Why are people disappointed with boys/why do women want girls?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it boils down to the fact that society accepts girls doing “boyish” things but does not accept boys doing “girly” things. So almost nobody who finds out they’re having a girl (these days) thinks “oh but I wanted a son to play sports and go camping with.” They figure they can do those things with a girl if they’re into it. But they do think “oh but I can’t get mani/pedis with my son or take him to the ballet.”

+1. You can do everything with a girl, but can only do boy things with a boy.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is because men leave and don't keep the relationship with their family of origin up as much as a woman.

My mom isn’t engaged at ALL with her grandchildren, yet my mother in law is my absolute lifeline. As in, they’ve sold their house and moved to our town to help. This is my husbands mom.

I can have sons and still be an engaged grandparent/mother in law. Right?

Sure...if your daughter-in-law lets you ;0)

I’m a mom of a handful of boys (no girls). Literally every older mom I’ve ever met has told me that “boys” leave and “thank god they have a daughter who still calls” etc.

I adore my MIL. I invited her to the hospital when I delivered, she has a key to our house and she’s always welcome. I also remind my husband and kids to call/FaceTime with the grands.

I hope I don’t lose my boys to controlling future wives. I’m cautiously optimistic things will go well if we act cool, throw money at them, and generally are helpful. Fingers crossed.

I think the way you raise your boys will help determine if the marry a woman who will want you to be engaged with the grandkids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is only true if you are white. Minorities always want a boy

No they do. Minority boys never take care of their own parents.

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Anonymous wrote:This is only true if you are white. Minorities always want a boy

No they do. Minority boys never take care of their own parents.

No they do not.

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Anonymous wrote:For me it was being able to re-write the crappy mother-daughter experience I had with my own mother, and also being able to experience certain childhood things all over again: the Ramona books, certain toys, certain activities. Obviously there are no guarantees, but I've gotten such a big kick out of sharing things with my daughter that my son doesn't quite appreciate as much. (Of course he and I have certain things too that we share.)

I read those with my boys. I've enjoyed raising them and showing them "girl" type things I enjoyed as a kid. Children aren't biased like adults are. My younger son loves the color pink. We should avoid stereotyping and pigeonholing our on kids into gender "norms". They miss so much that way.

I read them with my son too (why wouldn't I?), and he definitely didn't connect with them the way my daughter did. Just like my daughter almost always declines when my husband invites her to go into the yard to play baseball with him. I'm not going to pretend there are not any differences between my kids.

I'll admit that my boys didn't connect with the Little House or Anne of Green Gables books the way I did.