Why do parents not even bother opening an evite?

[Anonymous]

I already know I don’t want to attend.

[Anonymous]

Evites are classless. I delete them immediately. Send a proper invitation in the mail.

[Anonymous]

I actually got an evite for a wedding. I could not believe it. I thought, well, at least a real paper invitation will follow soon.
it did not.

I declined and did not send a gift. No manners, no gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Evites are classless. I delete them immediately. Send a proper invitation in the mail.

To a kid's birthday party? Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually got an evite for a wedding. I could not believe it. I thought, well, at least a real paper invitation will follow soon.
it did not.

I declined and did not send a gift. No manners, no gift.

OK, now THIS is classless. Kids b-day party? Not so much.

[Anonymous]

I hate evite because they spam you. I prefer Paperless Post - it's also less likely to go into the spam folder.

[Anonymous]

Because if I don't have my calendar handy when I open it, I will forget about it and it will sink to the bottom of my email. So I wait until I can check the calendar before responding, and if I have an unopened email, I am less likely to miss it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s probably in their junk mail. My sister also never checks her email. She probably glances at it once a week. She’ll realize things months later when she finally looks at it, like there was a back to school picnic in August when it was almost October. She started just putting my email down for her kids teachers and then I just copy it into a text.

What, seriously? Why are you enabling this? Is there something else going on that impacts her ability to manage her life? Because otherwise I can't imagine supporting this.

[Anonymous]

If we don’t open it, we didn’t see it, we aren’t coming, you know we are a No. it isn’t hard to assume people who haven’t seen the invite are not coming and plan accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you open an evite then the sender can see that. When I don’t want to be bothered I just never open until I have a solid excuse. That way the sender thinks I just haven’t opened - meanwhile I’m coming up with a reason not to go because some people just can’t take a simple no

This.

Or, if it’s an event I do want to attend, I don’t want to seem like a desperate weirdo who RSVPs 5 seconds after the email comes in. So I wait and then it gets buried in my inbox even though in my head I’m planning on coming all along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Uhhhh, maybe you need better control of your life. - not op

Teach please tell me how to control all those things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

Same. Also, I’m going to be real, the birthday party for the random kid who sits 2 table groups away from my kid is not high on my priority list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you open an evite then the sender can see that. When I don’t want to be bothered I just never open until I have a solid excuse. That way the sender thinks I just haven’t opened - meanwhile I’m coming up with a reason not to go because some people just can’t take a simple no

This.

Or, if it’s an event I do want to attend, I don’t want to seem like a desperate weirdo who RSVPs 5 seconds after the email comes in. So I wait and then it gets buried in my inbox even though in my head I’m planning on coming all along.

You think fast RSVPs make you a desperate weirdo?

It is better to RSVP later and potentially forget?

I only don’t respond if we have tentative plans or waiting for a sports schedule. I don’t play some mind game.

[Anonymous]

This may be specific to our family, but I do not open them because I am not the "scheduler" in our family. Most people we are close with know that and do not even send it to me (or send it to me and DH.) If I do get an evite, I always just forward it to DH without opening.