How long did you go without sex post-separation/divorce?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been divorced for over a year and have not yet had sex but I will be having my third date with a guy on NYE and I will do my best to make it happen.

[Anonymous]

Any updates on when prostitution will be legalized in DC? That could help with this.

[Anonymous]

Hm- filed in feb and slept with someone in July? Had fallen into the best sex of my life FWB by November. It’s been two years now since filing. It’s easy to find people to have sex with- but I want great sex, that’s harder. I’m an attractive well off early 40”s woman with kids . No one has or will meet my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hm- filed in feb and slept with someone in July? Had fallen into the best sex of my life FWB by November. It’s been two years now since filing. It’s easy to find people to have sex with- but I want great sex, that’s harder. I’m an attractive well off early 40”s woman with kids . No one has or will meet my kids.

I haven’t dated yet but will definitely not have anyone around my kid. He’ll be graduating in a couple years so I don’t think there’s a reason to introduce anyone at this point.

[Anonymous]

My ex-wife and I went 9 years without sex. I never cheated. Once my youngest reached 18, I left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Bull crap and that is a very narrow, almost misogynistic view of women. I’m a woman and was getting laid within a week of declaring our separation. After years of a sexless marriage, I was ready to go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any updates on when prostitution will be legalized in DC? That could help with this.

Gross. I'm a guy and I'd rather eat off a public toilet seat than have sex with a prostitute.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

I would not be DTF with anyone in a bar where women are lifting their skirts. Sounds like STD Central.

It was a figure of speech, folks. (And also one that revealed how old I am, since apparently people don't go to bars to get laid any more.) The point is that women can very easily get sex. Pretty much just walk up to any normal-looking man and ask, and there you go, itch scratched. Not quite so easy for men, alas...

[Anonymous]

Six months after my divorce I reconnected with an old BF who is also divorced. We had had great sexual chemistry but we were not compatible in so many areas. For the past two years he has been the perfect FWB. In two years I will be an empty nester at which point I will hope for something more.

[Anonymous]

I hooked up with one guy quickly after the separation, one time thing; went on a couple dates and slept with another guy a year after; and then had a long distance FWB who I hooked up with after I traveled to his county and he to mine within 18 months, and have now gone over a year. But I don't miss it, I was low drive in my marriage and just enjoy not feeling like I need to have sex with someone to keep them happy,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hooked up with one guy quickly after the separation, one time thing; went on a couple dates and slept with another guy a year after; and then had a long distance FWB who I hooked up with after I traveled to his county and he to mine within 18 months, and have now gone over a year. But I don't miss it, I was low drive in my marriage and just enjoy not feeling like I need to have sex with someone to keep them happy,

This. I actually thought I enjoyed sex more than I actually did. Going so long without it clearly means it's to the contrary to what I thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Any updates on when prostitution will be legalized in DC? That could help with this.

Gross. I'm a guy and I'd rather eat off a public toilet seat than have sex with a prostitute.

Low T is treatable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hooked up with one guy quickly after the separation, one time thing; went on a couple dates and slept with another guy a year after; and then had a long distance FWB who I hooked up with after I traveled to his county and he to mine within 18 months, and have now gone over a year. But I don't miss it, I was low drive in my marriage and just enjoy not feeling like I need to have sex with someone to keep them happy,

This. I actually thought I enjoyed sex more than I actually did. Going so long without it clearly means it's to the contrary to what I thought.

I guess I’m the opposite. When I was single I had a very healthy number of partners but began to think something was wrong with me because I never enjoyed it. I seriously thought I might be gay but I never went in that direction. After a two year break I met my now husband and the first time was a whole new experience for me. 22 years later I still enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Any updates on when prostitution will be legalized in DC? That could help with this.

Gross. I'm a guy and I'd rather eat off a public toilet seat than have sex with a prostitute.

Low T is treatable.

My T is fine, thanks.

Regarding prostitutes, even leaving aside the issue of STDs, if I wanted to have sex with a woman who despises me and is totally uninterested in sex with me, then I wouldn't have gotten divorced.

As it is, I will hold out for sex with a woman who feels desire, affection, and respect for me. She will learn that there's nothing wrong with my T levels, believe me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Bull crap and that is a very narrow, almost misogynistic view of women. I’m a woman and was getting laid within a week of declaring our separation. After years of a sexless marriage, I was ready to go!

Are you reading this thread? Lots of women have responded. You are in the minority (for women).