Why do parents not even bother opening an evite?

[Anonymous]

They go to my junk mail folder BUT if my kid tells me "Larlo is having a party and said I was invited" I immediately scan my junk, mark it "not spam" and reply. Same if a friend follows up with a text, I’ll find it in junk. Somehow evite will start to come back to inbox for a bit and then they end up at junk again. I occasionally do a search term for evite in junk if I remember.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of these answers make me so sad. So many rude, entitled, self-absorbed people. OP, I hope you are realizing that you and your kid are so much better off not having these people attend.

OP here. I don't even care if they don't come. I just want a headcount so I can plan accordingly! That's why I mentioned to one parent at school the other day. She said she may have missed it. Wouldn't you at least go look for it after a parent mentioned it to you???? And it isn't like our kids aren't friends. She always invites us to their parties. I promptly RSVP yes or no.

OP, I do sympathize, and for a funny reason. I have ADHD. I KNOW I will forget if I don't do a thing right away or at least put it on my to-do list right then and there. So I can come across as super-organized and/or uptight, I think.

But the kicker is, I have spent so many years being relatively "irresponsible" and getting that under control that I find it kind of maddening when seemingly neurotypical people cannot get it together. "If *I* can remember this, with my squirrel brain, how can they not remember and take two seconds to do the thing?!"

It's illogical, of course-- one has nothing to do with the other, and in some cases they may have ADHD or something and I (or they) don't know it. But I think I spent a lot of my life imagining that if *I* stopped causing or contributing to all the problems in my life, they'd mostly disappear. Turns out that's not the case.

This is me a hundred percent!

[Anonymous]

I'm going through a divorce, my older child has disabilities, and I'm overwhelmed. I get that it would be nice for my kid to go to the party, and I don't want to put anyone out, but things just fall off my radar.

[Anonymous]

I don't have young kids anymore, but I get evites to other events. I look at the other invitees and sometimes know no-one else, so don't want to go. The hosts also invite many many people, so I feel like I won't be missed. I usually rsvp, but dislike evites.

[Anonymous]

We’ve got three young kids, two in diapers. Minimal help, dad is much older and therefore less available to share the load. Older kid had been sick for three weeks, younger kids are sniffling, mom is sick, too. No offense if I don’t always respond.

[Anonymous]

I usually have very good attendance rates (over 90%) for all events I host. Here are my tips -

- Send invites by mail, by email, by evite and by phone (yes, all 3,4 methods). Parents are overwhelmed and will forget. Also, remind them twice. A week and a day before the event.

- Send invites 3 to 4 weeks before the event. Be very precise about the time, date, occasion, address, phone number and RSVP date.

- If it is a kid's birthday, I include parents and siblings. I provide a full hot meal, adult beverages, entertainment and goody bags.

- I do not exclude anyone. The whole class is invited. We take a lot of pictures and I make it a point to send the pictures to the parents.

Parents are busy and overwhelmed. Make it as easy for them to attend. This includes including siblings and parents, having adult beverages for the parent who is doing the birthday duty, full meal for everyone so that the parents can relax, fun entertainment so that all kids are happy to attend, goody bags for the siblings too and lots and lots of lead time and reminders to the parents.

[Anonymous]

I have a name with 2 common spellings. If I didn’t open your invite, it’d because you left the H off my name.

The 80 yr old woman in Texas who has that email address sometimes send a them to me, but sometimes she doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually have very good attendance rates (over 90%) for all events I host. Here are my tips -

- Send invites by mail, by email, by evite and by phone (yes, all 3,4 methods). Parents are overwhelmed and will forget. Also, remind them twice. A week and a day before the event.

- Send invites 3 to 4 weeks before the event. Be very precise about the time, date, occasion, address, phone number and RSVP date.

- If it is a kid's birthday, I include parents and siblings. I provide a full hot meal, adult beverages, entertainment and goody bags.

- I do not exclude anyone. The whole class is invited. We take a lot of pictures and I make it a point to send the pictures to the parents.

Parents are busy and overwhelmed. Make it as easy for them to attend. This includes including siblings and parents, having adult beverages for the parent who is doing the birthday duty, full meal for everyone so that the parents can relax, fun entertainment so that all kids are happy to attend, goody bags for the siblings too and lots and lots of lead time and reminders to the parents.

1. You are annoyingly persistent.
2. I have near 100% rsvp rates and very good attendance for 13 kid parties I’ve hosted so far. I use Paperless post and if it’s a kid my son really cares about, I text people who haven’t opened the invite after a week. That’s it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I usually have very good attendance rates (over 90%) for all events I host. Here are my tips -

- Send invites by mail, by email, by evite and by phone (yes, all 3,4 methods). Parents are overwhelmed and will forget. Also, remind them twice. A week and a day before the event.

- Send invites 3 to 4 weeks before the event. Be very precise about the time, date, occasion, address, phone number and RSVP date.

- If it is a kid's birthday, I include parents and siblings. I provide a full hot meal, adult beverages, entertainment and goody bags.

- I do not exclude anyone. The whole class is invited. We take a lot of pictures and I make it a point to send the pictures to the parents.

Parents are busy and overwhelmed. Make it as easy for them to attend. This includes including siblings and parents, having adult beverages for the parent who is doing the birthday duty, full meal for everyone so that the parents can relax, fun entertainment so that all kids are happy to attend, goody bags for the siblings too and lots and lots of lead time and reminders to the parents.

