Why do parents not even bother opening an evite?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I just sent out an evite for my other child’s birthday. I just realized that when you click on the link, you have to actually sign in to see the invitation. I have the app so I always just look there. So if parent is busy or forgot their log in or whatever, it would seem as they didn’t open the evite. I, myself, didn’t even know my evite log in. Password is saved on my computer and I have the app.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t received an evite for a while—this login thing must be new. But if I had to log in to a website to view an invitation? 100% chance I’m not going to look at it. Nor will I download the app. Just another reason to stop using evite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t received an evite for a while—this login thing must be new. But if I had to log in to a website to view an invitation? 100% chance I’m not going to look at it. Nor will I download the app. Just another reason to stop using evite.

Op again. I take it back. As the host, I have to sign in. If you are not the host, you can see details without signing in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you open an evite then the sender can see that. When I don’t want to be bothered I just never open until I have a solid excuse. That way the sender thinks I just haven’t opened - meanwhile I’m coming up with a reason not to go because some people just can’t take a simple no

This.

Or, if it’s an event I do want to attend, I don’t want to seem like a desperate weirdo who RSVPs 5 seconds after the email comes in. So I wait and then it gets buried in my inbox even though in my head I’m planning on coming all along.

You really need to grow up. The fact that you actually engage in that kind of thinking is ridiculous.

When you pull a paper invitation out of your mailbox do you IMMEDIATELY get on the phone and RSVP? Guessing not, because that would be weird. Why should it be any different just because it’s an email?

I say this kindly but you seem to have self-confidence issues because that is a strange way of thinking.

NP here - but yes I immediately reply to an Evite or paper invitation after I have checked my calendar. It’s not desperate.

[Anonymous]

They are overwhelmed, it went into their junk mail they think...I'll comeback to this tomorrow and stuff happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they don’t like you

But yet they invite us to their kid’s parties using evite.

I think this could be partially true because the parents we hang out with and friends always RSVP yes right away. Then the ones we don’t really have a relationship but kids are good friends at school don’t always RSVP at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t received an evite for a while—this login thing must be new. But if I had to log in to a website to view an invitation? 100% chance I’m not going to look at it. Nor will I download the app. Just another reason to stop using evite.

This.

[Anonymous]

Instead of evite, why not simply email or text the invitation details? We’ve done that, but our kids are likely older than most in this forum.

[Anonymous]

I didn't see the emails. I felt horrible when i finally saw the 3 invites months later. (And I apologized too all 3. 1 person was kind of a jerk about it.) I changed my notifications afterwards.

[Anonymous]

I had a neighbor insist she sent me an Evite. I double checked my email and told her no. She resent it to me. S he had my email address wrong, and sent it to someone who is NOT me who happens to have the same name and a profile in Evite? So random. But yeah, sometimes the email is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead of evite, why not simply email or text the invitation details? We’ve done that, but our kids are likely older than most in this forum.

Do people just not read their emails?

One family is very involved at school. They never miss anything yet they won’t open my evite??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead of evite, why not simply email or text the invitation details? We’ve done that, but our kids are likely older than most in this forum.

Do people just not read their emails?

One family is very involved at school. They never miss anything yet they won’t open my evite??

Some parents are just jerks. We had sent an evite out 3 weeks prior and then another classmate who was their close friend also sent an evite. They responded the very same day for that friends evite (evite was an open one and I could see it when I clicked to respond). That person responded No finally the day before our party. She could have done that right away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead of evite, why not simply email or text the invitation details? We’ve done that, but our kids are likely older than most in this forum.

Do people just not read their emails?

One family is very involved at school. They never miss anything yet they won’t open my evite??

Some parents are just jerks. We had sent an evite out 3 weeks prior and then another classmate who was their close friend also sent an evite. They responded the very same day for that friends evite (evite was an open one and I could see it when I clicked to respond). That person responded No finally the day before our party. She could have done that right away.

I sometimes don’t respond if we have tentative plans. I at least open the evite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Instead of evite, why not simply email or text the invitation details? We’ve done that, but our kids are likely older than most in this forum.

Do people just not read their emails?

One family is very involved at school. They never miss anything yet they won’t open my evite??

Some parents are just jerks. We had sent an evite out 3 weeks prior and then another classmate who was their close friend also sent an evite. They responded the very same day for that friends evite (evite was an open one and I could see it when I clicked to respond). That person responded No finally the day before our party. She could have done that right away.

I sometimes don’t respond if we have tentative plans. I at least open the evite.

See that is understandable. Its the ones who selectively open evites that are annoying. How would they even know when the party is if they don't open it?

[Anonymous]

OP, I had the same experience. There are just so many rude people around here. Rules don't apply to them you know....kids love going to each other's b'day parties, it's exciting to them. It's the parents who are creating the issues. There have been a couple of cases when my son did not want to go to a girl's b'day party, so I kindly declined. Or if we were not sure due to a scheduling conflict, I would let parents know. But I did respond to the evite. Most people do see it, read it, just do not care to respond right away and then forget, or are not sure of the schedule and then forget. Or they are divorced and are not sure of schedule. If I get an invitation and my son wants to go, I respond right away, so it's done with, off my list, so I am organized, not because I am desperate. Some people are just so selfish; parents put a lot of effort and finances into these b'day parties and it is special for the bday kid, so please, at minimum, if you see the invitation, respond with something: yes, no, not sure.