Why are people disappointed with boys/why do women want girls?

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Anonymous wrote:For me it was being able to re-write the crappy mother-daughter experience I had with my own mother, and also being able to experience certain childhood things all over again: the Ramona books, certain toys, certain activities. Obviously there are no guarantees, but I've gotten such a big kick out of sharing things with my daughter that my son doesn't quite appreciate as much. (Of course he and I have certain things too that we share.)

I read those with my boys. I've enjoyed raising them and showing them "girl" type things I enjoyed as a kid. Children aren't biased like adults are. My younger son loves the color pink. We should avoid stereotyping and pigeonholing our on kids into gender "norms". They miss so much that way.

I read them with my son too (why wouldn't I?), and he definitely didn't connect with them the way my daughter did. Just like my daughter almost always declines when my husband invites her to go into the yard to play baseball with him. I'm not going to pretend there are not any differences between my kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it is because men leave and don't keep the relationship with their family of origin up as much as a woman.

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This. Girls will take care of you when you're older. More time with grandchildren. Not having to navigate tricky DIL dynamics. Less likely your daughters will be involved in criminal activity.

Disagree. I am one of two girls and our parents do not expect us to take care of them when they are older. They are older now. Grandparents love my two boys as much as their granddaughters

Also, HUGE PLUS.... BOYS DON"T get pregnant. LOL

No LOL here. In this situation, I would 100% rather be the girl's parent than the boy's.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me it was being able to re-write the crappy mother-daughter experience I had with my own mother, and also being able to experience certain childhood things all over again: the Ramona books, certain toys, certain activities. Obviously there are no guarantees, but I've gotten such a big kick out of sharing things with my daughter that my son doesn't quite appreciate as much. (Of course he and I have certain things too that we share.)

I read those with my boys. I've enjoyed raising them and showing them "girl" type things I enjoyed as a kid. Children aren't biased like adults are. My younger son loves the color pink. We should avoid stereotyping and pigeonholing our on kids into gender "norms". They miss so much that way.

I read them with my son too (why wouldn't I?), and he definitely didn't connect with them the way my daughter did. Just like my daughter almost always declines when my husband invites her to go into the yard to play baseball with him. I'm not going to pretend there are not any differences between my kids.

Obviously there are differences between kids. But what are you saying here? That most girls aren't going to want to play baseball with their dad? Because last time I checked, softball etc. are hugely popular with girls (who normally aren't invited onto "baseball" teams).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s because girls relate, typically, in ways more familiar to women. I love my boys but my first son has what I would describe as a very stereotypically “male” mind. He’s not interested in people or psychology, he’s interested in engines. I’m sure there are girls like this but TBH fewer.

I am lucky that my second son has a different cast of mind that gives us a different way of relating. But when I talk with girls my sons’ ages they are startlingly able to *talk* about things...it’s different. That said I am also amazed by how difficult they seem, so it’s not like the grass is greener.

I have 2 of each. I used to think "boys are x" or "girls are X". Now I see that I was wrong and although there are absolutely some truths to sterotypes about boys and girls, there is so much more to it. Their personalities couldn't be more different and although I have a son obsessed with engines and vehicles (15), he is also extremely intuitive about people and psychology and we can have the most incredible discussions. My 19 year old son is the one I have the most spiritual/deep discussions with, and he is as manly as they come.

Sometimes I think we don't allow them to develop their "other side", but if more people did, we would find that boys and men have many of the traits inside them that we typically attribute to girls and think that men don't have. I tried hard to help them to just that, and they are still both so different due to inborn personality traits.

[Anonymous]

Girls are easier to take care of and are less likely to have ASD or learning disabilities.

[Anonymous]

I did not care about the sex of our child. DH is the one who wanted girls because he feels they are more caring and would care about maintaining a relationship with us once grown.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have both. I already am upset about having to be a mil one day. Men grown up and don’t care for their families

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Girls get married too, PP. This one is weird.

No one wants to have a daughter in law.

I do!!! I secretly hope that the girl my 19 year old is dating becomes my daughter in law. I couldn't imagine a more perfect girl for him and I have known her and her family for years and love her like my own. I mostly hope they get married one day because I believe she is the girl that will make him happy and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is because men leave and don't keep the relationship with their family of origin up as much as a woman.

Frequently, this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Girls are easier to take care of and are less likely to have ASD or learning disabilities.

Could not disagree with this more. Girls might be be more "calm", but I'll take the energy over the drama and emotions ANY day. My life (with two little boys) seems MUCH easier compared to the stories I hear about girls.

[Anonymous]

If you don't get it I'm not going to be able to explain it to you. Especially since it seems like you don't really want to understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did not care about the sex of our child. DH is the one who wanted girls because he feels they are more caring and would care about maintaining a relationship with us once grown.

I guess for me, I don't see this as a gender thing at all. My mom has a distanced, strained relationship with my sister and me. Yet, my sister's mother in law (so, her husbands mom) is a very active part of their lives. It has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with how involved you want to be a grandparent/parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Girls are easier to take care of and are less likely to have ASD or learning disabilities.

Could not disagree with this more. Girls might be be more "calm", but I'll take the energy over the drama and emotions ANY day. My life (with two little boys) seems MUCH easier compared to the stories I hear about girls.

Maybe moms with high drama boys don't want to tell you. My mom could tell you some stories about "mean girl" boy behavior in my brother's high school that would make anything that happened to me in high school look like kindergarten drama.

[Anonymous]

The smart moms want boys.

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I secretly wished for my firstborn to be a girl because I felt that I was somehow more prepared to be a first-time mom to a girl. When we found out we were having a boy, I was slightly disappointed for that reason. It didn't last long and I soon found out how awesome sons can be.

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I don't know, but I really wanted a girl. I was overjoyed when I found out we were having a little girl. Maybe becasue I was an only child and was/am really close with my mom.