Divorced parents - are you changing your custody schedule bc of Covid19?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the best thing is for the kids to stay with one, self-isolated parent while the non-isolated parent picks up groceries. prescriptions, etc. Truly isolate to the greatest degree possible.

That's absurd or let the parent who doesn't have the primary custody be the one who gets the child as the excuse for every other weekend is because the kids have school and now there is no school so the NCP should get the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH has every other weekend and I'm curious to see if bio mom pulls some BS this weekend and cancels the visit. Wouldn't surprise me if she did. We live roughly 15-20 mins apart and do exchanges car-to-car.

She probably will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH has every other weekend and I'm curious to see if bio mom pulls some BS this weekend and cancels the visit. Wouldn't surprise me if she did. We live roughly 15-20 mins apart and do exchanges car-to-car.

She probably will.

Wouldn’t be surprised.

[Anonymous]

If there’s a lockdown, will we still be able to to go out to pick up our kids from the other parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If there’s a lockdown, will we still be able to to go out to pick up our kids from the other parent.

Exactly. This would be considered a true reason to be out. Hence no need to cancel.

[Anonymous]

DH's ex has already tried this bs. Meanwhile, she's still letting DD have sleepovers and hang out with her friends. Going to Dad's' = bad, Going to friends = okay. Oh, they joys of divorce just keep giving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are keeping our usual schedule, but my ex showed up for the swap tonight and demanded to take my temperature before letting our child get into my car.

That’s actually reasonable.

It's a reasonable request. Doesn't sound like it was phrased in a reasonable way.

Well, if it was phrased rudely, then PP should not comply by any means. Better to infect the kid potentially than to just chalk the rudeness up to stress, the ex being an asshole, or the option to just not let someone push your buttons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If there’s a lockdown, will we still be able to to go out to pick up our kids from the other parent.

Exactly. This would be considered a true reason to be out. Hence no need to cancel.

Who has confirmed that?

It is not the case in Italy. Doesn’t seem to be the case in France.

Only necessary trips from home are allowed, for work, grocery shopping, exercise or health reasons; family and social gatherings are out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If there’s a lockdown, will we still be able to to go out to pick up our kids from the other parent.

Exactly. This would be considered a true reason to be out. Hence no need to cancel.

Who has confirmed that?

It is not the case in Italy. Doesn’t seem to be the case in France.

Only necessary trips from home are allowed, for work, grocery shopping, exercise or health reasons; family and social gatherings are out.

More specifically, from https://www.thelocal.fr/20200317/lockdown-permission-form-what-is-it-and-where-do-you-find-it

For vital family reasons eg urgent care for children or the elderly. Simply visiting family is not a good enough reason to be out

Therefore: Urgent care of children, not custodial visits.

If we don’t do the same thing here, some people will continue to roam with their kids under the excuse they are en route for exchanging kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If there’s a lockdown, will we still be able to to go out to pick up our kids from the other parent.

Exactly. This would be considered a true reason to be out. Hence no need to cancel.

Who has confirmed that?

It is not the case in Italy. Doesn’t seem to be the case in France.

Only necessary trips from home are allowed, for work, grocery shopping, exercise or health reasons; family and social gatherings are out.

I'm part of a divorced parent group with parents from CA. They have reported that the lockdown there leaves room for custody exchanges and several of those people had their lawyers urge them to keep their regular schedule. That doesn't mean that every lockdown order in the US would be the same, but it's not even in my top 10 worries right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If there’s a lockdown, will we still be able to to go out to pick up our kids from the other parent.

Exactly. This would be considered a true reason to be out. Hence no need to cancel.

Who has confirmed that?

It is not the case in Italy. Doesn’t seem to be the case in France.

Only necessary trips from home are allowed, for work, grocery shopping, exercise or health reasons; family and social gatherings are out.

I'm part of a divorced parent group with parents from CA. They have reported that the lockdown there leaves room for custody exchanges and several of those people had their lawyers urge them to keep their regular schedule. That doesn't mean that every lockdown order in the US would be the same, but it's not even in my top 10 worries right now.

If it’s not in your top 10 worries, you are blessed. Some of us “coparent” with individuals who cannot or will not provide proper care for children under normal circumstances, but the courts set an extremely high bar for supervised visitation or loss of custodial time. As a result, even in normal times, we worry about long holiday weekends, Spring Break, and 2 to 4 week stretches during summer. Some of us know that the “coparent” has refused to follow even the simplest recommendations to prepare for shelter in place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Its pathetic that people use any excuse to not allow their kids to have a relationship with the other parent. Its pathetic to say a phone call means they have a relationship. Its pathetic when you complain Dad's aren't involved and have no understanding this is why. They aren't allowed to be involved. Kids need equal time with each parent. Seeing your Dad 4 days a month and a few hours here or there isn't him being a Dad. If the situation were reversed would you be ok seeing your kids 4 days a month at best?

She and her child's father agreed on this jointly so why does it matter what a random person on DCUM thinks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s kind of stupid to stop seeing your own child. Social distancing doesn’t mean you ditch your kid.

It does if you aren’t the sole provider and you’re still catching flights and running through hospitals making sales calls. Why risk it for a weekend dad day that will make the rest of the house sick while working from home and homeschooling during a 1 month closure? Yeah, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Its pathetic that people use any excuse to not allow their kids to have a relationship with the other parent. Its pathetic to say a phone call means they have a relationship. Its pathetic when you complain Dad's aren't involved and have no understanding this is why. They aren't allowed to be involved. Kids need equal time with each parent. Seeing your Dad 4 days a month and a few hours here or there isn't him being a Dad. If the situation were reversed would you be ok seeing your kids 4 days a month at best?

She and her child's father agreed on this jointly so why does it matter what a random person on DCUM thinks?

+1. Or a person that isn’t random and is not on DCUM. All parents are not created equal, some of them are really crappy, and no one can judge from the outside looking in. Some of them don’t even want to make the phone call, visit, or take the 50% that is on the table for their child. Not just fathers, mothers too.

[Anonymous]

I wish I never married someone with kids. Or actually, with the living ex-spouse. The kids are never the problem. It’s the BS constantly created by Ex that kills everything.