Why do so many people not do their spouse’s laundry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone in my house does their own (kids started at about age 10).

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This is the most sensible thing. It is how I was raised and what we do though I may try starting at 8 or 9 since the kids would see it as more fun now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s something SAHMs say so they can feel like their husband is doing something around the house.

Personally it’s so much more efficient for one spouse to do the family laundry, one spouse to make lunches, etc. You can trade off tasks or weeks but everyone doing everything individually is not very productive.

And yet op says her nanny does the kids clothes. So WOHMs feel like their nannies are doing something around the house? It just seems weirdly ironic to say it’s somehow superior to do your spouse’s laundry, when someone else is taking care of it for your kids.

The answer to this is obvious, so you must not be very bright. Guessing you’re a SAHM?

WAHM with an Ivy League degree from a school you only wish your kids could get into. Suck it, sister.

A degree is not Ivy League, a school is Ivy League. Ha ha, does your online degree say “BA in Harvard English”?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find this thread so funny. It never would occur to me that my husband and I would do our own laundry. We have four people living in the house, two teenagers and two adults. Each and every one of us does all of the laundry when it’s our turn. So when it’s my turn I do everyone’s laundry and same with everybody else in the house.

I would never in a million years want my teen sons doing my laundry and folding my thong underwear!

Nope two adults, two teens, 4 hampers. Everyone does own laundry. DH does towels/rags, I do sheets.

If you are embarrassed about your thongs, don't wear them.

[Anonymous]

We have separate hampers and both me and wife hang dry stuff. Neither of us pays attention to the others stuff that shouldn't be tumble dryed so we just do our own.

[Anonymous]

We both work FT , same amount of hours. Why should the laundry default to me? We have separate hampers. I do mine, DDs plus towels, sheets etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone in my house does their own (kids started at about age 10).

Do you operate on a schedule? I’d be annoyed if I wanted to do laundry and the machine was in use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s something SAHMs say so they can feel like their husband is doing something around the house.

Personally it’s so much more efficient for one spouse to do the family laundry, one spouse to make lunches, etc. You can trade off tasks or weeks but everyone doing everything individually is not very productive.

And yet op says her nanny does the kids clothes. So WOHMs feel like their nannies are doing something around the house? It just seems weirdly ironic to say it’s somehow superior to do your spouse’s laundry, when someone else is taking care of it for your kids.

The answer to this is obvious, so you must not be very bright. Guessing you’re a SAHM?

What is with your weird digs at SAHMs on a topic that isn't even about that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so odd to me! DH and I have separate hampers but I wash everything. I combine his darks and lights with mine. I wash and fold and leave his on the dresser.

How would you have enough for a load if just doing for one person? Do you just do small loads or mix your lights and darks? I’m so confused by this!

LOL you don't think single folks wash or have enough to wash or it is just something couples or folks with children do?

When I was a single person I often did half sized loads of laundry, because it would have taken me ages to have enough to do a full load and frankly I didn’t have enough clothes to last long enough to do a full load. Just seems inefficient to me to do laundry separately in a house with more than 1 person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so odd to me! DH and I have separate hampers but I wash everything. I combine his darks and lights with mine. I wash and fold and leave his on the dresser.

How would you have enough for a load if just doing for one person? Do you just do small loads or mix your lights and darks? I’m so confused by this!

LOL you don't think single folks wash or have enough to wash or it is just something couples or folks with children do?

When I was a single person I often did half sized loads of laundry, because it would have taken me ages to have enough to do a full load and frankly I didn’t have enough clothes to last long enough to do a full load. Just seems inefficient to me to do laundry separately in a house with more than 1 person

Every member of my 4 person family creates a full load every 7-10. We have enough clothes to go that long between washings. I decide whose I’m doing next based upon whose hamper is the most full.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so odd to me! DH and I have separate hampers but I wash everything. I combine his darks and lights with mine. I wash and fold and leave his on the dresser.

How would you have enough for a load if just doing for one person? Do you just do small loads or mix your lights and darks? I’m so confused by this!

LOL you don't think single folks wash or have enough to wash or it is just something couples or folks with children do?

When I was a single person I often did half sized loads of laundry, because it would have taken me ages to have enough to do a full load and frankly I didn’t have enough clothes to last long enough to do a full load. Just seems inefficient to me to do laundry separately in a house with more than 1 person

This - I don't understand any of the above from an energy perspective - putting on a full load for each different type of cycle is much easier if you combine all the laundry.

[Anonymous]

Combing laundry loads is more of a pain to put away. I used to to do that when the kids were little, then switched to loads by room.

Now my kids are teenagers and everyone does their own laundry, husband included. It works for us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so odd to me! DH and I have separate hampers but I wash everything. I combine his darks and lights with mine. I wash and fold and leave his on the dresser.

How would you have enough for a load if just doing for one person? Do you just do small loads or mix your lights and darks? I’m so confused by this!

LOL you don't think single folks wash or have enough to wash or it is just something couples or folks with children do?

When I was a single person I often did half sized loads of laundry, because it would have taken me ages to have enough to do a full load and frankly I didn’t have enough clothes to last long enough to do a full load. Just seems inefficient to me to do laundry separately in a house with more than 1 person

This - I don't understand any of the above from an energy perspective - putting on a full load for each different type of cycle is much easier if you combine all the laundry.

I wash everything on cold except sheets and towels. I don’t separate by color except for pure red (which we rarely have.)

[Anonymous]

I get everything washed and dh folds. It works for us.

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Anonymous wrote: Do you guys keep separate racks of dirty dishes and each run the dishwasher for your own dishes too? LMAO. Each cook your own meals? Do you each shower in one half of the shower and clean only your half? Ridiculous

No, it wouldn’t make sense to run one person’s few dishes through a cycle in the dishwasher. One person’s laundry, however, can easily fill up the washing machine. I’m confused that you think it’s so utterly bizarre for an adult to be able to handle their own chores around the house?

We wash our clothes weekly, and both of our sets of clothes fill up one washer load for colors and one washer load for whites. Sometimes she does the laundry, sometimes I do. I'm confused that you're confused that we don't all split the house down the middle on everything, as evidenced by your statement that "an adult shoudl be able to handle their OWN chores." Just what are your OWN chores when you share a house, a table, a bed, a life? Bizarre thinking! So glad I dodged a bullet not married to 90% of people on DCUM

Ah. You and your husband share clothes as well. Interesting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Do you guys keep separate racks of dirty dishes and each run the dishwasher for your own dishes too? LMAO. Each cook your own meals? Do you each shower in one half of the shower and clean only your half? Ridiculous

No, it wouldn’t make sense to run one person’s few dishes through a cycle in the dishwasher. One person’s laundry, however, can easily fill up the washing machine. I’m confused that you think it’s so utterly bizarre for an adult to be able to handle their own chores around the house?

We wash our clothes weekly, and both of our sets of clothes fill up one washer load for colors and one washer load for whites. Sometimes she does the laundry, sometimes I do. I'm confused that you're confused that we don't all split the house down the middle on everything, as evidenced by your statement that "an adult shoudl be able to handle their OWN chores." Just what are your OWN chores when you share a house, a table, a bed, a life? Bizarre thinking! So glad I dodged a bullet not married to 90% of people on DCUM

Ah. You and your husband share clothes as well. Interesting.

I know reading is hard and confusing, but I'm the husband.