Why do parents not even bother opening an evite?

[Anonymous]

Some of these answers make me so sad. So many rude, entitled, self-absorbed people. OP, I hope you are realizing that you and your kid are so much better off not having these people attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of these answers make me so sad. So many rude, entitled, self-absorbed people. OP, I hope you are realizing that you and your kid are so much better off not having these people attend.

OP here. I don't even care if they don't come. I just want a headcount so I can plan accordingly! That's why I mentioned to one parent at school the other day. She said she may have missed it. Wouldn't you at least go look for it after a parent mentioned it to you???? And it isn't like our kids aren't friends. She always invites us to their parties. I promptly RSVP yes or no.

[Anonymous]

It went to spam.

[Anonymous]

I will take your evite non-openers and raise you openers who never respond. Just click no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Uhhhh, maybe you need better control of your life. - not op

Yes, please get control of your health problems so that you can more reliably respond to evicted, which should of course be your top priority.

[Anonymous]

Because you sent it to an old email address that I no longer check.

Our mcps school went electronic with the directory, and I suspect a lot of parents are still relying on the outdated hard copy directory from a few years ago. I stopped using my yahoo account—no clue how many evites I missed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will take your evite non-openers and raise you openers who never respond. Just click no.

I’m an opener. I open them because they are sent to me (the mom), but I forward them to my husband since he’s in charge of weekend sports schedules and needs to figure out if we can make the party or not.

[Anonymous]

Just stop using evite. There are other ways of doing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just stop using evite. There are other ways of doing this.

Like what? Paper invitations? Is paperless post that much better?

I prefer evites for kid parties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of these answers make me so sad. So many rude, entitled, self-absorbed people. OP, I hope you are realizing that you and your kid are so much better off not having these people attend.

OP here. I don't even care if they don't come. I just want a headcount so I can plan accordingly! That's why I mentioned to one parent at school the other day. She said she may have missed it. Wouldn't you at least go look for it after a parent mentioned it to you???? And it isn't like our kids aren't friends. She always invites us to their parties. I promptly RSVP yes or no.

I don't know if this happened with your friend, OP, but it's happened twice to me now with evite so I'll pass it along in case it's a possibility. In the last couple of years, two invitations haven't made it to me, even to spam. Two separate friends, each who copied and pasted my correct email address into the form and said that evite was showing it as delivered but unopened. Each asked a couple days before the party if my dd was going, but they needed to screen shot the invitations to me because I didn't have the evite at all.

Hopefully it's something like that and not your friend being rude. I'm all for the instant RSVP - then it's done! No one's going to think less of you for being excited about going to a party, for goodness sake.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of these answers make me so sad. So many rude, entitled, self-absorbed people. OP, I hope you are realizing that you and your kid are so much better off not having these people attend.

OP here. I don't even care if they don't come. I just want a headcount so I can plan accordingly! That's why I mentioned to one parent at school the other day. She said she may have missed it. Wouldn't you at least go look for it after a parent mentioned it to you???? And it isn't like our kids aren't friends. She always invites us to their parties. I promptly RSVP yes or no.

OP, I do sympathize, and for a funny reason. I have ADHD. I KNOW I will forget if I don't do a thing right away or at least put it on my to-do list right then and there. So I can come across as super-organized and/or uptight, I think.

But the kicker is, I have spent so many years being relatively "irresponsible" and getting that under control that I find it kind of maddening when seemingly neurotypical people cannot get it together. "If *I* can remember this, with my squirrel brain, how can they not remember and take two seconds to do the thing?!"

It's illogical, of course-- one has nothing to do with the other, and in some cases they may have ADHD or something and I (or they) don't know it. But I think I spent a lot of my life imagining that if *I* stopped causing or contributing to all the problems in my life, they'd mostly disappear. Turns out that's not the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate evite because they spam you. I prefer Paperless Post - it's also less likely to go into the spam folder.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you open an evite then the sender can see that. When I don’t want to be bothered I just never open until I have a solid excuse. That way the sender thinks I just haven’t opened - meanwhile I’m coming up with a reason not to go because some people just can’t take a simple no

This.

Or, if it’s an event I do want to attend, I don’t want to seem like a desperate weirdo who RSVPs 5 seconds after the email comes in. So I wait and then it gets buried in my inbox even though in my head I’m planning on coming all along.

You really need to grow up. The fact that you actually engage in that kind of thinking is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

Same. Also, I’m going to be real, the birthday party for the random kid who sits 2 table groups away from my kid is not high on my priority list.

I hope that kid's mom feels the same way when you send your child's invitations out. Seriously, people like you sound so bitchy and cold-hearted. Kids love having other kids celebrate their birthday, and I don't understand people who don't make an effort to attend. It's so rude and thoughtless. But I know you don't care what I think because you're just too cool and you're so busy that this isn't important to you. I get it. And no, I've never had an issue with people not attending my kids' parties, but the responses like this on here are just so cold it's sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of these answers make me so sad. So many rude, entitled, self-absorbed people. OP, I hope you are realizing that you and your kid are so much better off not having these people attend.

OP here. I don't even care if they don't come. I just want a headcount so I can plan accordingly! That's why I mentioned to one parent at school the other day. She said she may have missed it. Wouldn't you at least go look for it after a parent mentioned it to you???? And it isn't like our kids aren't friends. She always invites us to their parties. I promptly RSVP yes or no.

I don't know if this happened with your friend, OP, but it's happened twice to me now with evite so I'll pass it along in case it's a possibility. In the last couple of years, two invitations haven't made it to me, even to spam. Two separate friends, each who copied and pasted my correct email address into the form and said that evite was showing it as delivered but unopened. Each asked a couple days before the party if my dd was going, but they needed to screen shot the invitations to me because I didn't have the evite at all.

Hopefully it's something like that and not your friend being rude. I'm all for the instant RSVP - then it's done! No one's going to think less of you for being excited about going to a party, for goodness sake.

NP, but I posted on another thread that this happened to a friend. And she even had an Evite account with a picture and everything and I showed her that she was invited and she checked everywhere and couldn't find the invitation. It had happened to her before as well. If someone doesn't open it, send then an email from your account (not Evite) to theirs. If they still don't respond, count them as a no and remove them as a guest a few days before.