Divorced parents - are you changing your custody schedule bc of Covid19?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s kind of stupid to stop seeing your own child. Social distancing doesn’t mean you ditch your kid.

It does if you aren’t the sole provider and you’re still catching flights and running through hospitals making sales calls. Why risk it for a weekend dad day that will make the rest of the house sick while working from home and homeschooling during a 1 month closure? Yeah, no.

Maybe he's a weekend dad as you refuse shared custody. You don't deny visitation. If you want your child support, he has to continue working. I cannot imagine you'd agree to less child support, which is why there is so little visitation.

[Anonymous]

I am in California one shelter in place , work is crazy (now from home), Ex thinks teen DC should stay in one house (normally 80/20 schedule) and that house should be mine. I know he doesn’t have the supplies (groceries/toilet paper/hand sanitizer) and takes DC out for nearly every meal so I respect him for recognizing what is in DC’s best interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in California one shelter in place , work is crazy (now from home), Ex thinks teen DC should stay in one house (normally 80/20 schedule) and that house should be mine. I know he doesn’t have the supplies (groceries/toilet paper/hand sanitizer) and takes DC out for nearly every meal so I respect him for recognizing what is in DC’s best interest.

You are blessed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If there’s a lockdown, will we still be able to to go out to pick up our kids from the other parent.

Exactly. This would be considered a true reason to be out. Hence no need to cancel.

This is a good point ... I could see some unreasonable parents being like, oops Lockdown happened in my custodial time, no more TRANSITIONS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are keeping our usual schedule, but my ex showed up for the swap tonight and demanded to take my temperature before letting our child get into my car.

That’s actually reasonable.

It's a reasonable request. Doesn't sound like it was phrased in a reasonable way.

Well, if it was phrased rudely, then PP should not comply by any means. Better to infect the kid potentially than to just chalk the rudeness up to stress, the ex being an asshole, or the option to just not let someone push your buttons.

To me this is obnoxious, what parent would knowingly go around their kid when they're at risk for COVID-19? Seriously?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are keeping our usual schedule, but my ex showed up for the swap tonight and demanded to take my temperature before letting our child get into my car.

That’s actually reasonable.

It's a reasonable request. Doesn't sound like it was phrased in a reasonable way.

Well, if it was phrased rudely, then PP should not comply by any means. Better to infect the kid potentially than to just chalk the rudeness up to stress, the ex being an asshole, or the option to just not let someone push your buttons.

To me this is obnoxious, what parent would knowingly go around their kid when they're at risk for COVID-19? Seriously?

Same type of parents who smoke with their kids in the car or introduce their new partner of 3 whole fricking dates to.

Some of us here already deal with that type of parent. In that respect, business as usual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s kind of stupid to stop seeing your own child. Social distancing doesn’t mean you ditch your kid.

It does if you aren’t the sole provider and you’re still catching flights and running through hospitals making sales calls. Why risk it for a weekend dad day that will make the rest of the house sick while working from home and homeschooling during a 1 month closure? Yeah, no.

Why have any contact with that attitude? Just stop all visits and collect child support. That is all some here think is necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s kind of stupid to stop seeing your own child. Social distancing doesn’t mean you ditch your kid.

It does if you aren’t the sole provider and you’re still catching flights and running through hospitals making sales calls. Why risk it for a weekend dad day that will make the rest of the house sick while working from home and homeschooling during a 1 month closure? Yeah, no.

Why have any contact with that attitude? Just stop all visits and collect child support. That is all some here think is necessary.

Because the Court ordered it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s kind of stupid to stop seeing your own child. Social distancing doesn’t mean you ditch your kid.

It does if you aren’t the sole provider and you’re still catching flights and running through hospitals making sales calls. Why risk it for a weekend dad day that will make the rest of the house sick while working from home and homeschooling during a 1 month closure? Yeah, no.

Why have any contact with that attitude? Just stop all visits and collect child support. That is all some here think is necessary.

Because the Court ordered it.

+1

Trust me, I’d glad give up that whopping $100 a month if I could get a situation in which my X had no overnights.

[Anonymous]

I have my kid 24/7 normally so nothing will change.

[Anonymous]

We're all going to go and stay at my ex's place if a lockdown is announced. We don't want to take the risk that we won't be allowed to move the kids between places, and who knows how long a lockdown might last. Also, he has neighbors very close by that we've known for ages, and it feels safer to band together during a crisis like this. It's going to feel VERY weird and more than a little stressful, but it feels like the best option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We're all going to go and stay at my ex's place if a lockdown is announced. We don't want to take the risk that we won't be allowed to move the kids between places, and who knows how long a lockdown might last. Also, he has neighbors very close by that we've known for ages, and it feels safer to band together during a crisis like this. It's going to feel VERY weird and more than a little stressful, but it feels like the best option.

That’s great that you can do that. Sadly, not everyone can.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s kind of stupid to stop seeing your own child. Social distancing doesn’t mean you ditch your kid.

It does if you aren’t the sole provider and you’re still catching flights and running through hospitals making sales calls. Why risk it for a weekend dad day that will make the rest of the house sick while working from home and homeschooling during a 1 month closure? Yeah, no.

Why have any contact with that attitude? Just stop all visits and collect child support. That is all some here think is necessary.

Because the Court ordered it.

Courts will not do much if you don't allow visitation. They only care if child support is paid. That's why we have offices to help get child support for free but no offices to help with visitation issues for free. So, you can easily stop it and probably nothing will happen.

I think its sad its not about the kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s kind of stupid to stop seeing your own child. Social distancing doesn’t mean you ditch your kid.

It does if you aren’t the sole provider and you’re still catching flights and running through hospitals making sales calls. Why risk it for a weekend dad day that will make the rest of the house sick while working from home and homeschooling during a 1 month closure? Yeah, no.

Why have any contact with that attitude? Just stop all visits and collect child support. That is all some here think is necessary.

Because the Court ordered it.

Courts will not do much if you don't allow visitation. They only care if child support is paid. That's why we have offices to help get child support for free but no offices to help with visitation issues for free. So, you can easily stop it and probably nothing will happen.

I think its sad its not about the kids.

If people don’t pay child support, the state ends up covering that gap on the child’s needs. Which increases your taxes. Which I bet burns your biscuits and makes you vote for anti-woman, anti-child policies. But if John doesn’t see Johnny and Julie because he’s busy with his new family, it doesn’t impact your wallet. That’s why there are child support enforcement offices.

BTW, NCP who really need free help to get custody or visitation can go to Legal Aid clinics located right at the courthouse in many districts.

[Anonymous]

My ex went on vacation in FL last week. He wanted to see DC as soon as he flew back in. We could not agree on that and ultimately I just had to say no, he'll see you in 2 weeks. There is little he can do about it now (except tell DC that I'm being unreasonable).