1. You are annoyingly persistent.
2. I have near 100% rsvp rates and very good attendance for 13 kid parties I’ve hosted so far. I use Paperless post and if it’s a kid my son really cares about, I text people who haven’t opened the invite after a week. That’s it.

1. You are a rare bird. I have never invited someone like you. Most people are very grateful to be reminded.
2. Hosting 13 kids is kind of an impromptu thing for us. We would not need to prepare all that much. We would just send a group text for that and people would show up.
I am talking 30+ kids and 30-35 parents. I need to know the numbers beforehand so that I can arrange for food and goody bags.

Be chilled. Enjoy your children and your life. 😘😘

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually have very good attendance rates (over 90%) for all events I host. Here are my tips -

- Send invites by mail, by email, by evite and by phone (yes, all 3,4 methods). Parents are overwhelmed and will forget. Also, remind them twice. A week and a day before the event.

- Send invites 3 to 4 weeks before the event. Be very precise about the time, date, occasion, address, phone number and RSVP date.

- If it is a kid's birthday, I include parents and siblings. I provide a full hot meal, adult beverages, entertainment and goody bags.

- I do not exclude anyone. The whole class is invited. We take a lot of pictures and I make it a point to send the pictures to the parents.

Parents are busy and overwhelmed. Make it as easy for them to attend. This includes including siblings and parents, having adult beverages for the parent who is doing the birthday duty, full meal for everyone so that the parents can relax, fun entertainment so that all kids are happy to attend, goody bags for the siblings too and lots and lots of lead time and reminders to the parents.

I feel like I have been invited to your parties before. Please stop with all the reminders. And stop sending invitations by so many methods. Or substitute one for carrier pigeon to make it more interesting. I get really annoyed with all the reminders. Once is more than enough. It makes you seem so desperate about a casual kid’s party.

[Anonymous]

Because I'm overwhelmed. I rarely go to kid bday parties as the parents at my little ones school are already a click. I feel generally uncomfortable and don't want the exposure for my immunocompromised kid who is unvaccinated due to being in several medications rn

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I usually have very good attendance rates (over 90%) for all events I host. Here are my tips -

- Send invites by mail, by email, by evite and by phone (yes, all 3,4 methods). Parents are overwhelmed and will forget. Also, remind them twice. A week and a day before the event.

- Send invites 3 to 4 weeks before the event. Be very precise about the time, date, occasion, address, phone number and RSVP date.

- If it is a kid's birthday, I include parents and siblings. I provide a full hot meal, adult beverages, entertainment and goody bags.

- I do not exclude anyone. The whole class is invited. We take a lot of pictures and I make it a point to send the pictures to the parents.

Parents are busy and overwhelmed. Make it as easy for them to attend. This includes including siblings and parents, having adult beverages for the parent who is doing the birthday duty, full meal for everyone so that the parents can relax, fun entertainment so that all kids are happy to attend, goody bags for the siblings too and lots and lots of lead time and reminders to the parents.

I feel like I have been invited to your parties before. Please stop with all the reminders. And stop sending invitations by so many methods. Or substitute one for carrier pigeon to make it more interesting. I get really annoyed with all the reminders. Once is more than enough. It makes you seem so desperate about a casual kid’s party.

NP I think I would probably reply via multiple methods before realizing it’s all one party. Sounds confusing and unnecessary.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s a way of snubbing. I know a big Visi mom who prides herself on this kind of childish behavior. Yes, the mom, not the daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I usually have very good attendance rates (over 90%) for all events I host. Here are my tips -

- Send invites by mail, by email, by evite and by phone (yes, all 3,4 methods). Parents are overwhelmed and will forget. Also, remind them twice. A week and a day before the event.

- Send invites 3 to 4 weeks before the event. Be very precise about the time, date, occasion, address, phone number and RSVP date.

- If it is a kid's birthday, I include parents and siblings. I provide a full hot meal, adult beverages, entertainment and goody bags.

- I do not exclude anyone. The whole class is invited. We take a lot of pictures and I make it a point to send the pictures to the parents.

Parents are busy and overwhelmed. Make it as easy for them to attend. This includes including siblings and parents, having adult beverages for the parent who is doing the birthday duty, full meal for everyone so that the parents can relax, fun entertainment so that all kids are happy to attend, goody bags for the siblings too and lots and lots of lead time and reminders to the parents.

1. You are annoyingly persistent.
2. I have near 100% rsvp rates and very good attendance for 13 kid parties I’ve hosted so far. I use Paperless post and if it’s a kid my son really cares about, I text people who haven’t opened the invite after a week. That’s it.

1. You are a rare bird. I have never invited someone like you. Most people are very grateful to be reminded.
2. Hosting 13 kids is kind of an impromptu thing for us. We would not need to prepare all that much. We would just send a group text for that and people would show up.
I am talking 30+ kids and 30-35 parents. I need to know the numbers beforehand so that I can arrange for food and goody bags.

Be chilled. Enjoy your children and your life. 😘😘

Not the pp but I think they meant they have hosted 13 parties not hosted parties for 13 kids....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s a way of snubbing. I know a big Visi mom who prides herself on this kind of childish behavior. Yes, the mom, not the daughter.

What’s a “big Visi mom”?