Why do parents not even bother opening an evite?

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Anonymous wrote:If you open an evite then the sender can see that. When I don’t want to be bothered I just never open until I have a solid excuse. That way the sender thinks I just haven’t opened - meanwhile I’m coming up with a reason not to go because some people just can’t take a simple no

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Or, if it’s an event I do want to attend, I don’t want to seem like a desperate weirdo who RSVPs 5 seconds after the email comes in. So I wait and then it gets buried in my inbox even though in my head I’m planning on coming all along.

You really need to grow up. The fact that you actually engage in that kind of thinking is ridiculous.

When you pull a paper invitation out of your mailbox do you IMMEDIATELY get on the phone and RSVP? Guessing not, because that would be weird. Why should it be any different just because it’s an email?

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Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

Same. Also, I’m going to be real, the birthday party for the random kid who sits 2 table groups away from my kid is not high on my priority list.

I hope that kid's mom feels the same way when you send your child's invitations out. Seriously, people like you sound so bitchy and cold-hearted. Kids love having other kids celebrate their birthday, and I don't understand people who don't make an effort to attend. It's so rude and thoughtless. But I know you don't care what I think because you're just too cool and you're so busy that this isn't important to you. I get it. And no, I've never had an issue with people not attending my kids' parties, but the responses like this on here are just so cold it's sad.

It’s a birthday party, calm down

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Easy. They have mo manners.

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Anonymous wrote:If you open an evite then the sender can see that. When I don’t want to be bothered I just never open until I have a solid excuse. That way the sender thinks I just haven’t opened - meanwhile I’m coming up with a reason not to go because some people just can’t take a simple no

This.

Or, if it’s an event I do want to attend, I don’t want to seem like a desperate weirdo who RSVPs 5 seconds after the email comes in. So I wait and then it gets buried in my inbox even though in my head I’m planning on coming all along.

You really need to grow up. The fact that you actually engage in that kind of thinking is ridiculous.

When you pull a paper invitation out of your mailbox do you IMMEDIATELY get on the phone and RSVP? Guessing not, because that would be weird. Why should it be any different just because it’s an email?

You must have reading comprehension issues so I'll try to spell it out more carefully for you. The PP said they "don't want to seem like a desperate weirdo who RSVPs 5 seconds after the email comes in." I bolded that part of their post, so it should have been pretty clear what I was responding to. The fact that they actively think that they should wait to RSVP (and then, by their own admission, they forget to to respond at all even though they then show up because they always knew they were going to go) is incredibly childish and stupid. Your response has nothing to do with what I wrote. However, if I get a paper invitation out of my mailbox and I know I can go, why would I not respond immediately? And why would that be weird? You have some very bizarre hangups that you might want to examine further.

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Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

Same. Also, I’m going to be real, the birthday party for the random kid who sits 2 table groups away from my kid is not high on my priority list.

I hope that kid's mom feels the same way when you send your child's invitations out. Seriously, people like you sound so bitchy and cold-hearted. Kids love having other kids celebrate their birthday, and I don't understand people who don't make an effort to attend. It's so rude and thoughtless. But I know you don't care what I think because you're just too cool and you're so busy that this isn't important to you. I get it. And no, I've never had an issue with people not attending my kids' parties, but the responses like this on here are just so cold it's sad.

It’s a birthday party, calm down

Like I said, I get it, you're so much cooler than the rest of us. Kids have birthdays once a year. My kids get excited about their birthdays, but maybe that's just them. They love it when their friends come to their parties. The fact that you truly don't care at all that your kid's presence makes the birthday kid happy shows how self-centered you are. I shouldn't be surprised, but that doesn't mean I don't think it's an awful attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

Same. Also, I’m going to be real, the birthday party for the random kid who sits 2 table groups away from my kid is not high on my priority list.

I hope that kid's mom feels the same way when you send your child's invitations out. Seriously, people like you sound so bitchy and cold-hearted. Kids love having other kids celebrate their birthday, and I don't understand people who don't make an effort to attend. It's so rude and thoughtless. But I know you don't care what I think because you're just too cool and you're so busy that this isn't important to you. I get it. And no, I've never had an issue with people not attending my kids' parties, but the responses like this on here are just so cold it's sad.

It’s a birthday party, calm down

Like I said, I get it, you're so much cooler than the rest of us. Kids have birthdays once a year. My kids get excited about their birthdays, but maybe that's just them. They love it when their friends come to their parties. The fact that you truly don't care at all that your kid's presence makes the birthday kid happy shows how self-centered you are. I shouldn't be surprised, but that doesn't mean I don't think it's an awful attitude.

The pp is just so cool because she doesn't RSVP to an evite right away. I'm sure the host will just hope the pp's kid can step away from his oh so important life to attend his friend Johnny's birthday party.

We are a busy family. We have important jobs. Our kids play sports, do well in school, play instruments and we will try to make Johnny's party if my child is available. We have 3 kids so our weekends are busy but all my children like to attend parties. The invitations slow down in upper elementary. My kids love attending and seeing their friends. Do I like driving my kid to the some ninja obstacle course at an inconvenient location? Of course not. We usually carpool.

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Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

Same. Also, I’m going to be real, the birthday party for the random kid who sits 2 table groups away from my kid is not high on my priority list.

I hope that kid's mom feels the same way when you send your child's invitations out. Seriously, people like you sound so bitchy and cold-hearted. Kids love having other kids celebrate their birthday, and I don't understand people who don't make an effort to attend. It's so rude and thoughtless. But I know you don't care what I think because you're just too cool and you're so busy that this isn't important to you. I get it. And no, I've never had an issue with people not attending my kids' parties, but the responses like this on here are just so cold it's sad.

