How long did you go without sex post-separation/divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:Last sex with a woman was with the ex-wife 7 years ago. Been divorced for 5.

You've been having sex with men?

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

I would not be DTF with anyone in a bar where women are lifting their skirts. Sounds like STD Central.

It was a figure of speech, folks. (And also one that revealed how old I am, since apparently people don't go to bars to get laid any more.) The point is that women can very easily get sex. Pretty much just walk up to any normal-looking man and ask, and there you go, itch scratched. Not quite so easy for men, alas...

I’ve never heard this figure of speech and I’m middle aged. What culture are you from?

It's not a cultural expression unless millennials is a culture. It's not even a new expression.

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

I would not be DTF with anyone in a bar where women are lifting their skirts. Sounds like STD Central.

It was a figure of speech, folks. (And also one that revealed how old I am, since apparently people don't go to bars to get laid any more.) The point is that women can very easily get sex. Pretty much just walk up to any normal-looking man and ask, and there you go, itch scratched. Not quite so easy for men, alas...

I’ve never heard this figure of speech and I’m middle aged. What culture are you from?

You've never heard of women going to bars to get laid? You're not from the culture of the USA, that's for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Not even two weeks.

Tell us how you accomplished that? I want some. I’m sure several of here would. Dish the secrets.

Are you a woman? Look left, then right. See any men (especially married men)? Approach, say Hi, touch his arm, ask him to get a room.

If you are a man, then it is a bit more complicated.

I’m a man. Was hoping you had a secret. Even those of us that are not unfortunate looking. Takes a lot of work!

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Anonymous wrote:Last sex with a woman was with the ex-wife 7 years ago. Been divorced for 5.

You've been having sex with men?

With a man, yes. Me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Asian spa ASAP.

Paying for a Nikki Nikki girl doesn't count.

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Anonymous wrote:Six years (man)

Ouch

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

I would not be DTF with anyone in a bar where women are lifting their skirts. Sounds like STD Central.

It was a figure of speech, folks. (And also one that revealed how old I am, since apparently people don't go to bars to get laid any more.) The point is that women can very easily get sex. Pretty much just walk up to any normal-looking man and ask, and there you go, itch scratched. Not quite so easy for men, alas...

I’ve never heard this figure of speech and I’m middle aged. What culture are you from?

You've never heard of women going to bars to get laid? You're not from the culture of the USA, that's for sure.

I have never heard the figure of speech of women lifting their skirts in bars. And I have lived all over the country. Have you heard that figure of speech? If so, where in the US are you from?

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

I would not be DTF with anyone in a bar where women are lifting their skirts. Sounds like STD Central.

It was a figure of speech, folks. (And also one that revealed how old I am, since apparently people don't go to bars to get laid any more.) The point is that women can very easily get sex. Pretty much just walk up to any normal-looking man and ask, and there you go, itch scratched. Not quite so easy for men, alas...

I’ve never heard this figure of speech and I’m middle aged. What culture are you from?

You've never heard of women going to bars to get laid? You're not from the culture of the USA, that's for sure.

I have never heard the figure of speech of women lifting their skirts in bars. And I have lived all over the country. Have you heard that figure of speech? If so, where in the US are you from?

Different poster. That is a figure of speech. It is similar to “batting her eyelashes” - it’s a way of saying a woman generally expresses interest in a man and is a generic way of saying turning things on in a way that makes a man like her and makes him feel special.

I’m surprised at least a couple people didn’t understand it. Even if you haven’t heard it, you should have been able to determine its meaning in context. Must be difficult to understand movies and such with that literalism.

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

It’s not as easy to find a compatible female partner as you think. Remember it takes two.

You and PP are saying the exact same thing: men generally want sex, women generally don't.
Ironically though, men are motivated to find it, and generally do so.
Women are not motivated, and so (despite being surrounded with options) go without.

This makes no sense. Women don't want it, men do. So who are the men doing it with? Each other?

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2 months

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Woman here. 2 months post divorce. Ended up marrying him.

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

I would not be DTF with anyone in a bar where women are lifting their skirts. Sounds like STD Central.

It was a figure of speech, folks. (And also one that revealed how old I am, since apparently people don't go to bars to get laid any more.) The point is that women can very easily get sex. Pretty much just walk up to any normal-looking man and ask, and there you go, itch scratched. Not quite so easy for men, alas...

I’ve never heard this figure of speech and I’m middle aged. What culture are you from?

You've never heard of women going to bars to get laid? You're not from the culture of the USA, that's for sure.

I have never heard the figure of speech of women lifting their skirts in bars. And I have lived all over the country. Have you heard that figure of speech? If so, where in the US are you from?

Different poster. That is a figure of speech. It is similar to “batting her eyelashes” - it’s a way of saying a woman generally expresses interest in a man and is a generic way of saying turning things on in a way that makes a man like her and makes him feel special.

I’m surprised at least a couple people didn’t understand it. Even if you haven’t heard it, you should have been able to determine its meaning in context. Must be difficult to understand movies and such with that literalism.

Everybody understands. The previous poster is just being intentionally thick. To what end I do not know.

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

It’s not as easy to find a compatible female partner as you think. Remember it takes two.

You and PP are saying the exact same thing: men generally want sex, women generally don't.
Ironically though, men are motivated to find it, and generally do so.
Women are not motivated, and so (despite being surrounded with options) go without.

This makes no sense. Women don't want it, men do. So who are the men doing it with? Each other?

In my experience in the DC area, and in no particular order:

1) foreign women
2) young women
3) hos
4) married milfs
5) school teachers

[Anonymous]

I had a fwb about 3.5 months after moving out. FWB and I met when had free time: for about 2 hours every other week or so for a year until circumstances changed and we switched to being just friends.