How long did you go without sex post-separation/divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Like a week after formal separation.

It's easy when your AP is available, eh?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Well the women are busy putting the kids back together while the men f*ck their way through their own pain so your observation makes sense.

I have 50/50 custody and spend most of my evenings and weekends helping kids with homework and taking them to extracurriculars, so your bitter, angry attack on men makes no sense to me. Wish I had time to "f*ck my way through the pain"...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t have any sex while we were separated for about 18 months but I was definitely ready for it. I had befriended another divorced Dad at our gym and one day a flirty conversation about our mutual lack of physical intimacy led us to the back of my SUV. I don’t know what I was thinking but it sure felt good. The relationship didn’t go anywhere and then I went another few months before I met a nice guy I dated for a year.

My husband has been known to say about my divorced GFs - “what she needs is a good screw.” It’s kind of repulsive but there is some truth to it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Well the women are busy putting the kids back together while the men f*ck their way through their own pain so your observation makes sense.

I have 50/50 custody and spend most of my evenings and weekends helping kids with homework and taking them to extracurriculars, so your bitter, angry attack on men makes no sense to me. Wish I had time to "f*ck my way through the pain"...

You’d have to find willing partners, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

It’s not as easy to find a compatible female partner as you think. Remember it takes two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

[Anonymous]

Separated at the beginning of summer and didn't even think about it for a while as I was focused on the kids, schedules, finances, moving, etc.

By Labor Day weekend I was ready to date again. The only good part of divorce has been sleeping with new people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

It’s not as easy to find a compatible female partner as you think. Remember it takes two.

You and PP are saying the exact same thing: men generally want sex, women generally don't.
Ironically though, men are motivated to find it, and generally do so.
Women are not motivated, and so (despite being surrounded with options) go without.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's been over two years. I'm afraid I'll never have sex again.

Attractive female here, I just hit 3 years last week. I don't miss sex as much as I thought I would.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

I would not be DTF with anyone in a bar where women are lifting their skirts. Sounds like STD Central.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

It’s not as easy to find a compatible female partner as you think. Remember it takes two.

I agree. I have long suspected that a lot of men lie about how much sex they are actually getting. The same way they lied in high school is the same way they lie as adults. There is a small population of men who get laid on a regular basis, the rest are lying on their d*cks. Women can get laid whenever they want to, men can not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

It’s not as easy to find a compatible female partner as you think. Remember it takes two.

I agree. I have long suspected that a lot of men lie about how much sex they are actually getting. The same way they lied in high school is the same way they lie as adults. There is a small population of men who get laid on a regular basis, the rest are lying on their d*cks. Women can get laid whenever they want to, men can not.

Maybe women CAN, but they are generally more discerning. Especially if they are already mothers. A $100 purchase from an adult toy store is a surer bet for an O, isn’t going to stalk you, and doesn’t carry an STD or pregnancy risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 days after my wife asked for a separation. There was a woman who would flirt with me and I went for it. Men typically don't wait that long

The unattractive ones don’t have much say in the matter.