It’s a birthday party, calm down

Like I said, I get it, you're so much cooler than the rest of us. Kids have birthdays once a year. My kids get excited about their birthdays, but maybe that's just them. They love it when their friends come to their parties. The fact that you truly don't care at all that your kid's presence makes the birthday kid happy shows how self-centered you are. I shouldn't be surprised, but that doesn't mean I don't think it's an awful attitude.

Why don’t you just invite your child’s close friends instead of the entire class? Larlo doesn’t need 18 birthday presents anyway.

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Evite goes to spam.

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Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

Same. Also, I’m going to be real, the birthday party for the random kid who sits 2 table groups away from my kid is not high on my priority list.

I hope that kid's mom feels the same way when you send your child's invitations out. Seriously, people like you sound so bitchy and cold-hearted. Kids love having other kids celebrate their birthday, and I don't understand people who don't make an effort to attend. It's so rude and thoughtless. But I know you don't care what I think because you're just too cool and you're so busy that this isn't important to you. I get it. And no, I've never had an issue with people not attending my kids' parties, but the responses like this on here are just so cold it's sad.

It’s a birthday party, calm down

Like I said, I get it, you're so much cooler than the rest of us. Kids have birthdays once a year. My kids get excited about their birthdays, but maybe that's just them. They love it when their friends come to their parties. The fact that you truly don't care at all that your kid's presence makes the birthday kid happy shows how self-centered you are. I shouldn't be surprised, but that doesn't mean I don't think it's an awful attitude.

Why don’t you just invite your child’s close friends instead of the entire class? Larlo doesn’t need 18 birthday presents anyway.

OP here. My kids are 8 and 10. They haven’t had an all class party since preschool. Everyone who is invited is a guest list that the kids have created. I also have a preschool child and we recently had a family friend party. Every single one of MY friends RSVP’d. A few couldn’t make it last minute due to sickness but they all RSVP’d yes quickly.

These elementary invitations are for my kids’ friends. I also stopped inviting my friends to their parties.

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Anonymous wrote:I check my email like twice a week generally. But sometimes I have the flu for a month while one DD has walking pneumonia and DH just had knee surgery and the dog is dying and our 7 yr old is basically running the household for us. So we let a lot slide that month. Sue us.

Twice a week in 2020? How are you living? My sister is completely antisocial and never takes her kids to parties; she trashes invites without even looking at them. I accept everything and make them a priority.

I have to read enough email at work. I don’t want to read more emails after work.

Same. Also, I’m going to be real, the birthday party for the random kid who sits 2 table groups away from my kid is not high on my priority list.

I hope that kid's mom feels the same way when you send your child's invitations out. Seriously, people like you sound so bitchy and cold-hearted. Kids love having other kids celebrate their birthday, and I don't understand people who don't make an effort to attend. It's so rude and thoughtless. But I know you don't care what I think because you're just too cool and you're so busy that this isn't important to you. I get it. And no, I've never had an issue with people not attending my kids' parties, but the responses like this on here are just so cold it's sad.

It’s a birthday party, calm down

Like I said, I get it, you're so much cooler than the rest of us. Kids have birthdays once a year. My kids get excited about their birthdays, but maybe that's just them. They love it when their friends come to their parties. The fact that you truly don't care at all that your kid's presence makes the birthday kid happy shows how self-centered you are. I shouldn't be surprised, but that doesn't mean I don't think it's an awful attitude.

Why don’t you just invite your child’s close friends instead of the entire class? Larlo doesn’t need 18 birthday presents anyway.

I said my kids love it when their FRIENDS come to their parties. I didn't say I invited their entire class.

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I absolutely hate when people don’t rsvp. They send the same type of evites out for their own kids’ bdays so they know how to work them.

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Because they don’t like you

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Anonymous wrote:Because they don’t like you

But yet they invite us to their kid’s parties using evite.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of these answers make me so sad. So many rude, entitled, self-absorbed people. OP, I hope you are realizing that you and your kid are so much better off not having these people attend.

OP here. I don't even care if they don't come. I just want a headcount so I can plan accordingly! That's why I mentioned to one parent at school the other day. She said she may have missed it. Wouldn't you at least go look for it after a parent mentioned it to you???? And it isn't like our kids aren't friends. She always invites us to their parties. I promptly RSVP yes or no.

I don't know if this happened with your friend, OP, but it's happened twice to me now with evite so I'll pass it along in case it's a possibility. In the last couple of years, two invitations haven't made it to me, even to spam. Two separate friends, each who copied and pasted my correct email address into the form and said that evite was showing it as delivered but unopened. Each asked a couple days before the party if my dd was going, but they needed to screen shot the invitations to me because I didn't have the evite at all.

Hopefully it's something like that and not your friend being rude. I'm all for the instant RSVP - then it's done! No one's going to think less of you for being excited about going to a party, for goodness sake.

NP, but I posted on another thread that this happened to a friend. And she even had an Evite account with a picture and everything and I showed her that she was invited and she checked everywhere and couldn't find the invitation. It had happened to her before as well. If someone doesn't open it, send then an email from your account (not Evite) to theirs. If they still don't respond, count them as a no and remove them as a guest a few days before.

I get evite notifications from the app even when the actual email doesn't reach me.

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I never notice them. Installed the app and now the damn thing won't leave me alone. But at least now they don't get lost in my inbox.