
This. Girls will take care of you when you're older. More time with grandchildren. Not having to navigate tricky DIL dynamics. Less likely your daughters will be involved in criminal activity.

Disagree. I am one of two girls and our parents do not expect us to take care of them when they are older. They are older now. Grandparents love my two boys as much as their granddaughters

Also, HUGE PLUS.... BOYS DON"T get pregnant. LOL

No LOL here. In this situation, I would 100% rather be the girl's parent than the boy's.

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Dp But boys do get girls pregnant. Are you saying you wouldn't care if they did?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do we have to do this every two weeks? Honestly there's something super gross about these threads where it starts out as "I can't believe how many boy-haters feel comfortable saying they don't want sons," and then segues immediately into "LET ME TELL YOU HOW GIRLS SUCK" from a POV of someone with no girls. These "I would never want a girl" posters are just as jacked in the head as the "oh no it's a boy" posters.

That’s not what I was asking.

I was wondering why so many have gender disappointed for a boy, but rarely for a girl. What is it that every woman is after?

[Anonymous]

I only want boys. I love my mom but I feel like mother/daughter relationships are so much emotional drama that I dont have energy for. I want a little boy or two who thinks I'm the prettiest, best smelling person on earth who cooks the best food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only want boys. I love my mom but I feel like mother/daughter relationships are so much emotional drama that I dont have energy for. I want a little boy or two who thinks I'm the prettiest, best smelling person on earth who cooks the best food.

Creepy.

[Anonymous]

For people who say men don’t stay in touch or take care of you when you’re older, isn’t that mostly society’s expectations and how you raise them? So obviously if you parent them well with modern expectations they should be able to defy this stereotype...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For people who say men don’t stay in touch or take care of you when you’re older, isn’t that mostly society’s expectations and how you raise them? So obviously if you parent them well with modern expectations they should be able to defy this stereotype...

This. Also, raise them with love and kindness and they will want to be close to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Girls are easier to take care of and are less likely to have ASD or learning disabilities.

This is a big myth. My dd has Autism and presents differently than boys and men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For people who say men don’t stay in touch or take care of you when you’re older, isn’t that mostly society’s expectations and how you raise them? So obviously if you parent them well with modern expectations they should be able to defy this stereotype...

One would hope (I sure do), but children aren't born in a vacuum. They pick up on societal expectations and culture outside of the home, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have both. I already am upset about having to be a mil one day. Men grown up and don’t care for their families

They do unless they are taught not to. If you model the behavior that women buy all the gifts/send all the cards/keep the family connected, they will see that as women's work. And if they don't marry, or are gay, and marry a smart woman who doesn't take on his family responsibilities, you and your husband will reap what you sowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is because men leave and don't keep the relationship with their family of origin up as much as a woman.

My mom isn’t engaged at ALL with her grandchildren, yet my mother in law is my absolute lifeline. As in, they’ve sold their house and moved to our town to help. This is my husbands mom.

I can have sons and still be an engaged grandparent/mother in law. Right?

Sure...if your daughter-in-law lets you ;0)

I’m a mom of a handful of boys (no girls). Literally every older mom I’ve ever met has told me that “boys” leave and “thank god they have a daughter who still calls” etc.

I adore my MIL. I invited her to the hospital when I delivered, she has a key to our house and she’s always welcome. I also remind my husband and kids to call/FaceTime with the grands.

I hope I don’t lose my boys to controlling future wives. I’m cautiously optimistic things will go well if we act cool, throw money at them, and generally are helpful. Fingers crossed.

Going into it with that attitude is not a good start. Why are you afraid of having "controlling DILs" instead of being worries about raising or having irresponsible, uncaring, passive, spineless, useless sons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I only want boys. I love my mom but I feel like mother/daughter relationships are so much emotional drama that I dont have energy for. I want a little boy or two who thinks I'm the prettiest, best smelling person on earth who cooks the best food.

Creepy.

Leave Jocasta alone!